Sup /b/, I'm so done begging my wife for sex. It's

You're disgusting and should die.

>>745375414

yeah either communicate with her about how you're feeling, or end it dude

Have you actually talked to her about your desires? Or have you just asked for sex?

>>745375414
M'gentleman *tips fedora*

>>745375552
>Hur dur anyone opposed to cheating is a white knight

>>745375414
stop being a fag

>>745375325
talk to her and figure out why, on both sides of the argument.

>>745375500
>>745375518

We've talked about it many times. I tell her how I feel undesireable because she seems to be 0% attracted to me. I tell her I feel neglected. She doesn't care, and just tries to make me feel bad for having perfectly natural feelings of physical attraction for the person I'm married to. She'll only agree to have sex if I promise to do some sort of shitty chore afterwards.

>>745375728
>Hur dur anyone opposed to cheating is a fag

>>745375740
Then get divorced dumbass

>>745375325
She loves u op she wants u to take care of urself and love urself and help urself and her and be a role model and lead as an example be nice be honest forgive urself help urself op.......

>>745375740
you need couples counseling and your wife has some serious intimacy issues

Start fucking traps. When she finds out she will be too embarrassed to divorce you and will become a cuck.

>>745375740
Tell her if she doesn't wanna have sex that one night you're gonna drug her. Cut her clit and pussy lips off and then stitch them together.

>>745375800
I still love her, I just feel incredible frustrated about it. She hasn't initiated sex EVER in the past two years. She tries to guilt me on the rare occasion I want to have sex or talk about this part of our relationship.

>>745376090
Then get sexy and stop being a flabby bitch. Murder a few people I dunno

>>745375972
I'll see what she thinks about the suggestion, if she says no then fuck it

>>745376019
>>745376084
10/10 suggestions

>>745376262
I'm in great shape. At the gym 5 days a week and eating 10 km runs for breakfast

Not a healthy relationship here, bro. Tell her it's become so much of a problem for you that you want to go to counseling. If she refuses, tell her it's that or a divorce. If you don't have kids I cut my losses on this one. If she won't even meet you halfway now, this will get worse and worse every year.

>>745375740

> Being this retarded


How could you marry someone who has such a drastically different sex drive than you if it's this much of a problem for you?

>>745376530
One kid now, just under a year old. I thought it was just her pregnancy at first, but here we are. Our kid is great and sleeps through the night, and I get up with him early so she can get an extra hour sleep every morning. So it's sure as fuck not that she's tired.

>>745376690
In all the years up to our wedding we were doing it usually once a day

>>745376878

Did she want a kid, anon?

>>745375325

Get a piece on the side. Let the feelings of guilt or whatever just slide in the ether.

I couldn't be bothered with a bit on the side in the end and just made a clean break of it. Me and the ex are still on good terms and I've got a new lass in my life.

All depends on how bad shit is.

>>745377046
Yes, we both did. And we want more. Good thing we never have sex so if we split there's no chance of fucking up any more kids.

>>745377050
Solid advice anon. But maybe I think it's good advice because this is what I want to hear

>>745375325
You should consider couples counseling or doing more things around the house or surprises. The latter two usually make the panties drop.

> It's been almost two years since we were married
End it.

>>745378701
Trust me, I've done a fair share of surprises. There's appreciation there, but no action.

>>745378964
I don't know if this is what I want. I'm definitely not making any more kids until then. Not that we have sex enough to even make another child

>>745375325
>>745375740
>>745376090
>>745376690
>>745376878
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>>745379461

>this is what happens when you marry at an early age, kids

>>745375740

dude, same with my long term girlfriend. I am very reluctant to marry her based on this.

Exact same thing. I feel undesirable to her (even though I know I am desirable as there are other girls that hint this to me) and she constantly says "I do want you." and I say "then why do you turn me down any time I try to be romantic with you?" and I get some convoluted answer.

I'm not gonna marry a girl that doesn't want me sexually, so I feel your pain already being married. Godspeed anon.

>>745375414
m'edgelord

>>745375740
Get her off of BC right now.
BC FUCKING KILLS her sex drive. Just murders it.

>>745379699
not OP, but this is something that i've experienced more than once with girls. however, i've been the one that makes my girlfriend feel undesirable. i've thought about it and i think it's due to the fact that you and your partner most likely won't have the same sexual drive or urges 100% of the time. saying "not right now" to your partner's sexual advances is easily interpreted as hurtful. even though you might think it's a one-time occurrence, the fact that it even occurred once can prompt your partner to have feelings of being undesirable, which is what you are feeling, OP (and person i quoted).

from the POV of the person rejecting: i had only the best intentions when rejecting my partner's sexual advances. despite this, i felt guilty when doing it because i knew that it hurt them. they were unable to communicate with me effectively in future instances, and i was put into a position of "sexual power" (meaning that I was the one that had the final say in whether or not we had sex most of the time). i didn't meant to put myself in that position, but it happened anyway. i continued to feel guilty whenever sex would come up and i didn't feel like having it, and my partner didn't make me feel like it was okay for me to say no. resentful feelings built up in both of us, and that just complicated the issue.

this might be what's happened in your relationship, OP. you're on the right track with seeking some sort of relationship counseling; i do think that effective communication is able to fix your problem.

or, you know, you could just dump this immature bitch

I have had many affairs. I love my wife very very much. She's a great woman. I've never mentally cheated on her, always just strictly physical.

Get some action on the side. Pro tip. Find married woman that also want something on the side

>>745379461
How long have you been together total?
If it's been four years or more, it's over. She's no longer interested, and not because of anything you have or haven't done, but because of the nature of women.

Biology has wired women to want a different man after about four years of exclusivity. Even if they say they're completely happy with their man. Even if their man is attractive, good in bed, makes a pile of cash, or whatever.
It's nothing to do with you. Apparently it's monogamy itself that causes this. Women who aren't in monogamous relationships don't experience this, and researchers either don't know why, or don't want to admit they do for whatever reason.

>>745379646
True

>>745379699
Follow your instincts anon, if you know somethings up don't get tied down.

>>745381139
I cheat emotionally all the time. I love having girls fawn over me.

>>745381139
>thinking that women will differentiate between cheating mentally and cheating physically
>implying you would want to be cheated on physically

nigger what are you doing?

>pro tip: find a woman that's okay with your sexual urges and whose sexual urges you are okay with

>>745381306
It's been 6 years together, married for 2. That's funny, her sex drive nosedived after 4 years exactly.

>>745381422
Then you know what you must do.
This will not get better, and you need to know that.

>>745375325
>Begging

Dude, she's your wife. She's your property, you can do what you want with her.

>>745381673
Thanks anon, I think I needed to be told this tbh

>>745381673
>>745381893

don't listen to this guy yet.

if you have kids and if you think it's worth at least another shot, talk about marriage/relationship counseling first. if she is opposed to it or EXTREMELY reluctant, then this is obviously the only course of action

>>745382226
>counseling
Go right ahead, but only if spending money and time to accomplish absolutely nothing is something that sounds attractive to you.
It does not help people who do not want to change; nothing can.
And if OP really has been as honest as he say he has here, all counseling will do is tell him things he already knows right now.

In OP's case, it should only be resorted to if a court orders it before filing for divorce.

>>745380786

Quoted anon here: I have tried to give her plenty of sexual space, mentally say "Okay, I'll stop pushing it and let her decide when she's ready, let her get comfortable, etc" She takes this as a "oh good he's not horny any more, no need for sex" and just never makes a move. I've tried everything in the book. Being romantic, being sexy (maintaining my body, etc), being flirty, gifts, compliments, tried laying off and giving her space, tried suggesting we do new things in new places, EVERYTHING. She just doesn't bite and she makes no indications that she even "appreciates everything, but it's just not the right time." I communicate so fucking much its unreal, she just doesn't give a shit.

>>745375325
fuck her sister or mom. 60% of the time it works every time

>>745383196
Exactly

>>745383201
Both are hot as fuck, I wouldn't mind

>>745383350
Then do it pussy. Take pictures and have them served to her with the divorce papers.

>>745383665
great way to lose half or more

>>745384075
2 years is not enough time to really get anything.