Well, /b/, it would seem that my GF of 4 years and the mother

>>729745069
>diagnosed sex addict
fuck off

>>729745069
Well then you've got to get to the sleeping pills phase.

I just got a bj from my girlfriend a few minutes ago. Feeling pretty good right now.

>>729746891
3edgy5me
>>729747026
I'd end up just using them to sleep more soundly.

Depends on alot of things. If she is taking progesterone for birth control or still breast feeding. It decreases their libido quite substantially.

>>729747068
She used to give them all the time. Now I gotta practically begged for them.

>>729745069
You're probably being a little beta bitch. You should start with that.

>>729747336
>Beta tryhard located

>>729747336
Yeah you gotta change up your life. Gotta do something out of the box. Move maybe. Start working out. Change what you do in bed

>>729747192
Not breastfeeding. Not on BC.

>>729747614
/not OP
I'm not entirely convinced that it's necessarily his fault. Maybe partially, but the assumption that OP can change something about her shitty attitude thowards his dick is quiet simply still an assumption.

she will be on a BC pretty soon :^ )

>>729745069
>sex addict
Kek this meme, so like every freaking guy who is not impotent?

Marriage, kids, and still giving a shit about sex. Proud of you anon.

>>729745069
Get in better shape. Lick her butthole,

>>729747614
Op here
Admittedly, I don't work out, but I'm still very fit. I work hard at work, and it keeps me in good shape. We are in the process of moving to a new place, so maybe that will help. And sex was never stale with us. We were always doing something different and adventurous.

>>729747781
I'm not saying it's either persons fault, I'm just talking, I guess. Mostly bc I just want an anon discussion with some people with genuine advice peppered with faggotry.

>>729747840
No. Not every verile male. If you don't think it's possible to be addicted to sex, you're ignorant.

>>729748133
Not married.

>>729748366
>you're ignorant
Go the fuck back to red dit / tum bler, I don't care, pick one.

>>729748253
In great shape, lick her ass all the time. I'm very oral. I ask her to just go down on her. She acts disinterested lately when she used to be VERY interested previously.

>>729747840
Have you ever sucked dick for sex? I have.

>>729748484
Don't spend anytime on either of those sites.

>Implying it's okay to be ignorant on /b/ so long as no one calls you out on your bullshit.

>>729748366
this is so blatantly stupid. read up about the medicalization of the everyday life by the APA, the organization that actually invents disorders and addictions.

>>729748765
So addiction is all made up?

>>729748849
what I'm saying is that you have no idea how psychiatry works and probably just agreed with some shill that told you something. since 2013 more and more everyday problems have turned into 'disorders', sex being one of them.

>>729748587
I'm implying you're a beta little cuck complaining on /b/ that your baby mama won't fuck you anymore while speaking like an enlightened fedora tipper, go cry elsewhere faggot. Fit right in over at 9fag.

>>729749125
>Speaking like an enlightened fedora tipper

So, using vocabulary instead of nigger speak or /b/ lingo? Fuck off.

>>729745069
Father of two here, 12 years together with the ol' lady. I don't get laid very much anymore either.

Your situation is normal. Kids are a lot of work and so can be sex.

Hell, I'm 35 and sometimes I don't even want to do it. I work all day and she works mostly when I'm not so that we can minimize the time the kids spend at daycare and thus pay less. Point is, we're tired and sometimes sex is something of a chore. When it comes to that, I just go to sleep instead.

Take it easy bro.

That or just rape her.

>>729749051
Of course I have no idea how psychiatry works, which is why I see a psychiatrist. Funny how that works.

>>729749667
Now this I can understand.

I'm 30, and work all day as well. She work at most 3 nights a week, for a max of 4 hours at a time. But it's all we need.

I get being tired, but sex is a way I unwind and relax. I used to think she felt the same. But that's whatever. I'm getting used to it, I guess. But she gets pissed when I jerk off, so I'm kind of in a lose lose situation. But it's whatever. I'll just accept it as a condition of family life.

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>>729749662
"boohoo, my wife wont fuck me plz help guys why you all so ignorant"
Fucking kill yourself faggot

>>729745069
>being unfaithful
you can't be unfaithful to someone who doesn't want you.

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Odds for the left
Evens for the right

What's a sex addict? You love sex its not a bad thing

>>729749712
you don't know how yourself works, but it's dangerous to just believe something a psychiatrist says. This is why so many dumwits take antidepressants, because MUH CHEMICAL IMBALANCE and muh quick and easy fix even though the effects of antidepressants are widely contested.

you have to be careful with just believing that you're an addict because it takes away the responsibility you have over your own actions. I can imagine you demanding sex from your girl, or cheating, because MUH ADDICTION, even though you haven't got the slighest clue what you even mean by saying that.

>>729750021
Ow fuck wrong shit

>>729749936
Did I ask for help anywhere?

>South Park is soooooo cool man

Nevermind, you're not ignorant, just a dumb fuck.

>>729750093
This makes sense on a lot of points. I refuse to take any meds, and I won't cheat or force her, because I like to think I can exert enough self control to not do stupid shit like that. But I see where you're coming from. I don't use "addiction" as a crutch, it's just what I was told, I guess.

>>729750329
that's good. But it's gonna be tough. I remember when my girlfriends libido was killed by her antidepressants and it really destroyed our relationship. I'd go for 2 months without sex and I just felt so rejected all the time.
maybe you can try couples counseling or something like that?

>>729750860
Maybe. I'll stick it out for a little while and see what happens after we move. I know that can put some strain on things. She's pretty resistant to outside involvement in our personal lives, but if it's necessary, maybe she'll be open to it.

Thanks for being one of the few anons willing to actually have a discussion.

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>>729745069
>no longer interested in me sexually.
>Now down to barely once a week.
>once a week.
She's still having sex with you. Fuck you.

>>729745069
Time to find side pussy and quit being a tryhard. Wife kids kills sex life is common from what I hear. Never beg for pussy btw, thats like pussy kryptonite.

>>729749923
>she gets pissed when I jerk off

that's dumb
that's at least one area where clearer and more open communication could make things better.

you are growing older, together, and peoples' relationships change as time goes by. but there are things that can be addressed and that's one of them.

>>729745069
have you spoken to her about how you feel?
my gf of a few years and i fizzled out a bit, but after a few months i asked her why the sex was way less and i realised i'd been really complacent, not spontaneous, never shaking things up. it's easy to fall into a routine. but when we discussed what was going wrong we were able to fix it and our sex life became just as good.
tl;dr its something you two should sit down and discuss together. be perfectly honest
if that doesn't work there's always rape

>>729751168
The ONLY reason she still is I suspect is because she thinks I'll cheat otherwise, which I won't. But I suppose I should be grateful that I get any at all.

>>729751426
I don't beg, really. And I guess for that matter, I don't really ask much, which is my fault. She is just disinterested lately.

>>729751621
>>729751672

I'll be the first to admit I'm not very good at communicating. So that's a definite place for me to improve.

Good advice. Thanks anons.

>>729748366
If all of this is true, you need some fucking introspection. She's not NOT fucking you because she's got something wrong
She's not fucking you because she doesn't WANT to. You've got to make that pussy quiver for your cock. You need to be desireable as man, and game her like you did when you were dating. Are you a mopey little bitch about sex? Who wants to fuck someone who's pouting?

>>729745069

Watch porn, if she gets jelly about it, demand sex or just continue to fap. Eventually she either gives in or you work your way up to fucking some other girl.

>>729752526
I don't think I'm mopey about it. When we DO have sex, she really seems to be really into it and enjoys it. And she always says something like how she could just do it all day everyday, etc. So idk, maybe it's just a down period until we can get a little time away from junior.

>>729752729
Not gonna fuck another girl. Period. I'd rather jerk it to pics/vids of her than anything else, really.

>>729752885
How do you initiate?

Be honest.

>>729745069
ask her why isnt she having sex with u. If she doesnt satisfy u, u gotta get ass somewhere else.
Why did u get married in the 1st place

>>729752985
I try to vary it. But generally I'll kiss/nibble on her neck/ears and general turn on areas. Hand sliding between her legs. I don't SPECIFICALLY tell her I want to fuck, but I do the things I know turn her on.

>>729753195
Ahahaha no. There's nothing in the world that makes a pussy drier than talking about fucking. Well, begging maybe. Women don't give a fuck about your fee-fees about sex.

>>729745069
>sex slows down 4 years into a relationship
>thinks this is unusual.

Change up your game to get her interested again or get used to fapping more.

I would still say check her phone to see if she's playing around, because that typically happens ataround 4 - 5 years in relationships too. JS

>>729753195
Not married. But got together because sex was phenomenal, we were compatible in every non-sexual way as well. Similar interests, similar taste in music/movies. Caught the feels hard.

>>729753293
Kino? Do you game her throughout the day, while you're at work, every chance you get?

How do you react when she says no?

>>729745069

>don't think she's unfaithful
>don't think she
>don't think
>faithful

Roflmao - nope! Behavior changed.
You're DONE

>>729753335
>this nigger thinks communication is bad
>>729753374
do as i say. Learn whats the problem and tell her to gtfo, if she not gonna put out.

>>729745069
I've been having the opposite
Med school stress can't compete with regular multiple orgasms
Gf is finally cracking and getting slutty
She woke up from a nap with a river between her legs
She ran into the living room dripping on the floor and fucked me on the couch

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>>729745069
You're not a sex addict, your woman has just stopped craving you. Let her fuck another man, I'm sure her libido will rise trough the roof. people aren't meant to stay together for a lifetime. After 4 years a natural death of the relationship is to be expected. Too bad you had to have a kid. I don't care about you nor your wife, but your kid now there's the true victim. Fucking normies.

>>729747192
If you can't overcome BC I feel bad for your partners

>>729753346
I guess I just didn't expect it so soon, tbh. I'll check it, but I really don't think it's happening.

>>729753335
Categorically not true. Talking about fucking turns her on. Whining about fucking is what dries it up.

>>729753487
Communication only works if both parties are listening. When you open your mouth and say "we just aren't having sex often enough" she shuts down.

I genuinely believe the best way I can communicate to my wife is through actions. Not trying to hash out my feelings with her.

>>729745069
that's what love is anon everyone falls in and out of it, I'm sure your parents have lost the sparks but they just love eachother as friends so why divorce? also that costs money. you could always make her fall back into love with you if you do something amazing for her or change up your relationship, make it fresh again

>>729753587
Whining is what I meant.

>>729753587
You can't negotiate attraction dumbass. It's either there or it isn't. Once it's gone you can talk all you want, no use. Your time would better be spent jerking off, at least that bears results.

>having a kid

lul

>>729745069
she's cheating on you. 100% guaranteed.

>>729753726
Thisthisthisthisthis.

You can't sit down and talk her into wanting to fuck you.

Be attractive. When she's attracted to you she'll fuck you. Or not, which is when you next her.


Get yourself straight before you point the finger at her.

>>729753775
10 bux it's not his kid either

>>729753804
nopenopenope. Only thing I can think of is blatantly flirting with other women. Would trigger her "I want what other women want" instinct at least. OP just start thinking about rebuilding your life without her. I can guarantee you she's 2 steps ahead of you anyway, that's the way women tick.

>>729753641
if shes not talkin, not takin the chance u give her, just cheat

>>729753931
You're getting into the levels of dread there. Useful, but need to be applied carefully if he cares about the relationship.

>>729753394
True, I don't talk much about it when I'm at work. But occasionally I do. And usually when she acts disinterested, I just go back to whatever I was doing beforehand. I don't get pissy, I just take the hint and leave her alone.

>>729753487
Not getting out due to child. Will not put it through divorce/separate parents.

>>729753540
Sorry that I'm not a cuck and won't let her fuck someone else. My kid will not suffer, bc I won't leave my GF. I'll just get used to a less amount of sex.

>>729754066
Honestly if the relationship matters to you, I recommend you read some stuff along the lines of No More Mr Nice Guy and When I Say No I Feel Guilty. Married Man Sex Life Primer. Just on a personal level it helped me with my relationship enormously.

>>729754066
so wtf r u here for? U dont want to give either of u a chance. Kill yourself - all your problems will go away

>>729754066
Your kid WILL suffer because it's not up to you. She will be the one leaving you, you fucking naive dumbass. Men are always acting so righteous expeting their women to do the same. HA. It's already over in her mind, mark my words.

>>729754058
Yeah that's why I said he should prepare to be on his own again. 4 years is a good amount of time for a relationship. prolly had some ups and downs, the usual stuff. Pretend it will last forever though and you're in for a bad time. Natural death man. We're not monogamous, otherwise there would be no cheating or mistresses.

>>729754280
Coming to grips with the reality that ONEitis is bullshit, that your relationship/marriage/etc can and might end, and you can be fine either way is one of the hardest things about struggling through a rough patch in the relationship. Being able to develop frame and outcome independence is possibly the most freeing thing a man can do.

>>729753726
Newsflash dumbass, if there wasn't attraction, we wouldn't be together long enough to have a child together.

>>729753775
>>729753811
Sorry about your experiences with women that you think this is true. If you've HAD any experience with women.

>>729753931
If she wants to be the one to end it, that's on her, I'm not so weak to give up at the first sign of trouble.

>>729753941
>>729753732
Grow up

>>729753674
My parents got divorced after they had kids, which I plan to not replicate.

>>729754692
>locked in a shit relationship and not willing to fix anything
grow up

>>729754692
The hot chick across the street from my house is married to a mid 50s midlevel executive who makes probably 150k so she can sit at home and raise their kid.

She hates him. He hates her. She uses him as a beta bucks paycheck.

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>>729754536
GB2/plebbit/ fagget but yeah you're 100% right. Hey OP, listen to some Tom Leykis. Might help you on your way. Or remain a blue pilled faggot making the same mistakes over and over again. Your choice.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZSjjEUd2cSQ

>>729754692
Lmao thanks for amusing me. I'm genuinely smiling now. You're so deluded about modern relationships it's just funny now. I think it's cute you want to keep going but I'm telling you, ITS NOT UP TO YOU.

Btw had a gf for 5 years, now have 2 fuckbuddies. I think I know what I'm talking about. Have fun when you see your kid suffer the same way you suffered when you were young. Fucking naive twat. Remember me when reality slaps you in the face. Then start browsing TheRedPill until you figure out how women really work. I'm not a bad guy though. i'l leave you with a little snippet of truth.

Briffault's Law

Briffault is known for what is called Briffault's Law:

The female, not the male, determines all the conditions of the animal family. Where the female can derive no benefit from association with the male, no such association takes place. — Robert Briffault, The Mothers, Vol. I, p. 191

In following, there are 3 corollaries:

Past benefit provided by the male does not provide for continued or future association.

Any agreement where the male provides a current benefit in return for a promise of future association is null and void as soon as the male has provided the benefit.

A promise of future benefit has limited influence on current/future association, with the influence inversely proportionate to the length of time until the benefit will be given and directly proportionate to the degree to which the female trusts the male.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Robert_Briffault#Briffault.27s_Law

>>729754280
I disagree on us not being monogamous. It really is a choice. I think anyone can choose to be monogamous if they so choose. But that's neither here nor there. I've made the decision to try and make it work, and I really doubt she'll be the first to leave, just based on what I know about her.

>>729754198
I'll keep that in mind, thanks.

>>729754953
Relationship is not shit, sex life is dragging. Sex is not the only factor in a relationship, child.

Alright, OP here, I got the conversation I was looking for from the helpful ones, and the chuckles from the deluded fucks, cucks, and virgins. So I'm out. Bye bitches.

>>729755221
Your sex life is dragging because of the fact that your relationship is shit, one way or another.

When people have sex 10+ times a week that tends to happen. People need to space it out

>>729755339
Have fun with the crumbling sandcastle that is your life, OP

>>729755221
sex is an important part of it, kiddo. But u wouldnt know. After all, if the relationship was so good, ud be able to ask whats the problem.
fuckin autistic reatrd

>>729755640
retard*

>>729755640
I like how he condescendingly said "child" as if he's the wise one for ignoring his gut feeling

>The fool doth think he is wise, but the wise man knows himself to be a fool.'.

>>729755795
ik,r?

>>729755918
What a shame. Think he'll remember us when it all comes crashing down? Or will he just hamster it away.

>>729756015
hell be too busy being curled up in a ball and crying

>>729756128
Lmao. Well GG, I'm off to enjoy my evening. See you around old friend. Keep preaching, you never know when a lurker might see the light.

>>729756273
sure thing. Papa Bless, KeK be upon us