Should I divorce my wife? Not getting sex regularly, paying all

Or you know.. talk to her about it?

yeah sure
or dont

Real talk her. Lay it out for her. If she isn't willing to restore balance either start fucking around or serve her ass. Don't waste your one life unhappy playboy

Do you have kids?

If not, do it in a heartbeat.

If you do, you have to balance how fucked up your kids are gonna be.

I've got kids so I'm trapped.

Here's a tip; fucking talk to your wife, you yokel.

Instead of bitching about feeling like an ATM, go and say, "I don't feel like you're investing as much as I am in this relationship, and though I love you, I would appreciate it if you reciprocated by x, y, z...."

You fucking faggot.

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Yes, dont be a faggot and divorce you are being a beta male

>>730647874
Depends.

You got kids? Is she the love of your life? Does she contribute in any way that you haven't mentioned?
Is she letting herself go? Is she becoming an insufferable cunt (bitch). What do you look like? How old are you both? Are you making good money? These are all things that come into play.

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That's how it always works. At first they pretend it's a partnership but then she notices that she's got you by the balls. So she takes advantage of you and brow beats you to death

>>730648017
Been trying to, whenever I get into that she starts playing the victim card that I'm being mean to her, and she starts crying and shit

>>730648054
No kids luckily

>>730647874
Congradulations my friend, you have achieved the location known as "Post-Honeymoon Phase". This phase is when life is no longer about the attempts to procreate in the hopes of making more of your genetic kind.

No, this phase is about learning to respect yourself and your partner, and this involves slowing down, on most things. You will find life to become tedious, things to annoy you easily, and that love is hard to get sometimes cause "the mood" is never around.

Cure: Sit down and tell her how it is and that you need to do something, or don't and simply decide to cheat/divorce and move on with your life. I usually pick the first of the two.

<--- lpn

>>730648198
Ohh wanted to add, that I know a guy who recently got a divorce for kind of the same reasons as you. Granted I actually feel a little bad about his wife, she did not see it coming.

>Friends friends dad is in his early 50's.
>Been married 20 some odd years
>Wife gradually started doing less and less as he became the primary bread winner.
>Kids graduated college
>He still works alot, but he's earning 300k a year and is in good shape, full head of hair etc.
>She's not fat but just generally does nothing all day, watches tv, gardens a bit
>She apparently argues with him because she doesn't feel the need after all these years of raising the kids to do shit anymore
>As mentioned before he's still a stud
>Finds some 27 year old bimbo at his office who sucks his dick like a champ
>Leaves his wife
>She moves back in with her elderly mother
>He keeps house, cars and bangs bimbo and her friends regularly.

It's not a love story, it's just the reality of his existence. He was fed up wasting time and energy. Weight your options.

>>730648357
And what? You just end the convo there without calling her out on such obviously manipulative bullshit?

>>730648357

How long has the sex life been dead?

If it's longer than a couple of months, it will never recover.

My wife has been frigid since our second child was born, nearly 4 years ago. We haven't had sex at all in 9 months. I've lost all love, or even like for her, and only have hate.

Talk didn't help. We've talked plenty about it.

I just don't want to fuck up my two young kids, otherwise I would disappear. I don't even care about money.

>>730648198
Not much, I do love her, and that's really the only reason I've put up with this shit. She hasn't let herself go or anything. I'm making good money, she only makes about 1/4th of what I am. We are early 30s

>>730648357

Let her victim it and cry, that's not your problem. Keep it real and start cutting her off until she understands the damage she is doing to the relationship.

>>730648219
Yup and eventually you'll find her cheating too

>>730647874
Damn that girl is hot

>>730648890
"I WAS FEELING LONELY AND VULNERABLE, YOU ARE NEVER THERE FOR ME!"

Same shit, different woman.

>>730648711
When I press it she storms off, locks the door, if I try to bring it up the next day it's shortcut the civil talk straight to accusations of being mean and crying shortly after

>>730647874

>my tool isnt working as I have intended it to work

DO you see emotional worth in her? The only reason for people to be together? You know, unconditional emotional partnership to keep the rest bit of humanity left in the hearts of those, who have the luck to experience it and ultimativly, give reason and moral to move on and see more then there is to see? No get fucked. No wander she cucks you with jamal

>>730649061
It's not an issue of sex, men cheat too.

>>730647874
I was married for 12 years, and that's where we wound up too. Getting out of that was the best thing I ever did, and I've never been happier.

>>730647874
You should ask her boyfriend what he thinks.

>>730647874
>>730648357
First of all, congratulations on actually having a life worth fighting for. I have no marital expertise, but you should talk to a counselor, pastor, or trusted friend just to get another angle on how to deal with her. Some of the other anons have said some good shit.

>>730647874
Just start discretely fucking other women on the side. Eventually shell go back to her old self and if not then no harm done.

>>730647874
In the same boat as you pretty much. Except my sex drive has gone to shit and isn't in sync with hers so sex is frustrating because I'll be horny and she won't or vice versa. She won't do anything at home unless someone else helps (being me or a friend). Gotta wash dishes for meals for me and kids. Gotta dig through a fucking mountain of clothes to wash my own shit. Whenever I bring this crap up she bitches that she is not going to be "a perfect little house wife" in which I wouldn't mind if she just cleaned up her own messes and not mine, but she just doesn't fucking get it and decides to be a god damn slob.

If we didn't have kids I'd fucking leave.

>>730647874
Divorce her. She's already got action on the side, I guarantee you.

>>730648403
divorce time!

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>>730647874
that's what women do, they put on a mask and do the work and things, but they slowly take of that mask and reveal themselves, all women are, are leeches, except 2d women ofcorse.

Had a few beers is probably the only reason I'm asking b. I'm amazed most replies have been rational.

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>>730649859
Counseling works, bro. Look up a reputable counselor in your area. Hopefully you can bounce back after getting to the root of things.

Have the bitch killed, trust me it's cheaper

>>730650093
Jesus fuck OP, you're wife has really gotten control of your head.

>>730649541
You sounds like you take at least 10 cocks daily.

>>730650050
that's what men do, they put on a mask and do the romance and things, but they slowly take of that mask and reveal themselves, all men are, are pigs, except 2d men ofcorse.

seriously
she is clinically depressed.
anti-depressant meds will help

>>730648017

Says the virgin fag so never had long term relationship and only knows about women from what the media taught him

>>730650428

Only by women (feminine penis, he, them)

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>>730650446
0/10 bait.

>>730650636
Aw, did some 3/10 slag hurt you? Did she promise to love you forever and ever until she realized what a terrible human being you are? My poor baby~

>>730648744
Kids having parents who hate each other is way worse than having parents who are divorced

>>730650636
married for 6 years. You seem a little angry, take it easy.

>>730648744
the same shit.

>>730648054
My problem exactly... I have a lil girl that is my only light in my shitty marriage.. I miss the good days I had with wifey... Now I just am tired

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>>730647874
Introduce your wife to BBC

>>730649563
Men don't make a half assed excuse about it usually tho.

>>730650829
Not everyone is intelligent enough to escape their angry, bitter virgin perspective for a moment to view life with a different lens. I get it, mother's basement is all some will ever know.

>>730650853

Cant confirm. If the parent can keep their shit to themselves the kid can only profit. Since both parents are able to sustain better life quality then each on their own which results in a more stable childhood. A divorce will fuck the child up since its finite, a difficult marriage, controlled, will at least invoke some illusion of a healthy familiar relationship

>>730651051
They usually do, yeah. There's really no justification for being a piece of shit, but plenty of men and women try anyway.

>>730647874
>having to cook and clean for yourself
Oh boo hoo, this isn't 1739 where she stays to be a home maker while you go out and hunt faggot. Regarding bills though that shit isn't cool and sex should be at least once a week if no kids. Talk to her ass, negotiate, reason as best as you can, and then consider divorce if things aren't going well.

>>730647874
ha ha

i mean that sucks dood but we all warned you this is what would happen.

t. virgin n33t unmarried nerd

i cant wait till all my ex friends who got married have this happen to them and they will be unhappy as me [spoiler]again[/spoiler]

>>730651188
nice dub-dubs, but once again, terrible bait.

>>730651503
You forgot your anime avatar this time. You can't escape who you are, you cannot go through life in denial.

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>>730651503
woops, i guess i did forget my Mizore.

>>730651448
I look at relationships as a partnership, as long as they agree what a split should be (one side cold and cleans, other is bread winner is fine, or everything is split 50/50) but when it gets unbalanced the are problems.

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>>730650847
Dayum, brutal.

>>730647874

>not getting sex regularly

you're either a pervert or pedophile

>having a wife with problems

Thank God I'm single.

>>730647874

Maybe it isn't all her OP maybe she feels stressed from the energy your putting off. Maybe try a vacation or a romantic night out not totally geared towards your desires maybe she will open up to then. Women are hard to understand mine gets super deffensive to but she knows she's like that. She gets fired up I talk her down and then we can actually talk

Real talk OP? Check if she's okay, not depressed or anything of the sorts. If she is, try to help her. If she isn't, it's time for the talk. If she doesn't want to talk, write it all down. If after that she doesn't want to read and talk, you should get out of that marriage ASAP. You do not want to be with somebody who doesn't want to invest or improve your relationship and sees you only as a source of income. There are a lot of women on this earth anon, and marriage is a raw deal for men nowadays.

>>730648357
That is classic manipulation behavior.

If you can, lawyer up.
You think she's bad now? You should see her when it's half your stuff or more on the line.
If not... I know how sad this sounds, but it's cheaper to keep her.

>>730652157
That's pure bullshit. When in a relationship there's 0 excuse for not doing any household chores for either party. A romantic dinner and vacation are great stimulants for having sex, but shouldn't be the sole reasons to get it. The only agreable reason she's acting like op described is if she's clinically depressed.

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>>730647874
You could tell her all this shit instead of some fat virgins you dumb fuck face?

>>730647874
>Not getting sex regularly
Grind up viagra pills and start to lace her food with it, she'll either start fucking you or someone else. If she fucks someone else then you can dump her ass with no come back. But if starts fucking you, let the training begin. You need to figure a way to pavlov the bitch and make her your slave until she's giving it up without drugs.

If this aint working at all, you need to dump her ass.

>>730647874
image is so ideal for me

>>730653026
its funny because its true

>>730648357
What are you married to a kid? Leave her dumb ass. Its not like there isnt other woman/men out there in the world :^)

hey op, i think you should divorce her. unless the problem is you. are you a limp dicked fatso? if yes maybe she just doesnt feel attracted to you anymore

>>730653074
>>730653074

not knowing how sex works
not knowing how viagra works

go to school

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if she makes you do all of that she probably doesn't respect you or even love you anymore. and sadly probably cheating on you already. i say get a divorce

hahahhahhahha OP - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ocGiulPm3IU

>>730647874
ya being an adult must suck

>>730654019
Shit, it worked for me

>>730647874

get her on her back making you money son.
start pimping her out.

you got a thousand problems but /b/itches aint one

>profit

Hey this is Danny Fresh with a fresh pizza tip for you. Do you want to know how to receive a free Domino's one topping pizza from Domino's Pizzeria and Restaurant?Well sit down, let me tell you. Step 1: Telephone a Domino's Pizza Eatery and Restaurant and order a large one topping pizza and the guy will say, "What topping would you like?" And you say, "I'd like my topping to be another steaming hot Domino's one topping pizza." So the guy asks, "What topping would you like on your Domino's one topping pizza topping?" And then you say, "Go ahead and make my second Domino's one topping pizza topping a Domino's one topping pizza." And then the guy will ask, "Ok sir, what topping would you like on your Domino's one topping pizza topping one topping pizza?" And you respond with, "A Domino's one topping pizza." And continue to order Domino's one topping pizza toppings, until you are at a pizza topped with 71 Domino's one topping pizzas, and then the pizza guy will say, "Wait one moment, sir. We don't have any pizza boxes that will fit this 71 Domino's one topping pizza topping pizza." So you say, "Hold on," And quickly run to Home Depot and purchase a Maytag refrigerator which retails for 3,399 US dollars, and when it comes time to pay for the Maytag refrigerator, you offer to pay Home Depot, not with cash, but with 70 piping hot Domino's one topping pizzas, and they of course accept, so you buy the fridge and you take it back to the Domino's Pizzeria Restaurant, you give the pizza guy a Maytag refrigerator box and put the 71 topped Domino's Pizza one topping pizza into that, and then you pay Domino's using a brand new Maytag refrigerator which retails for 3,399 US dollars, so then you take the Maytag refrigerator box filled with a 71 topped Domino's one topping pizza back to Home Depot, and you give it to the cashier there as payment for your brand new Maytag refrigerator which retails for 3,399 US dollars

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>>730654223
>ya being an adult must suck

underage b&

>>730654224

sex has a neural component and a physiologic component. you can have the best hardware in the world, but if you're not into it, good luck. vice versa, you can be so into it, but if your hardware doesnt work, good luck. Viagra inhibits the enzyme that breaks down the molecule that keeps your vessels dilated and your cock diamonds. Men need an erection to penetrate.Women just need to be wet, but i guess this is 4chan and women have cocks too. There are currently no drugs that treat the neurogenic component of sex for either men or women. There are currently no drugs that treat the physiologic component of sex for women. It's all geared towards men. OP, is your wife a tranny?

>>730647874
faggot this pic is old as fuck

>>730647874
Here is what you NEED to do.

>Accept that she is leaving you.
>Hit the gym hard.
>Get an inventory of all the people you trust like brothers.
>Sell your trusted friends all of the shit you love for $1.
>Liquidate all of your assets and savings. Turn them into casino chips.
>Get your side story straight.
>You and one of your friends have developed a drinking/gambling addiction.
>Start looking for another woman.
>Stay out late. Drink a little. Watch the game at the local casino.
>Eventually your wife will admit to cheating or file for the divorce.
>Be friendly and cooperative.
>Pay what needs to be paid, sign what needs to be signed.
>When the divorce is over cash in your chips and invest them immediately.
>Have your friends sell back your shit to you for a dollar.
>Start treating women like the sub human cunt-whores they ALL are.

>>730648784
>early 30s
>NO KIDS

I see the problem, she wants a baby. That biological clock ruins women

>>730654893
this
the moment you start to love them more than they love you, you lose.

>>730648784

of course she does. what you need to do is make her make you da money. a chick this freaky will do anything. turn her out. charge money for dog shows. make her a total whore. mo' money mo' money mo' money

Slap the bitch back into reality, and either she changes or divorces. Either way you win.

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>>730647874
Dude did you steal my life story and make it your own?

>>730651448
Yea, you kinda jumped to that conclusion, given that he's paying the bills, I'm taking it that she doesn't work as much as him and therefore would be expected to help out more with other shit. Or we can just assume OP and wife are exactly equal and he just thinks she should cook and clean like 1739 (which ironically was an era where women's jobs were to cook and clean because they didn't go out and work manual labor, so it made sense)

>>730648403
DO IT DO IT DO IT BE FREEEEE

I mean if you're gonna sugar daddy it might as well be a sexy young college grad barely making it by, right?
>>730648784
Do it while you're young. 30 is still 20's dating range

>>730654332
wut

I have fat lazy wife also. The thing is, as bad a wife as she is..... she'd be a horrible single mother.

Love my kids to much. Alimony and child support would be insane

>>730648357

Yeah, get out of there. She's unstable and not worth your time.

>>730647874
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=peZWlJdtPP4&t=2024s

GET OUT NOW. DIVORCE IS EXPENSIVE BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT!

>>730647874
this may be the most misogynistic post ive seen all day. to expect a woman to clean and fuck you is whats wrong with america and why its so hard to be a woman

>>730661310
Well, what else does she do?
She can't be bring in the bacon because everyone (including her) will say you're a bum.

>>730648025
THIS

>>730647874
I know this is going to get buried in a sea of autism, but you could try offering couple counseling to her. Make a point that your relationship could hinge on it.

Otherwise, ensure your accounts are separate and have coffee with your divorce lawyer in the kitchen, prior to filing, and invite her to join you. It will make an impression and she will be forced to make a choice.

I have about same issue as OP but here are some differences.
My wife makes more than i do. She owns the apartment we live in. I do earn good but no savings whatsoever. My wife us fucking hot. I know she cheated on me few years back and are ocer with it now. I cheated on her to. Now she wants sex only when i talk about a baby to enrich our future together. Wife gives me security. Still i am frustrated being sugar daddy. Not sure what to do.

>>730661310
This may be the most misandrous post I've seen all day. To expect a man to support and cater to you is what's wrong with America and why it's so hard to be a man.

>>730648711
This is what women do. They will scream bloody murder at their significant other for the slightest goof but call them on ruining your life and they pull the victim card. Press them on it and they'll do something really fucking dumb and act like it was your fault.

Be straight up with her about your current issues with the situation and take it from there man.

>>730650562
Only so much, though. She'll still need to pull herself up and better herself.
I was in this predicament as well. Only difference is that she ended up cheating on me with a dude from out of the country.

OP, if you've tried talking and explaining the situation to her and she's still pulling this shit, leave her. The misery and heartache are not worth it. There's better women out there.

>>730663002
No, you have a sugar momma if she pays for,your shit and supports you. Have you tried connecting to her on an emotional level? Or taking part in her hobbies? There's obviously a reason she hasn't divorced you if she holds all the cards like that.

>>730647874
Just get a side bitch and quit your whining.

>>730663386
Like i said,i make enough money and don't need her financial support. In fact,i pay rent to her and have no problem with that since she owns the apartment we live in.we pay everything for our self like insurances car expenses etc. The problem is that i have to do the house hold,washing cleaning etc. She comes home late in the evenibg then reads her stupid magazines. She is never naked and i can hardly grab her breasts. I cheated on her to and she knows because we discussed the issue why i cheated but still nothing changes. The girl i cheated with on her is totallyy her opposite. Lets call my wife x and the girl t. T is not ashamed,comes to nudist beach,fuck on the streets and really good company and fun. But not as hot as my wife and probably future fatty since she is small.

>>730664227
You didn't say half of that in your first post. If you're looking for a high energy spouse then fucking leave your wife. You grew in different directions. Don't drag her down because you want her security and you were too stupid to save money.

Marriage counseling's a thing.

>>730661310
Women won't do their part but expect free handouts, that's what's really wrong with America.

>>730647874
Yeah maybe. But tell her what you told us first and see what she thinks.

>>730665039
There are plenty of men AND women who don't do their part in a relationship. It's shitty people all around.

>>730665354
But mostly it's women, let's be honest here.

>>730665603
Nah, I've seen it pretty even across the board. Myself, I've been on both ends of the douchebag spectrum, where I did everything in a relationship and also where I did fuck-all.
Oddly enough, most of that was in the same relationship.

>>730665603
Depends on your age group and socioeconomic location, can't make too broad of generalizations or they throw off legitimate data.

>>730651624
you're trying too hard m8 and it's embarrassing.

>>730647874
I'm currently going through the process of breaking up with my long term girlfriend. We went through highs I and college together and she was great, but now that we're starting to hit the final countdown she's begin acting like a complete tool, never cleans, never cooks, she expect me to pick her up from work whenever I'm free, even though she can drive. It's been a slow degrading ride and it just needs to end. I can't imagine the frustration you're probably feeling but remember that some women are just stubborn miles and will never change if you don't lay down the law, and if all else fails, cut the cancer off. Real facts.

>>730647874
No body really cares. Just post moar faggot. She's sexy as fuck.

>>730661310
You mean what? Pull some sort of weight in the marriage?

If roles were reversed, this guy would have been called a deadbeat and divorced immediately. So much for gender equality.

>>730647874
You'd certainly have to pay alimony because that's just how our society is.

>>730651738
Kill yourself you stupid ass weeaboo.

You really think your distorted view is how things are? Its people like that have fucked up the anime community and life in general so bad.

>>730647874
You should get her checked out for depression before you consider a divorce.
The courts will ass rape you if they find out you're "deserting" a mentally ill woman.

>>730647874
Nobody that access 4chan should be married.
No woman deserves this.

Leave brittany already. Ive loved you from the start andrue.

>>730647874
Get some on the side

Im on the fence about leaving my girl. I know I dont want to marry her if she stays like this. No sex, when we do its like pretty forced and she doesnt get much enjoyment out of it. Like theres no point in vaginal insertion. She's stopped shaving for me too. I can handle no sex, sort of, but she has this dog that pisses on anything and she doesnt scold it. Any time any type of punishment comes from one of my family, she babies the damn thing. When we lived in an apartment together, she quit her job, said it was too stressful. my entire paycheck went towards rent and she had to ask her mom for money so we could eat. I was working a full time job and doing 18 credit hours in school while she says it was too stressful. She was only working 20 hours and has like two classes. We've been together for 3 years and I'm still not sure

>>730670598
holy shit enjoy staying a 0 spermmed man
gl future cuck

>>730670888
trips dont lie

>>730647874
Sounds like regular marriage.

>>730670888
Yeah I know I should end it. I just dont have a reason to. Shes got HBO now and i can watch game of thrones

>>730671028
fuck off shill

>>730670598
Dump her, plenty of independent girls out there who are lonely and need a good companion. Who the hell does she thinks she is? Sure you love her but trust me, in time there will be another one. Either for you or for her. The longer you keep hanging on and hope the worse and more painful it will get to separate. Just tell her and if nothing changes then give her a second warning and after that leave.

>>730654893

copypasta redpiller bullshit

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That's why you get married - to never have sex again, to wither and die emotionally and to never know the soft touch of someone being affectionate to you.

That is why God made porn.

>>730671173
Any advice on the dumping process? Family likes her and lives in our house

no kids!
ditch her, and live your life. You married too young.

>>730672283
Go hang out more with friends. Do a dutch oven when you lay in bed with her (Fart and pull the sheet over her head), just try to make fun what you think is funny but she really doesn't like. Then say to her that life is not something to be always serious about that you need fun. Do things separately, make new girlfriends etc. If you tell your family that she is to serious for you and it's boring they will understand. If not, then it's their problem and you wouldn't be able to count on your family in bad weather. Family is first so that should be your least concern.

>>730647874
>>730648357

Yes, you should divorce your wife.

>>730672283
Your family can go off and marry her then if they like her so much. Who gives a shit? It's a non-argument and excuse you use to procrastinate from doing what needs to be done.

>>730647874
If the relationship is very one-sided and there's no love going both ways, you probably need to end that. Don't get pissed off about it. You gotta just tell her calmly that you're not sure if the marriage is right anymore. Hopefully she'll be comfortable enough to actually tell you what's up. If she does, well, listen. You might be able to figure something out if you still love each other. If she doesn't, well shit, what are you gonna do? Turn into a huge asshole and be sad and angry all the time? That's stupid. Nobody would want that for you. Your wife is supposed to be your friend, you know?

>>730675417
And people change. They say people never change. But they do sometimes. People grow apart. Some things don't last forever, and that's ok.

Nigger she either depressed or got another man on the side with a bigger dick.

Either way she need a talking to and a ass woopin.

>>730648025
Ayyee. you got the right advice early in the thread. My marriage goes through cycles like this. When it happens you have to do what anon said. Don't lose your temper, don't slip up so that she can complain that your yelling. Smoothe as ice my man. If she is a stay at home without kids then she owes you some respect.

>>730647874
GREY ROCK BRO. GREY ROCK HER SO HARD.