Also, ddlg can be fun, I find that being able to regress and leave my fate and wellbeing in the hands of someone else can be calming, especially after a very stressful day at work. Being able to act and think childish while being almost completely in the mindset of a child actually helps me to essentially get back a childhood that was stolen from me via abuse and neglect.
I know nothing from the viewpoint of the little. When my girlfriend/little girl wakes up, I can ask her for advice. I can tell you that it is often times confused by a "dom" that dominance=abuse and that if you encounter that, you should leave.
>>734190499 it's pretty great fun, one of my top two kinks. I don't think I could handle a relationship anymore if the other person isn't a little.
the lifestyle part can be tricky. Girls who need constant attention and caring can make things worse if you're at a hard point in life and already nearly overwhelmed. always try to pick a little who can control themselves a bit and pull back if they have to.
>>734192428 >it would be harder to get away with abuse as a daddy because the nature of the role is protective and nurturing yeah, you'd think so. But the role usually comes mixed with more standard D/s and BDSM so physical abuse is still possible. And it's a relationship where one person is highly emotionally dependent on the other, which is pretty much a classic abuse starting point.
That said: pick a daddy/dom that seems really into the caring side, make sure he actually listens if you have concerns, and evaluate the relationship occasionally to make sure its healthy and you'll be fine.
>>734192615 how do you meet girls into it? do you there you necessarily have to be more masc or is it less like other dom roles in that sense?
i love being caring and nurturing with women, and feel most confident being firm but gentle. i like the feeling of power with responsibility and without the violent or forceful aspects that seem to come with a lot of d/s culture. would i be able to find one that's ok with me being a little dickslut in my own time?
>>734192954 >how do you meet girls into it I've met an ex on /b/ before. Other than that, I've just been lucky. I've always been a big guy, deep voice, and vaguely fatherly so I've managed to just attract girls who are into being looked after and protected.
>do you there you necessarily have to be more masc or is it less like other dom roles in that sense? think fatherly. helps to be a bit masc but doesn't have to be over the top. But you'll usually be into some bondage or whatever too so there's still that side. I have known girls who are into the caring/nurturing side only without any extra kink but they're less common.
>would i be able to find one that's ok with me being a little dickslut in my own time? yeah definitely. usually girls who've come to terms with their own fucked up kink are a bit more accepting of others. I know a few Daddy/little relationships where they switch sometimes.
>>734193037 >Tumblr is full of them that is 100% correct, biggest nest of littles you'll find
So I started this thread because I'm a little with a problem and I was hoping I could fine people's opinions. Basically I just over the last few months realized that being little is something that has always been really important to me: coloring, kids snacks, kids clothes (it's not been too weird because I'm on the younger side, not like I'm a 50 year old ordering off the kids menu) but now that I actually know about ddlg I feel like I've finally found a missing part of me (pic related, my drawing from today) >>cont
>how do you find them and get talking to them, etc.. that's hard to explain. you find girls who show signs of being a little, you talk to them, you show interest in them, you listen to them. if they reach out to you, you respond. you talk them through their shit. etc.
>>734193551 >>734193612 So basically I'm in a long term relationship with someone a little older than me, and it's long distance but only until next summer and we've been together 4 years now. We are madly in love and we've always been dom and sub and he's always been kind of fatherly but not really in a nurturing way and usually only when he's horny. A couple weeks ago I told him about ddlg and how I was into it and he seemed okay with it, he even gave me a few rules. But since then he's just not really been into it. For example he gets irritated if I ever act little at all when we talk. When I told him I got a coloring book he was like aren't you taking it a bit too far? Even though it was the first little thing I ever bought or did. >>cont because people don't read super long posts
>>734193551 >>734193767 >>734193802 Since I told my daddy he never has acted nurturing at all, I don't think he thinks I'm cute or at least he's never made that evident, he's really sparing with cute names which are like my favorite thing in the world, he only punishes me, never rewards me. For example I'm being punished right now for a whole week for no reason at all, he said just for fun and scolded me when I questioned him. He's really impatient and any time he gets frustrated at all he doesn't warn me he just immediately tells me to grow up. And I know that he sounds like an awful manipulative guy from this but aside from this he's always been great. I just don't know what to do because I crave for him to nurture me and care about me and at least embrace my littleness if not encourage it, for him to be protective and fatherly or think I'm cute but I just don't think he's into it and I don't wanna push it, except whenever he's horny he gets REALLY into it and becomes a total dominant daddy when he's horny but only then and never nurturing
>>734194036 And to answer your question: I know everyone in the ddlg community tries desperately to distance themselves from the whole "daddy issue" stigma but speaking only for myself in all honesty I'm pretty sure that I got this kink from my dad dying and from being abused by a man the same age as my father when I was young
>>734194231 Yeah and it's been kinda like that even before ddlg which I'm fine with, I love the sexual part of it it's just so empty and sad without any nurturing, I mean even non sexual nurturing is just such a general turn on. It makes my hear horny
>>734194358 Take a step back. 4 years is nothing to just up and walk away from, but try to give him a bit of distance from it. Don't bring it up, try not to let him see you in littlespace for a bit. And in the meantime, think really hard about what you want more. The familiarity of what you've known for your relationship or the comfort and nurture that you seek.
>>734194075 that sounds hard. you should be encouraged to be your best not just punished for being less than perfect. if it's not in his character to take on that role then do you think he ever really will in the way you want it? >>734194189 rough. i think mine came from a partner having an abortion i didn't get a say in. felt more like a dad ever since i found out she was pregnant, although even before that i was more nurturing than aggressive.
>>734194502 Yeah thanks. I know that there is nothing in the world I wouldn't give up for him, it's just sad I guess. It almost wouldn't be as bad if he wasn't slightly daddy-ish as he is. Like because of our age gap and the fact that it turns him on sexually he will always be a daddy in at least that sense and it's frustrating to get one part but not the other you know? And also I don't know if he realizes how much I crave it and just doesn't care, or if he doesn't see how much I crave it
Sometimes I feel so lost. I know that I love him and I don't want anyone but him but at the same time I wish that he loved me more. When he's not in a bad mood he swears up and down that he loves me more than anything in the world and I feel amazing but then he'll have a bad day and he'll say awful things to me and it tears down what little self esteem I have (very little) and then he'll be irritated at me for being sensitive and I'll end up apologizing for being hurt. He's a navy veteran and he has health problems and I think he has depression but I just feel so sad and empty right now. Yesterday he said mean things to me and today I was kinda distant and when I tried to tell him I was sad it turned out he was having a bad day already so that made it worse and we only kinda reconciled before saying goodnight. I have to wake up in a couple hours to volunteer at the humane society and I can't sleep
Polyamorous dom here. I have two full time partners and they each dabble with ddlg though it's mostly general D/s. They call me daddy etc. one is 22 and the other 25. I'm 27.
I give them regular beatings and force them to eat each other out and whatnot. Lots of rules and some have a slant toward ddlg. A lot of what we do is just how we've adapted different lifestyles and ideas into our own thing.
My advice is to not be afraid of your situation looking different from how other people practice their kink
I've got about 20yr experience being a Dom. Got into DDlg about 10yr ago, once I hit 30. First rule of any Dom/Sub relationship is always use a safe word. I like to use two: one for yellow, meaning I'm approaching red, and need to tone it down. Red of course for stop. I've like a clear set of rules, with defined punishments & rewards. I'm not 24/7, but I do have two sets of rules. One public, and one private. Public example is finger & to nails must always be done, as well as makeup. My lg must always be well groomed. Private examples are no bra, and hair must be in pig tails. As for punishments, they must fit the crime. So, If I catch her wearing a bra, in private, there will be nipple torture. If her hair isn't in pig tails, excessive hair pulling. All rule breaks will bring forth a spanking. I prefer my bare hand. Also, no pussy play. Only a brutal mouth & ass fuck. Not necessarily in that order. If she's a good lg, and pleases Daddy, the sky is the limit for rewards. As Daddy, it's my responsibility to pay for certain things, such as her manicure/pedicure. I'm also a big time cuddler. I love snuggling, watching a movie, while she sucks my thumb. I can be a very caring DD. However, if my lg acts up, I will put her in her place. I hope this helps, and you have positive experiences.
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