i need help bros i'm pretty much alone 99% of the time

>>729768444
Post pic and let's start with appearance.

>>729768444
you appreciate those dubs
your best friends are here on 4chin

>>729768610
meant trips

:D

>how do I make friends

Go the fuck outside and interact with people. How the fuck do people not understand this? GO WHERE THERE ARE OTHER PHYSICAL BEINGS

>>729768610
Don't you mean trips? Really, are you a new fag, inattentive or just stupid?

>>729768444
Sell dildos on the internet so you can make money while having people voluntarily go fuck themselves joyously

>>729768444
Where you living?

>>729768444
>pretty much alone 99% of the time

Well there's your problem right there. You are the only one who can change that

Don't do it

>>729768669
Sorry, didn't mean to come off as hostile. So many newfags who haven't lurked long enough lately.. Pretty frustrating.

>>729768921
>So many newfags who haven't lurked long enough lately.. Pretty frustrating.
You can make it stop tho.

>>729768604
i dunno if I'm comfortable posting a picture of myself here. i wouldn't call myself ugly tho. 6ft 2, blonde, skinny i guess???

>>729768669
thanks for the dubs hype

>>729768712
thats the thing, i work like 35 hours a week and the people i work with are cool but i don't feel a friendship bond with them

>>729768797
wales, don't wanna get more specific

>>729768838
true that bro. but tips???

>>729768444
There's your problem. Lack of social skills. Make a retarded post and don't stick around to consider the people posting in it. You deserve your isolation, homo.

Hello OP, one of the most efficient way to make friends is through hobby's. I recommend doing sport, I won't go over ll the reasons why it's good for you, but trust me, it helps. And by sport, I exclude lifting, consider a more competitive activity. If you have a disability, then doing another activity such as chess (it's really fun when you know how to play) or card games (not for money) can be enjoyable, but I don't get as much thrill out of them honestly.
And most importantly, be confident. I know it sounds like what a 14 y/o vlogger girl would say on youtube but if you hesitate for too long, opportunities will turn into regrets, and who tries nothing gets nothing, go blind.

>>729769107
ah man, i really appreciate the advice, i was thinking of taking up a hobby asap. like i play a lot of music and was thinking of starting a band or something?

>>729769056
I work 40+ hours a week but I MAKE time to hang out with my friends because it is important to me. If you're not willing to make time and put in the necessary effort then it must not be that important to you. And yes, it will take some work but so does anything else meaningful

>>729769272
not a bad idea at all, i mean, i totally accept the fact that I'm being a whiney faggot about this it's just kind of a slump that's hard to get out of.

>>729769272
And you're going to have to put yourself out there, not just wait for a friend to fall in your lap. This means you're going to be vulnerable. But if someone doesn't like you for you then fuck em

>>729769493
see this is the kind of hard-ass advice i came here for. I'm sick of people being like "things will work out" because unless i work for it, they won't.

i appreciate it, my man.

>>729769223
Starting a band can be a great idea, but since the music industry is so clogged and everyone torrents everything, don't expect to get much money from it. You could go play in those bars where they let small bands show a bit.
And also make sure you have the time and dedication necessary to handle it.
i started swimming at age 15 when I was a bit of a lone kissless betafag, so that was 11 years ago, now I play waterpolo, and trust me, i've never felt as good.

I would also consider cooking since it's handy to know.

>>729769737
oh man, trust me, i did music business for like 6 months and i know how fucked the music industry is. i definitely wouldn't be going into it expecting to make any money, i just love making music and i think it could be a really great chance to get myself out there and meet some new people

>>729768444
Go do some new stuff bro, I hit the same wall you have when it comes to just life getting stale and getting complacent, move to a new city or go out and try some shit you've never done before it's better than the alternative

>>729768444
>friends live on the other side of the country

Isn't England like 4 miles long? Just go visit them you stupid fucking bong. Try living in the new world where it takes 4 days or $10k to go see friends on the other side of the country.

>>729769602
Happy to help /b/ro. Yea, theres too many pussies out there that arent willing to chase down what they want and then wonder why they're depressed and life is passing them by. So go out there and FUCKING GET IT!

>>729769933
oh man, trust me, I've moved around the country since i was 17, I've lived by myself for pretty much all of the time. and thats the problem, I've done all this shit now nothing seems interesting to me any more? i mean I'm moving again in september to basically the other end of the country so we'll see how that works out?

>>729769935
yeh but thats the thing man, literally every weekend i go around the country seeing my friends, it's just weekdays after work that suck. but i totally feel ya

>>729769914
Indeed, what kinda music do you want to make ? Bands can indeed make for some great moments and memories (according to what my father said to me)

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i'm gonna go get some food so brb for like 30 mins. here's a picture of me while i'm gone, just so yall know this isn't down to me looking like a retard or something (yes i know i look like a cunt but oh well)

Forget friends.

Why do you want friends?

Just enjoy life as a newfag on 4chan

That's where i started

rip

>>729770228
I gotta get back to work so I'm out. Keep my "hard-ass" advice in mind. And at least you're not some fat neckbeard faggot so you have that going for you. Good luck man!

>>729768712
fucking retard. So going to a public place and chatting up strangers is the way to make friends?
they will either look at you weird or think you're some weird pedo/pervert fuck.

Op either go to college or get a job. Since you're here I'm not even gonna suggest clubs/pubs, thats for people with social skills

>>729770931
You're right, the best way to make new friends is to not talk to anyone you don't know. Go back to your traps faggot

>>729770140
>oh man, trust me, I've moved around the country since i was 17, I've lived by myself for pretty much all of the time. and thats the problem
I feel you there I grew up in a military family so we moves every couple months, that doesnt make it any easier to make friends i know. Maybe try to get into a hobby that requires human interaction, I joined a local baseball league which is where i met the majority of my current friends. It's all about getting out there man and meeting people and finding similar interest, don't turn out like another /b/tard

>>729770931
>This guy thinks /b/ is still just for anti social basement dwellers
Someone needs to wake up

>>729771109
theres a difference between being a weird faggot who chats up strangers in random places and a social environment where people want to meet other people...fucking idiot, if you think any place works then surprise! but half the people you met think you're either weird or some fucked up retard who thinks talking to anyone anywhere is a good idea...you're a joke man, get a reality check.

>>729771297
did you even read the thread fucktard? he's 99% alone which means he's either bad at making friends, socially awkward or autistic. He wouldn't be asking for advice on meeting people if he didn't need help. Just stop begin retarded for one second and think before you speak aight? you piss me off

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>>729768444
I'd be your friend.

>>729768444
nice trips.

i'd suggest joinin a club my man. do somethin easy like a book club because they're usually only once or twice a month and there tends to be a lot of cute introverted chicks that go. you're alone most of the time anyway so you should have a lot of spare time to read.

alternatively you could do some other kind of club like chess or tennis. clubs are good because they are intended for strangers to sign up, and you don't even have to be all that social. first few times you can go and just sit and listen if you're too nervous about socializing. eventually you'll talk more with people and if you get along you can ask them if they want to get food or a beer or something at a nearby restaurant after the club.

don't get discouraged if the first one you go to isn't your cup of tea though, just keep going until you find one you like.

>>729771567
>Since you're here I'm not even gonna suggest clubs/pubs, thats for people with social skills
You assume because he's here that he's antisocial. Being isolated and not having social interaction is not the same as not having the social skills to handle a social situation. Stop being an assuming projecting faggot

>>729770561
honestly like /b/ has been the best place for me to be right now

>>729770928
i appreciate it man, godspeed /b/ro x

>>729771122
honestly yeah, i agree, that's been the best advice I've gotten here so far. just getting a hobby? like i think that's the best idea yknow. i appreciate it man

>>729771592
ok well we're bonded for life now thanks x

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>>729771592
Me too... please

>>729772033
i really appreciate the advice, honestly like i said, anything is appreciated so thanks bro

>>729772088
wow this thread worked out better than expected

>>729772084
>i appreciate it man
It np bro I just know how it is to be alone and it sucks but you gotta make your own happiness, you gotta go out and get it after a certain point or you're just gonna drown in self doubt, hope shit works out for you man

>>729771567
Don't listen to this faggot OP, don't limit yourself or your opportunities. Some people might think you're weird, WHO THE FUCK CARES? Move on to the next person. They're called social SKILLS and skills take time and practice to master

>>729770561
and now you get bareback fucked in the ass all day

>>729772069
Fuck off, if he wasn't antisocial he'd go to clubs and wouldn't be asking for help here. I know that clubs and pubs are a place to go to meet people but I won't go, since I know that then I'm pretty sure OP knows too and decides not to go so unless you have experience on the matter then I suggest you fuck off because you're not helping and you're just pissing off people that actually try to help.
>stop being an assuming projecting faggot
right back at your retard, stop assuming he's capable of handling himself, if he was he wouldn't be asking for help...is it that hard to think man? are you really that retarded? not everyone is like you, the sooner you know that the better for everyone else around you. Fuck, I hate people like you who have it all sorted out and expect others to do to. Its not how it works, you either try to figure it out or gtfo, you're not needed here then.

>>729772412
sure man, whatever. Says someone who probably doesn't have OP's problem and "thinks" what he says is the right solution. Why don't you let people with experience talk? stop filling his mind with bullshit that works in theory but not for everyone. Let OP choose his approach and leave all options open, you only think what you would do, but guess what? nobody gives a shit about you

>>729768444
nice trips. play destiny and join a fireteam.

>>729772792
good fucking shout, i used to play destiny 24/7 a while back but i got stuck in a constant grind to be honest

>>729772135
other advice i can give is not to focus too much on making friends with every interaction, let it come naturally. i was in same position as you and i didn't hang out with anyone at all for probably 6-7 months at a time. i wanted to make friends but didn't know where to go and i was also too nervous about even asking someone to make plans in fear of being rejected.

i started just visiting a few shops frequently maybe once a week or so. just with the intention of making small talk with the employees or whatever, not actually to hang out with them or become friends - i just wanted to practice interacting with people and not having to worry about rejection. i'd visit a local music store and just mess around with the instruments for maybe 10-15 minutes and chat with the staff. eventually they sort of knew me and would come over to say hi when i visited. same thing with a coffee spot near me. i never hung around for too long or was clingy, but it was helpful just to interact with people in a stress-free environment.

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>>729772678
>Fuck, I hate people like you who have it all sorted out
the fact that you think anyone has shit sorted out and everyone isn't in a state of panic is hilarious and you're delusional

>>729773227
honestly that's what I'm struggling with right now, like even with my old friends i feel like a needy dumbass asking to constantly hang out but yknow. just gotta get over that i guess?

man, fair play to you for just going out and doing that shit. it sounds minor but for some people thats a pretty big thing.

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>>729768444
>other end of the country
>britfag

Britain is tiny. Your friends are no more than a few hours drive away

>>729772678
>nobody gives a shit about you
projecting so hard

>>729773448
I've already addressed this, my dude. i do see them literally every weekend but its just weekdays where I'm working 10-6 hours that are just depressing you feel

>>729772678
i'm in same boat as OP in the sense that i have no friends and spend 99% of my time alone, but i wouldn't consider myself antisocial. i have good social skills when i need to interact with people but i find it hard to find people worth talking to. so not antisocial but i never go to pubs/nightclubs because the people there are fucking cancer.

>>729772412
>>729772678

You literally said the same thing I did. If OP is too worried about people thinking he's weird then he wouldn't ever go meet anybody new.

Let's use your example of pubs/clubs: you say OP should avoid these places because "they're for people with social skills". But I say that's exactly why he should go there, so that he can work on those skills you think he doesn't have. Fuck you and you're "avoid anybody you think might think you're weird" approach to meeting new people.

>>729773548
see this is pretty much EXACTLY how i was trying to word it, like I'm not awful at socialising, its just getting out and doing it thats the problem

>>729772678
You seem considerably worse off than OP who the fuck are you to give advice?
>Why don't you let people with experience talk?
I do have experience and I also got out of the hole OP is in, you're a fucking crab in a bucket dude you see someone climbing out and you pull them back down with your miserable ass because misery loves company

>>729773416
thanks man. honestly i still am alone prob just as much as OP but at least now it's a choice. it's funny how shit you can feel and just changing your routine can make a humungous difference.

>>729773349
go fuck yourself, you're not helping and I'm wasting time talking to a nobody like you

>>729773517
cool

>>729773548
good for you

>>729773619
I'm not antisocial either, but I don't go to clubs. Mainly because going to a club on your own is a suicide, especially if you have no game, assuming OP is on his own and asking for advice I don't think he's capable of going clubs. I'm trying to help him, get off my back.

>>729773737
then help him retard, you're just wasting time flaming me for no reason. Do you think I care?

>>729773632
>its just getting out and doing it thats the problem
It just sounds to me like you're depressed man, thats the biggest hurdle to get over

>>729768444
find a hobby that has a decent local community

>>729773928
>Do you think I care?
You care enough to reply to every post I put up so stop being a butt hurt faggot. I did help op, if you check out >>729772084 in his own words "that's been the best advice I've gotten here so far." so keep projecting you sad faggot

>>729773939
oh man, i've pretty much accepted the fact that I'm depressed, it's just doing something about yknow? like you said, it's a hurdle and its tripping me the fuck up right now

>>729773985
not a bad shout at all

(btw OP here, just switched to laptop for faster replies)

>>729773928
>replying to this many people and saying you don't care
i think you care

>>729769056
>thats the thing, i work like 35 hours a week and the people i work with are cool but i don't feel a friendship bond with them

well... you wont feel a friendship bond unless you give that bond a chance to be made. If there are any cool colleagues you feel you share some interest and shit, just try to get a "hey, we should go drinking some time" going.

Sometimes its best to plant that idea into a colleague who has social pull. In my case i had a chick in the office who was super social and happy and shit, i liked her for her positivity but i didnt want to be actual friends with her. I casually dropped the "we should go drinking some time" "everyone is awesome here, it's a shame we never get a chance to go out together" every now and then. Sure enough, i started overhearing her talking to other people in the office about it and she did all my work for me, she got all the chicks hyped up and then they started collectively busting the balls of the guys who were lazy about it. It got to the point where going to after office bars was almost a given on every other friday or thursday.

>>729774208
OP, "hard-ass here", I was diagnosed with depression shortly after getting kicked out of USMA my freshman year. The fact that i self medicated and ended up in rehab didnt help the situation. But that was the greatest thing that ever happened to me. I learned that what happens in my life is up to me and in EVERY situation there is a choice to be made. It is my responsibility to fix shit I think needs fixing. Like I said before, just do it, get out there. Do what the other anon said and just start visiting some local shops that interest you. But make sure that you don't close yourself off to communication ie: being at a coffee shop but having headphones on or focused on your phone

>>729774208
The best think you can do with depression is don't let it hold you down. Like set a routine for yourself and stick to it no matter how down you feel. There are some days I don't even want to get out of bed but I know my schedule says go to the gym at 9am and no matter what or how shitty i feel you just gonna do it and work through it. but depression is different for everyone just don't let it beat you man

>>729774675
man thats not a bad shout at all, i mean its kind of the thing of "wow sure that would be cool" but i totally don't have the balls to go ahead and do that. i mean no harm in trying right?

>>729774830
its actually a huge confidence boost that people care enough to be commenting on this at all? so any replies to this thread are appreciated (even that one faggot who's just arguing)

>>729774860
love it man, I'm trying my hardest to get a schedule going right now, it's kinda boring right now, just trying to spice it up by seeing friends and stuff on the weekends

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>>729774208
i know what you mean about the hardest thing being to "just doing something about it". even if i was having shit day/week i found it helped to go someplace new a couple times a week if not every day. just walk/drive to a place i had never got coffee/food from before. or walk a few blocks in a part of town i never usually went through. something about the change in scenery helped lift me out of the rut i was in without actually do anything.

>you'll always feel the same if you always do the same

also coming from someone who's tried a dozen different meds for ocd/depression/anxiety - i was very surprised in how much better my mood was from diet & exercise. i always heard from doctors that that is the most important and never payed much attention to it cause it seems so trivial. but honestly think it's 10x more beneficial than taking any kind of drug would be.

>>729775105
>just trying to spice it up by seeing friends and stuff on the weekends
Well I hope it works out for you bro keep your head up i gotta go to work. Like i said before don't let it beat you

>>729775297
yeah, i do just wanna get the fucking balls to go outside and explore new stuff, even if i am alone when I'm doing it, like going on walks and stuff really fucking does help, it definitely does. so once i get down to doing that I'm sure i'll be happy. I'm just being a whiney faggot about it right now and just making excuses, but at some point I'm going to have to get my ass into gear and go for it.

>>729775398
love you /b/ro x

>>729775508

>but at some point I'm going to have to get my ass into gear and go for it.

Fuckin right! You decide where that point is. And when you're on a walk or something and you see someone with a tshirt or something that shows a similar interest then say "hey, I like your shirt". Most of the time you'll just get a thanks but it's a good way to start interacting with new people

>>729775863
yeah like? half of the time the best friends you make are made through pure coincidence. it's not something you can really force.

like my best friend from primary school all the way through high school i made by seeing that he was reading the same book as me or some shit and we've been friends ever since.

>>729775508
best of luck anon-kun

>>729776150
Exactly man. You just gotta open your mouth and say something. It really is that simple

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>>729768444
Fucking go outside. Go to the park. Go to the library. Art museum. Go get a bloody ice cream cone. Cup of coffee. A kebab. Something.

Get off /b/, go outside, and interact with other human beings.

That's the first step. Now go. Go.

Go.

>>729776756
I'm going I'm going, wish me look my dude xo

Try Meetup.

It's full of people that don't have any normal friends friends they are new to the area or they work from home or whatever

>>729776838
Good luck OP. YOU CAN DO IT!

- hardass

>>729777002
okay I've never heard of that before but i'll check it out?

>>729777010
i won't ever forget you Hardass <3

>>729774675
this is some stale paste u got going on here

>>729768444
hex is that you?