Am I fucked? Almost 30 years old and never had a stable job.

>>745045893
sounds like the start of a really nice porno

>>745045893
Nut the fuck up. Unless your just a complete dumbass, incompetent and disabled there is no way to not be half ass successful. I have a GED no college credits and pull in 6 figures a year. Get out there learn a USEFUL trade and make your family proud. If not they will hate you. Or you know join the military if it's your only option.

>>745046114
Can't join the military. There's an age limit. Also I am disabled. But thanks for the advice. I'll be sure to "nut up"

>>745046227
If we want to throw the disabled card around so am I! I am legally allowed to collect social security but guess what I work! And work my ass off! You have obviously been working so its not that big of a problem. Bitching about it won't fix your problem. You won't for one minute hear m tell you that your fucked! You have people relying on you. You have to be a man and do something about it

>>745046531
So just nut up and be a man? Okay, when my landlord comes over today and says where's my money? I'll just say it's okay I'm nutting up now. When my family is faced with homelessness I'll tell them "It's okay you guys, I'm going to be a man now!" That's great advice bro. Thanks.

>>745045893
I've never understood why people who can barely support themselves keep having children.

>>745046757
well, what does your wife look like? maybe you and your wife can make an arrangement with your landlord. i'll do anything before i allow my family to become homeless

>>745046757
Shut the fuck up you failed nigger where do you think you came for advice
Enjoy being homeless and eating rotting food from dumpsters bye

Suck dick for meth and sell it for money. Or just suck dick for money.

>>745046757
No you have failed that one already. But again that gives you the right to just give up all together? Nope. You figure it the fuck out. You apparently gave up a month ago when you lost your job. What have you been doing to make sure that you still provided a roof of your families head? So keep making up excuses and not taking advice. You have had the time and power to do something about it but you didn't. So now your in a shit situation. Fix it or don't. Myself nor anyone else here gives a fuck what you do. You asked if your fucked and I still say no, you just need to fix it.

looking for a permanent solution to your temporary problem(s)?

kill yourself

convince your wife to fuck the landlord. that should buy you a month's rent or more.

Well he killed himself lol

>>745047503
still here. i guess starting this thread was an invitation for idiots who have no idea what my situation is like to come and make absurd assumptions and pass judgments and call it advice. Don't mean to come across unappreciative. Honestly I had no expectations and I was still let down. People are pretty shitty.

>>745047627
tell your wife to move in with her parents. as for you. you do you.

>>745045893
Is this real? Story, not the bazongas.

>>745046531
Yeah I can collect too but don't and work instead but you're a shit dick nigger ass bitch retard fuck cunt. Go die in a fire faggot.

>>745047812
>shit dick nigger ass bitch retard fuck cunt

>>745045893
>Just lost my last job last month
How? Why?

>>745047777
yep

>>745047812
good for you bro.

>>745047627
Well then tell us your situation. How did you lose your job?

>>745045893
Maybe you shouldn't have had 3 kids then? Maybe you should have focused on getting that stable job before spawning more mouths to feed for no good reason? Maybe, just maybe, you should have looked into birth control methods, of which there is an abundance to pick from. It sounds to me like you brought all this on yourself, hence you are unlikely to receive any pity from anybody. Threads like this really make me feel better, because they remind me that even though I'm a failure, much like yourself, op, at least I am my own failure, I am ruining just my own life.

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>>745047895
This happened to me because my gfs house mates thought i murdered someone and left them in a field.

Your preggo gf, goes to her mums or your mums, whichever is better for the kid. No two ways about it.

What are your short term goals? What do you need? What are you gonna do? What do you need?

>>745047870
It was a work from home job. I have to work from home because of my disability. Companies who emplo work from home employees pay minimum wage because "you can work in your pajamas". I was supporting a family of four on minimum wage. After I paid rent and utilities I didn't have enough to pay my internet. Internet company sent me a statement that read - $101.28 - Due Date 08/15. They shut my internet off on 08/07 because $50 of that 100 was for 07/15-08/15. They said they sent me a bill telling me it would be shut off but somehow I didn't get it. The statement I was basing my bills off of was contrary to what they told me when they shut it off and that statement was sent AFTER this bill that was supposed to tell me it was being shut off that I somehow never got. The said fuck you not our problem and wouldnt turn it back on until full payment was made which would have to be my next paycheck twelve days later. I told my supervisor what was happening and she said it was fine just call in everyday. The next day my phone was shut off so I couldn't call in. We just moved to this town far from any friends or family that would let us use their phone or internet. They fired me for attendance and then told the state I quit without notice when I tried to file for unemployment. Still haven't heard any call backs from anyone I've applied for.

>>745045893
Hmm. Well, you've already tried voting for Trump.

>>745045893

>>745046757

Yeah you nut the fuck up.

Legally the landlord can demand the money. And threaten eviction.

Your options.

1.) try to be nice and ask for more time, you have 2 kids and a pregnant wife, it might work.

2.) if he says no and says you need to get out. Then guess what? You say sorry you can't do that to your family and ur going to try to get the money as soon as you can. And politely close the door.

The process of eviction can vary from 2-3 months at the fastest in some states to go through the legal process or it can even take up to a year in other states.

This is enough time to figure ur shit together. Either get a job, sell blood, cum, ur body, rob people.

If it DOES come down to eviction save up all ur money, don't pay anymore rent. Don't pay the utility bill that controls the heat when it's winter either, they legally can't shut it off cause it can endanger people and they will be liable.

At the end of the day, you have time to figure ur shit.

Yes eviction will fuck with ur credit, and limit ur apartment options. But whatever, lots of non legal apartment options that people rent out that don't check credit scores cause they are trusting idiots.

>>745048077
I'm glad that makes you feel better about yourself. Honestly I am. I don't regret having kids and I never will. I take full ownership for my failures and I didn't come here looking for pity.

>>745048309
$100 internet charge without 5 warning letters, this has bullshit sprayed all over it like i took a left into an abattoir instead 15minute car wash.


>if real
>UNSTABLE JOB WITH MULTIPLE DEPENDENTS
>NEXT JOB IS A LOW LEVEL DRUG DEALER, FUCKING DADDY IS A ROADMAN

>>745048565
This guy, even though im killing it and was genuinely gonna help this fuck out if he wasn't a 10 year old negotiator. $100 internet hahahhahahahahaahhahaha $452 broken yankee candle too?

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>>745048596
give me a minute and ill post a pic of the bill. it's pioneer communications. it will take me a minute to edit out all my personal info. all this weight bearing down on me is nothing compared to the need for your approval.

>>745045893
Enjoy raising your kid from a dumpster you sorry fucking piece of shit. I only feel sorry for the kid because it doesn't have a choice. You and your sorry fucking wife deserve everything you get. Just give the kid up for adoption so it won't live in your fucking failures for the rest of its life. Also OP is a faggot

>>745048758
Like i said ive been there before. But i didnt beg on a message board. I grabbed my phone and BMX, took a dark route for dark times. Tick tick tick.

>>745049083
I'm not begging for anything. Again your'e making broad assumptions.

>>745048531
in the state of kansas tenants are only given 10 days to pay or leave.

>>745049144
If we are making assumptions it's because you aren't being very clear.

>>745047627
> coming to /b/ for advice

>>745049461
that's fair. I don't know what I wanted to be honest. You do things that have very small chances of success when you feel hopeless. Talking about it helps.

>>745049597
not necessarily for advice or to beg. just to cover all my bases and make sure theres not some miracle solution I hadn't thought of yet.

>>745049705
What is your disability?

>>745049615
Well to be fair have you considered trying to find a camper or SUV or old bus. I mean you can live out of a small house as long as you are together right. Also if you are short on cash try to work the gunshot racket.

>>745048309
What is your disability? If you can work at a desk from home you can just as easily work at a desk in an office. All I see

>>745045893
It seems the landlord is gonna fuck your wife in exchange for the rent

>>745048309
what is your disability?

If it is some douchy asperger-autism-cantdealwithpeople shtit. OR anything less than full blown legless spina bifida tier wheelchair fucked upness.... the answer is:

Man. The. Fuck. Up.

also: post moar big titty pics from your disconnected inturwebs

>>745045893
strt doing cam shows with your wife. just pute a facemask on her and fuck her in front of people for money. maybe sell her nudz too people buy this shit. if she is anything decent and not a fucking rat

>>745049805
>>745049891
I have PTSD. It gives me intense anxiety in social situations and especially when developing relationships with people (coworkers). It's basically an irrational fear of people. Eye contact makes my skin crawl. Even home alone I have anxiety a lot of the time.

Before I get all the fools who are going to try to invalidate me I just want to say this - you have no idea what it's like. The simplest thing that wouldn't be a challenge to anyone is to me. No one will ever be able to convince me I didn't try my hardest to overcome this. I've dealt with it and tried to adapt to it for my entire adult life.

Multiple people have asked for what the disability is. Op is gone or refuses to state that he is just autistic. Fucking stop bitching.

Is there any family members you can temporarily move in with?

>>745050254
The closest are 17 hour drive away but we will probably end up asking them if they can take my wife and kids. They live paycheck to paycheck so im not sure how well its going to work out. but that seems to be our best solution for now.

>>745049829
we don't have a vehicle or a way to get one.

>>745050218
stillthere is plenty you can do that has none or minimal interaction with people.

>manual labor in factories and agriculture
>cleaning offices/hotels
>garbage truck
>postal/package delivery

If you REALLY want, you can start making money today!

>>745050218
I'll be as nice as possible about this situation. I am what is considered medically retired from the military. With what they labeled as extremely severe PTSD. Have been placed in a mental ward on two separate occasions and have been dosed with every medication possible. And to this fucking day I do over seas work! Not because I enjoy but because it's the trade I know and because I have a family to support! You literally have no fucking excuse to not take your lazy autistic ass and work in a fucking office somewhere go take your bullshit somewhere else!

>>745046227
Pathetic, lazy faggots always have an excuse. Fuck your disability, and funky you. Life is hard, congrats on teaching that to your kids so effectively. Learn to work, HARD, nut the fuck up, or eat a bullet so your family doesn't have to cope with your stupid self centered shit. 40 year old with 3 kids, raising them by my fucking self with NO FUCKING HELP and doing just fine reporting.

>>745050514
I know it seems that way and I've tried that route. I worked as a sheetmetal mechanic for a long time. I never held a job for longer than a year. Most of the time it was less than 6 months at one place. I made good money and wanted it to work more than anything. I know it's hard to understand, it is for me too. But it just doesnt work out. It's not laziness or unwillingness to work or an issue with my personality. I work as hard as anyone. You have no idea what its like

>>745050799
They sure fucking do. It's the shit fucking culture that we live in.

>>745045893
When he comes over just show him these dubs

>>745050583
>>745050799
>>745050866
You don't have a clue what I've been through and what it takes for me to make it through one single day. People like to point out how week others are when they fail so they feel stronger and better adjusted than that other guy. But honestly you have no clue what youre talking about. As for the guy with PTSD, you have gone through something difficult to overcome so that gives you the right to criticize others who are struggling? Your past has left you with contempt for others with disabilities as opposed to understanding?

>>745051106
If real, wrong place mate. Show me the docus i might help you out. Gonna need some burner emails and im gonna need to log in yo your online pay section.

You're fucked dude. Quit and re-roll.

>>745051346
I appreciate the offer, I really do. But I'm not begging or looking for help or pity. It just seemed like a possible place for someone to suggest an idea for me to help myself. Contrary to all these accusations that I don't want to take care of myself or my family, there's nothing I want more.

>>745051106
No I understand that's what you don't get. I also understand that while it's something that I will always live with it is not something that will determine who I am! You may not like the way I come off or think I am oh so harsh and think I'm better then you but that isn't the case what I'm am trying to get across to you is that while you sit there and let something take root and control your very existence you have people that are fucking relying on you!!! It is something that will never go the fuck away. Something that can be manageable one day and out right fucking scary others but to let it determine who you are and be okay with that, you have given up on yourself a long time ago! I'll put it a way that made me take a step back and really look. Isn't it a little crazy that your mind can take something small and turn your thoughts(something that isn't physical) into physical symptoms. Sweaty palms, uncontrollable shakes, extreme heart rate, tunnel vision, all the things you physically feel when you become overwhelmed all happen because of a though, a mental condition. Your brain can take something non physical and turn it into actual physical symptoms. And then you let it run rampant. If your mind can do all that with a bad thought what can your mind do with a good thought. With good things. With you being able to step back breathe and take control if only for a second. Because as you know it only takes a second for all those physical things to hit you. What would happen if you felt in control. You have the ability, you have the strength to take control. No not everytime like I said trust me I know, but every now and again you can take control only for a second.

>>745046227
Army will waiver that shit. My uncle got in at 40

How does your wife look like? Pics of her anon. Well it's only going to get worse from here on out. Anyway to contact your parents?

>>745051723
I really appreciate your post. But what you're talking about is coping with the anxiety. And that is very important don't get me wrong I fully receive your advice. But your'e still making assumptions that I haven't already been there. I've spoken with doctors, church leaders, therapists (one extremely good one), psychiatrists. I've done the exercises, the meditation, affirmations, the self help books, prayer... I've been struggling with coping for about 10 years now. I have a long long list of employment history that has proven to me time and time again that no matter how hard you try the "nut up, be a man" mentality, or any other coping technique that I've been educated on by countless professionals, is going to make this manageable. As much as you all would like to invalidate this disability, there's nothing I haven't tried to work with it. To make the best of my situation. To get a handle on life. I have gone through more than a lot of people will ever understand but I've never once considered giving up. What I don't feel like you understand is that you're all looking at this from step one, which is "man up" deal with it. I'm a lot further in the process than that.

>>745045893
get your wife to make livechats where people have to pay money for her to do something

>>745045893
Apprentice for a trade. It will be hard because of your age but it is doable.

>>745046227
every branch will take a 30 year old. its a very good option for yourself. we had 33 year olds at my BCT

>>745045893
maybe a little less time posting on b/ and a little more time providing for your family?

>>745046955
Yeah this is worth a shot. I mean I would do anything to protect and look after my child even if it means asking my wife to fuck someone else.

>>745050218
>I have PTSD
>Never served in the military
Yeah nah you're just a wuss.

>>745046936
Cause they make bad decisions... one of them being chicks that dont know or cant afford birth control. Probably mexicans.

>>745052779
>>745052779
I have a trade. I'm a sheetmetal mechanic.

>>745052824
when i spoke with a navy recruiter when i was 27 he told me there was a cut off age and i wouldnt be able to pass the tests because of my PTSD. I would consider it if they treated the anxiety through basic training but i dont think they do.

>>745052882
ive spent the last month doing nothing but applying for jobs and any kind of assistance i can think of. I've been denied everything. this isn't productive i agree but it's nice to talk about it

>>745047627
Did you want a handout. Im actually happy u will be homeless. I bought sooooo much weed im gonna smoke all day in my house. Have fun on the streets with ur homeless family.

>>745047627
Whats the difference between a large pizza and OP? A large pizza can feed a family of 4.

>>745053164
see
>>745051499

enjoy the weed bro

>>745053077
were white. I won't feel guilty for having kids. I love them and were better parents than my parents were. If we struggle financially throughout our life the kids will still be happy and healthy because they live in a loving home. Some would prefer that to a comfortable life with abusive parents.

>>745048565
I disagree. After reading up to this response I think you have come here for pity. There's plenty of valuable advice. The best of which is, STOP GETTING YOUR FUCKING WIFE PREGNANT IF YOU CAN'T AFFORD THE KIDS YOU ALREADY HAVE FAGGOT.

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>>745052903
>Hey /b/ lets negative advertisement this

rainbowwatch.anpmech.com

>>745053386
if I come across as looking for pity then maybe I am. But it's definitely not intentionally. and we will decide how many kids we want.

>>745050218
Fucking cop out. If this isn't bait it's a shitty excuse to be lazy. I don't feel bad for you. I feel bad for your kids.
Coming from a fellow severe PTSDer who works third shift making 85k.
Grow the fuck up and support your family.

>>745053157
thats the navy there is also army and airforce

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>>745053375
I mean yeah but...you can have a stable AND comfortable life too. It's not like poor people are the only people who have good family relationships lmao

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>>745051723
I'm not OP but as a guy who has schizophrenia I really hope you were addressing PTSD and not all mental illness as a whole, because if you were, you have no right to tell me I can just "turn it off", people who has had my conditions were tortured , locked up and lobotomized.

I guess you can say what you said triggered me, and I'm being salty about it. But I've met people who claimed "mental illness doesn't exist" and it blows my schizophrenic mind I have literal proof I have this condition.

If you were not saying that at all, disregard everything I'm saying please and accept this pic as an apology

>>745053837
i didnt say poor people say poor people are the only one who have good relationships. That's not even close to what i was addressing.

This thread is the reason I fucking hate 4chan. There's just a bunch of people spewing so much shit you'd think their asshole and mouth switched place.Yet I keep coming here for some reason.

Anyways, I understand that things are looking bad. It's good that you are owning up to the problems.

Regarding the money problem, there must be something you are good at, for example, computers if you work a lot at one. You could help them out with tech problems for a much smaller fee than an established company.

There are hundreds of side hustling ideas for you. Get out there and make ends meet for your kids.

Stop having kids would be a first good choice

>>745053497
Okay let's put it mathematically...
Joe has 2 kids
Each kid requires 3 meals a day
Joe can barely afford 8 meals a day
So his kids get 6 meals and he/his wife suffer and get one per day
Then Joe knocks his wife up again
Needs an additional 3 meals per day
Needs a total of 11 meals minimum but can only afford the 8
Joe makes everyone suffer because Joe won't take responcibility for his actions, which will likely cause his kids to think they don't need to take responcibility either.
Joe not only fucked up his life, but his kids lives, and his grandkids lives.
Good job joe

>>745054017
That's what I'm looking into right now actually. I just enrolled in a free fundamental programming language course and I've built computers before. But the problem is, I have no work experience on my resume and since each entry level position has 300 other applicants they don't even have to bother giving me a chance.

>>745054172
Fucking lie on your resume like everyone else. Stop with the excuses jesus christ

At least put the kids in adoption so they can do better and not be dragged through your shit

I'm glad I'm going to uni and have a job lined up when I graduate in the summer. Also glad I know how to use a condom. Kids take this guy as a lesson.

>>745054256
Not op but lying on your resume is extremely risky, if they catch him he's back to square one and can't even use them as a reference because they will tell the potential new employer about why he was terminated.

>>745054284
Condoms break anon

>>745054137
my kids watch me work hard everyday. passing on successful virtues to my kids is very important to me and i think about it all the time.

>>745054256
being honest isn't an excuse.

>>745054284
well im genuinely glad things are going well for you. i dont resent others who are successful. but if there's something that people can learn from my situation is that were not all on a level playing field. which of course is going to be flagged as an excuse.

>>745047627
What's shitty is what you're doing to children. Great role model. I'm sure they'll be successful looking up to you.

>>745047627
What do you expect people to say? You being a fucking lazy loser is a fact, your disability is irrevelant bc you have held down jobs. This is all YOUR fault. Starting today, man the fuck up and find another job.

>>745047812

If it's a stupid disability like depression or anxiety/anything mental, you can fuck right off. Everyone would be on disability in that case

Look into janitorial positions OP. Most times you go in after everyone is gone and just have to do a basic job of cleaning stuff up. Consider looking for code-monkey shit somewhere too: your PTSD is either going to ruin your family or you're going to have to find a way to cope with it.

>>745054715
Im not lazy though. That's an excuse to evade validating mental illness. I've worked to fix this problem tirelessly for a long long time. I haven't held down jobs. I've never worked anywhere more than a year. If i had to guess I've had maybe 25 jobs in 10 years. I've been doing nothing but trying to get a new job for the last month

>>745054648
As someone who has disability checks coming in every month, people get pissed off beyond belief about it. But you know what? I don't care how they feel. There is no field, and nothing in life is fair. If someone can be born into a successful and rich family but didn't have to earn it, I feel no remorse having that very system assist me for a 1% value of that said company is worth.

It's amazing how people will luck the ones who suffer, but when it comes to the elite rich who were born with silver spoons in their mouths and has the resources to launch into a even further success in life because they won the genetics lotto I don't feel bad at all. In a way, I won my own lotto.

Life isn't about virtue or pride or even honor. It is what is has and always be about: survival. I saw the cards that were dealt to me and made it benefit and assist me to ensure survival.

>>745054648
My family came from Mexico, they lived in literal huts. I was born in a border town and grew up poor as fuck. We had one outfit we wore to school and ate pork and beans pretty much every day. I busted my ass to earn scholarships just to have lazy fucks say it's because of affirmative action. My parents learned to speak English on their own and held jobs even before they could speak it fluently. Now they both are business owners and have become citizens. Everybody has the ability to change their life. It's nobody's fault but your own if you are unhappy with the way things turned out.

>>745054846
very true and good advice. thank you. I'll look into janitorial positions also.

>>745055106
thats amazing congratulations! but no two situations are alike. you can't compare your story to mine and tell me im not doing good enough. I am continuously trying to improve myself and treat and cope with my disability. It's easy to say its my fault and I've accepted that it is but that doesn't help me overcome anything.

>>745052379

You're truly are a very weak person. As someone diagnosed with severe ptsd, you are quiter. It's like how some women who are violently raped overcome and adapt and push forward with their lives, while others in the same situation are constant victims for life having panic attacks every hour. Weak people exist and you're one of them unfortunately. Too bad for your family bc they will suffer now

>>745055332
thats something I've considered for a long time. I hope it's not true (and you or anyone else is not going to convince me that it is) but I'm not a quiter. I have felt hopeless countless times and brought myself out of it every time. I've gone through trials most people never have to and I'm still here. I won't ever quit trying to overcome this. I'm more than this PTSD and I'll find a way someday. It just hasn't happened yet.

>>745046757
I mean with your mentality, the manliest thing for you to do is throw your kids in a group home until your wife finds a chad who can hold a job. I hope your kids grow up to resent you, you absolute fucking retard.

>>745056444
>The manliest thing.

Said the guy from behind his computer. Go eat some more doritos.

>>745045893
why do you want to work in the stables so much? fan of horse cock?

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>>745047513

why a pic of girls with big tits ? do you want to clic in this thread ?