How break up with gf /b/? Long story short I ended up in a relationship

>>734693181
You're a fucking moron. Office chick's clearly a bimbo who's gonna laugh at your dick and be on her merry way and you want to dump your best friend for that? Goddamn idiot.

>>734693425
this.
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>>734693425
yup this. its not worth it OP

>>734693425
Agreed.
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>>734693425
That's probably true I'm a little worrisome of her slutness level, I know she had a boyfriend and she didn't start making advances toward me until she actually broke up with him.

But my problem is im not in love with my girlfriend, I love her as a friend and made the mistake of telling her I wanted more then just friendship because I was confused at the time. She's planning our life together and I simply don't want that to be honest, I haven't told her straight up because I do care for her and seeing her so torn up would break my heart.

>>734693817
Okay, but what makes you think you don't love her anymore? You think being in a good relationship means you constantly have butterflies in your stomach?

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>>734694041
That's the thing nigga I don't have butterflies, I'm young and inexperienced (not 13 young) but know when I'm in love because I've felt in love before, Mexican girl at work gives me goosebumps and my heart races, girlfriend atm has never made me feel emotions deeper then a friend, trust me, we've been togeather 5 months now and I've tried so hard to see her as more, but I just can't. She has the best personality I've ever met, honestly /b/ would love her, but I'm simply not attracted.

>>734694041
Basically do I sacrifice my own happiness to live a life I don't won't to full of "what ifs" or do I break things off and lose all contact with the person who's had the most influence on me as a person

There's no real right way to do this so what you should do is sabotage it. But in a decent way, not fuck her over. Not something that makes you look stupid either. Find what she can't stand that you have a firm stance on and use this to cause fights

>>734694919
noted

So far I've been trying this with close success tonight but things didn't go to plan and she ended up "forgiving me"

>>734695137
You have to keep them coming and make her think that you guys aren't what she was imagining

>>734693181
Gotta be honest. I don't think you deserve the "best friend". Not trying to be a dick, but if you're honestly thinking of cheating on her, then you shouldn't be in a relationship with her. Your heart isn't in it, so you're just leading her (and her family) on at this point.

Yes the Mexican chick would turn out to be a short term fling. But the fact you're actually considering it (given that you said she was the one who won't get it on with someone who's in a relationship), means you've already given up on the best friend.

Man up, and break up. As for how, just say it. Tell her that it simply isn't working out for you. That you aren't invested in the relationship like you once were. That continuing the relationship would be a disservice to the both of you, and you don't want to lead her on any longer. Just be honest anon.

>>734693181
You should do her a favor, tell her the truth about you being an asshole so she can move on with her life and get a better person. You want to fuck around on her, are already trying to cheat on her - just prove you're a dick and break up before you do a lot more shit.

>>734694545
Man, what you feel for office flirt is lust. That's not love. You're a moron.

>>734695217
I've tried, she acts like she doesn't need me, but we both know she does, and in the end basically begs me.

The biggest things that have fights are
>finding pron on my phone
>forgetting simple task she ask me to do
>not requesting days off for shit we have planned
These are all bulletproof to cause an argument.

>>734695137
That's the lamest way to break up.
Whoever you choose, you dont get to go through life without regret.

>>734695619
Stop trying to take the pussy way out. Just tell her it's over. Act like a man not a sniveling little twat.

all honesty? there is no right way.

i had dated a guy who was like that but when he brought it up, i told him if she was worth it to go after her. he said yes. i let go.

i mean, at that point, it's not about asking permission... it's about deciding if what you want is worth burning a bridge.

>>734693181
>"...best friend for two years..."

you don't create that kind of relationship with just 2 years, it take much more to call it best friend

>>734695374
Thanks anon, that was probably the most straight up answer yet, I'll honestly take that to heart. It's just hard because I want her in my life, not as a partner, but as a friend. Breaking up would surely end any relationship whatsoever.

>>734695537
I haven't done anything yet, but I won't deny I'm a sack of shit.

>>734695576
That's probably true, but if I was in love I feel like I'd atleast think about it before I cheated, of Mexican girl told me to meet her after work, I probably would. I know I'm a piece of shit, and I know my girlfriend doesn't deserve me, but I'm the only person she has in her life and she's the only one in mine, I just wished I was in love with her

>>734695970
People throw such terms around so loosely anymore. Every acquaintance is a "friend", and every friend is a "best friend" to a lot of people it seems.

you just to fuck a mexican slut, you dont love the slut you just want to fuck her, have some good sex with your girl and that will pass, also get another job

im going through a similar situation with my boyfriend.
i say break it off.
the only reason i havn't done it is because, i am also a big fucking pussy.

your situation sounds much more challenging because of your history together...

just picture your girlfriend reading your posts, your truth, on this thread. would you deny your feelings and apologize for your truth?

>>734696175
you are just a fucking trash that dont even have a real friend if you say this, just die already

>>734695669
Words of wisdom anon

>>734695916
I'd rather see her mad and leaving then with a eyes full of tears and leaving, I care for her deeply and only want the best, this clearly doesn't involve me in her lifestyle.

You know how many times she's asked "you'll never leave me?" And "you'll love me forever?" And how many times I've lied to her, all that shit will haunt me when I tell her "it's just not working out"

I'm scared anon.

Don't break up with your girl for pussy. Tell your girl the situation straight up, fux the other one and keep your girl. If your girl does not accept, tell her you won't and do it anyway. But this curvy mexichick won't bring you the happiness you think it will... just saying

>>734693181
you son of a bitch!
stay with your friend girl and leave the mexican alone
you fucking pervert
you can choose who fuck and im here all virgin
fuck off you cunt

>>734695970
She's gone through a lot of hardships and I was always there for her, we've smoked togeather, done all sorts of drugs togeather, walked around all night togeather, been arrested togeather, it's just all the little things that brought us into such a tight friendship.

She choose me over spending time with her other boyfriend simply because she enjoyed my company better.

>>734696095
Yeah it will probably end the friendship. That's an unfortunate, but necessary, price you may have to pay. There's a small chance of a friendship, but that isn't likely, and usually happens years down the road after you've both moved on. Don't expect it, and just worry about moving on. What happens beyond that concern is something you have essentially no control over.

>>734693181
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>>734696416
I think I've only stayed with my girlfriend this long is because nothings really happens drastically in our lives, but now she's putting our life togeather and I'm asking myself "do I want to spend my life with her?" And so far I've always come to the same conclusion, no

>>734693425
This so fucking hard. Op honestly doesn't deserve his gf, he dumps his best friend the moment he gets horny for some work bimbo

>>734695970
I disagree. I had a best friend in high school, the only one I would ever call a best friend, we only had one and half years together but I loved him as a friend, and he changed my life, changed who I was and to this day I still miss him, the only person I have ever cared about more is my husband.

>>734696805
But does ur current gf make you a better person or not? Do you feel strong because of her? If she does respect her, that's hard to find...

>>734696837
Exactly

>>734696345
If you care about her, you'd stop lying. You wouldn't be looking for ways to manipulate her into doing what you're too afraid to do. It's not that you care about her, it's as you said, fear. You're afraid of being the "bad guy". Well leading her on, or trying to manipulate her IS being the bad guy.

There is no perfect solution. But if you want to come out of this with any shred of dignity, then man up and be honest. Break it off with her.

Facing your fear, and being willing to do the right thing, even if it makes you look like an asshole, is part of being an adult.

Fuck all these faggots . Go to the tight hot Mexican pussy. You've already stated you don't to be with your girlfriend . Don't be a pussy, faggot

>>734696837
I think work bimbo really made me think about me relationship, so far I've played along with it, but in the end I'm simply happy.

>>734697128
She's smart and I feel like she's very special, she glows anon she really does. She's unique, smart, witty and always knows exactly what to say. It's almost like everything she does can't go wrong, in a way I feel like she runs off on me in a good way. I feel like I wouldn't be the same person I was if I didn't meet her, and I mean that in a postive way.

On the other hand I feel like I still have growing and exploring to do with myself, she knows who she is and what she wants in life and I don't.

I'm sorry

>>734697372
You are incredibly naive.

>>734696095
I'm this fag >>734695576

Look, man. I'll only say this. I started dating my best friend a month ago. We had stifled feelings for quite a while. It's only been a month and have had sex once. Do I still feel this jump in my heart every time I talk to her? No. Of course I don't. You're not supposed to either. Love isn't a feeling of lust or infatuation. It's in being honest, open, sharing with that best friend everything about yourself, seeking advice from them and giving it when they want it from you. Being there for one another and doing what you can to make their life easier and they do the same for you. That's what love is. Clearly, you're far too immature to understand this fact. You need to do this girl a favor and cut her loose because all you're going to cause her is pain. Grow up, kiddo. The world isn't about good curves and big tits. It's about patience, understanding, and kindness for bullshit like yours.

>>734696345
Im wrestling the same questions anon. 3 years relations and im losing intrest. Women want that absolute certainty for ever from you as if your own interests or lusts aren't subject to change. Push through to the next one, have certainty in that you'll get what you deserve. You only have one life.
Get ready for the tears tho, my gf cries over everything so im used to it

>>734697372
I have to disagree with you on that anon, I know with whatever heart I have I truly care for her, I put her well being above my own, but in a way I don't. I don't know why I lie to her, I think it's because I want her to be happy and for her to feel comfort with my lies, I'm sacrificing my happiness for hers.

I keep lying and I'm well beyond the point where it phases me to lie, but if she found out if I was lying I'd know it would all come back and hit me in the face.

I'll admit though coming out straight would be the best way to do it.

>>734697607
Ok give a non nude pic of your girl and I will be 100% honest

>>734697607
It's great that she's positively influenced your life. But if you continue on like this, you'll end up dragging her down. Do you really want to do that to her?

You sound like you have some growing to do. So get to it. Whether you have a fling with the Mexibimbo is irrelevant. Break it off with the girlfriend, then go figure out who you really are. She knows who she is, and she'll be fine without you. Honestly she'll be better off without you. You just need to find your own path, which happens to be separate from hers.

Stupid fuck

>>734693181
I'm in the same situation as you. She's not my best friend but i just don't feel the same way about her anymore. It's tough, but I'm just waiting on a good moment to break up with her. I don't want to lose friendship with her but I'm not concerning myself with that possibility because I know it wouldn't be my fault if she stopped talking to me altogether unless i was a real dick in breaking up with her. If she gets salty and stops being my friend then so be it.

OP you are honestly fucking dumb. Love isn't about being attracted to someone. That's called lust. Love is finding your best friend, bonding with them, and staying by their side no matter what...fuck this other bitch, stay with your loyal girl.

>>734698288
You want her to be happy, but all you're giving her is an illusion. And it's one that you won't be able to maintain. If you think it's difficult now, see how it is five years from now. Just be honest. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but nothing so bitter as it'll become if you let this fester for years to come.

>>734693181
oh boy. OP. I've been here

I could tell you to stick with the best friend, or give you advice on how to break it off nicely, but really this one's all on you to think about as critically as possible.

sometimes even good relationships run their course to the point that there's nothing there anymore. sometimes you just get a little bored and see someone new and interesting and throw away a good thing for a quick thrill. i dont think anyone here can be an expert on telling you which one it is because we havent been in your relationship. we dont know all the details, even if you tried to explain them.

the only advice i got for you is a question. if you broke it off with the girl you're with and you didn't know of anyone interested in you, would you be regretting it for more than just hurting her feelings? would you be bittersweet happy that the chapter had closed? and would you be able to keep it closed even when you started getting lonely feeling?

ive been at this sort of crossroads twice. one time i broke it off and i regretted it every day for years and years. in some ways, i still regret it. the other one i was sad, but i knew it was done.


good luck. masturbate before you make any choices. dont let your dick think this one out.

>>734697943
That actually really made me think anon. I'll admit I'm unexpierenced and have a lot of growing to do, I feel like I have so much more to experience, and in a way I feel like a big reason I want to end it is because I haven't found myself. I'll admit I'm not attracted to my girlfriend physically, but if I were to choose a idea girlfriend personality, she defiantly has that no questions ask. I struggle to see a future with us, and a big part of that is because she has ambitions and goals and I don't, and when I do find these ambitions and goals all I'll be doing is getting in her way. She always talks about our future, but I always become uninterested, I think that's a big red alert. I can easily say I love my girlfriend, but I can't say I'm in love with her.

>>734698288
If you want my opinion OP, you should break it off if you're not feeling like you're happy with the relationship. You've clearly decided what you want at this point. You're gonna have to deal with losing your best friend, and that's gonna be tough but that's the risk you took when you got into a relationship with her. You'll inevitably hurt her, a lot. But perpetuating a lie is much worse as the suffering you cause her, and even yourself, will get worse with time. Don't manipulate her, just be honest. If she asks if there's another girl, have a good answer prepared, but don't be an idiot and pour salt on the wound. Afterwards, the best thing you could do is be there for her if she needs you. Just never discuss your relationships with other girls, that should be obvious.

>>734698150
I don't believe in love to be truthful, but I hope one day someone will come along and make me never want to let go, that's just not how my girlfriend makes me feel, it may sound shitty, but I see my girlfriend as a short term in my life

>>734698399
Maybe later

>>734698423
My girlfriends had all sorts of flings and heartbreaks, I think in a way I want what she's had, heartbreak. She's my real first girlfriend but I feel like I need more experience to truly appreciate a relationship. I feel like I need more experience, but on my own.

Thanks anon

OP is the reason for the song "[don't know what you got] till it's gone"

>>734699180
Not gonna tell you that you can control who you love, but I will say to consider the future. If you can't see it with her, than do what you think needs to be done. Just be prepared to lose her forever.

>>734698661
Good luck anon, I feel like I'm in a sticky spot.

>>734698928
I feel like that's true and noble, unfortunalty it all comes down to me simply just not feeling that way.

>>734698960
I can only feed the illusion of us togeather for so long. I do appreciate you're advice anon, I am taking what you say to heart.

>>734699047
I would regret it because I ended a great relationship, all the times we've had togeather I wouldn't give up for nothing. She alone, without a doubt, made my teenage years memorable. We've spent almost every day for the last 3 years togeather, and her leaving would be ending a cycle, and I'm sure how'd I adjust to that. In a way I feel I would be better off and not as smothered as I do now, in another way I feel like more time would be spent playing Xbox wondering what my ex was doing. I think why I choose to break up her when a girl has interest is because I intend to fill in the missing gap.