/b/ girlfriend has serious mental health issues. anorexia,

is this battle toads

I've always wanted to bed a depressed chick.

>>722885937

any reason ?

Do you like being fed upon by the toxic person who gives you a boner. Perhaps a succubus would be more beneficial. You like being manipulated and drained like a fucktard cause you have a boner

>>722886140
not really

>>722884833
If she wants to die let her die. You're a selfish fuck for forcing her to live in misery. Let her live how she wants and if she doesnt want to live you should respect that. Stop forcing your bubbaly boobaly shit quality life on her.

>>722884833

Do what is best for yourself and bail. She is not family. She is not your wife.

>>722884833
does she self harm her legs please let me know i need to for research

bubbaly boobaly life ? hahaha wtf is that ?

Try whipping her bare ass with a belt until she's a sobbing mess. The endorphins will help her depression.

>>722886784

op - she does

>>722886894
just her legs or arms as well?

>>722884833
Question: How many of these disorders are self-diagnosed?

>>722886969

both

>>722884833
Have you tried knocking some sense into her? Like have a sit down and tell her that you love her and your trying everything you can but she has to put her part and try to make herself change. You can only do so much but she needs to know that she has the power to change herself.

Does she want help?

because if she doesn't there isn't a whole lot you can do.

>>722884833
I bet she's awesome in bed though

>>722887005

op - all diagnosed by doctors / psychiatrists

>>722887083
this

>>722884833
The more you try to help her, the worse it'll get. Been with a girl like that when I was younger.. they want the attention. They want people to worry about them. Youre probably making it worse and enabling her without realizing it. She needs professional help and if I were you, I'd get out while you can

>>722887083

i genuinely have, she wants to change, but hates herself so much she doesnt think she deserves to be happy or get better.

its really fucked up

>>722886864
Kek

>>722887295

she is getting professional help with both the eating disorder and BPD

>>722887160
Oh, that's rough OP. I don't know, if it's really effecting your life that much then you have to do what's you feel is best for you. It's not a good situation. Just know that if she does succeed, it's not your fault.

>>722884833

BPD is a chronic condition with very little hope for improvement. Long term DBT therapy may help but she needs to want to change (cliche I know.) A lot of those with BPD want to stay sick because it gives them an excuse for their behavior. Your wasting your time trying to help her. She may "try" to kill herself but will do so in a way that she knows it won't work. I would bail. Unless the tail is 10/10.

Source: I'm a therapist at a psych hospital.

>>722887321
Why is she so fucked in the head. Obviously there has to be some sort of trauma. Was she molested?

>>722884833
You won't want to hear it but the best thing you could do is leave. Really mentally ill people leave a trail of misery and broken lives behind them. It might not be her fault, but she will neber get better

>>722884833
stop being such a beta fag and stop posting stale pasta...that'll show her.

>>722886347
Moron.

I used to be in an exact situation for years. Leave her, you will be happier and she will date one of your best friends

>>722887501
nebba ebba

>>722887477
Tying to get off in a thread like this? Oh you little scoundrel you!

>>722887448

op - the current psycho therapist she is seeing is doing DBT with her.

she wants to get better, i really do believe her when she says that. im aware its a chronic condition but is there hope she can improve to a point where she can deal better with everyday life ?

>>722887321
Yea I hear ya, I'm going through the same thing myself. But she has to try. She's never going to improve like that.

Do you guys have a pet? I feel like that tends to help. I have a dog and having my dog around helps me get out of the house on walks.

Take her to an industrial area with train tracks. Wait until you can feel a train coming, and then tell her to stand on the tracks.

When she moves, wait until it has passed, and ask her why she moved. Whatever she says, lead her towards the idea that she has some semblance of hope.
Help her to understand that the trick to life is to basically find a tolerable way to spend the time when waiting for the happy moments to come. Insist that she does know that she can have those moments again, and that is why she moved.

And then slit her throat for disobeying you.

>>722887815
>Edgy

Shut it, you autist

>>722887740
Was an honest question. Im fucked up, not that fucked up.

>>722887760

we dont have a pet, we live in the centre of the city in a rented house and i work long hours. so i wouldnt want to have a dog as i wouldnt be able to walk it and allow it into the countryside like dogs deserve. and we arent allowed pets in our lease unfortunalty.

I have read that having a pet can help. Its something im looking into even its maybe a rabbit or something for her that wouldnt cause any damage and the landlord wouldnt need to know about

>>722887815

> inb4 she goes on the tracks

>>722887477

no major childhood trauma, although she didnt have the best child hood in general and has had some pretty rough stuff happen to her

>>722888275
Like what? I mean shes got a laundry list of issues. They have to come from somewhere. Whats her relationship with her parents like?

my girlfriend also has all of these things mentioned, i know what its like OP, its not easy, but ask yourself

Do you truly love her, and if so, are u willing to help her through anything and everything?

>>722888137
When you get a day off, maybe take her to the petstore. Even a little hamster can help.

You mentioned you work long hours right? What does she do when you are at work? Does she work or does she stay home alone? Does she have friends to distract her and hang out with?

>>722887749
That's the goal of the therapy to get her to a point to where she can function in day to day life. She'll likely never thrive ( good job, education, ect). If the highest her potential will take her is minimally functional, and be happy she's not in a group home or a hospital, is that somebody you want to invest your time and effort into?

Also, ignore the ED. 90% of the time it's a manifestation of the BPD. If the BPD clears well so will the ED

>>722888391

relationship with parents is actually very good.

she was horrendously bullied as a child. has some quite bad health issues but nothing deadly.

i really dont know where alot of the issues come from and i dont think she does either

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Don't be with someone that makes you feel this way and they're too selfish to change themselves for the better.

It's a waste of your time and the longer you're humoring her the harder it'll be to eventually let go.

Perhaps if she was a self reliant, self directed adult she would not need a parental caregiver to suck off

>>722884833
That is her problem. It may sound harsh but you are not responsible for her emotions. That's how you end up in abusive relationships.

>>722888759

It's called wanting attention. Take her to a psychologist if she's really that messed up and they can pump her full of drugs if IF there's actually an chemical imbalance.

>>722888759
Usually figuring out what is bothering her helps. I recently found out that throughout my childhood. I was being manipulated by my parents. I never realized it until my spouse pointed it out to me and I realized it for myself. It lifted a huge emotional weight on me. Now i know why I used to hate myself so much.

>>722888275
Sooo shes had a kinda rough childhood and had some rough stuff happen to her. Cool. Get in line. Life isnt all sunshine and rainbows. As bad as she thinks she has it, someone has had it worse. Tell her to stop being a self loathing asshat. Jesus. She seems to have no reason to be like that. Im guessing she doesnt work and has everything taken care of for her because of her issues. Shes playing you guys. She wont change cause she has it easy and doesnt see a need to.

>>722888729

yep i came to the same conclusion that the ED is a symptom of the BPD and gets far worse when she is in 'manic' periods. Im convinced that focusing on the BPD will sort the ED in the long term.

she actually has already got a high level of education. she got a first at university.

Its after uni that she seems to have collapsed somewhat.

i have just ended a relationship that pretty much exactly the same as what you have described. what you have to realise is that you cannot help her, youre acting as her crutch, youre enabling her to not get better, and if you think things will get better they may do for a few days but will revert back to shit.

when i broke up with my now ex, she trashed her whole room, glass everywhere, no one home. Then she slit her wrists, blood everywhere. I had to wrestle her down and call the ambulance.

If youre going to break up with her, gather all of your belongings, and make sure there are other people home so she can hurt herself, or let someone know about what she may be inclined to do.

Also after the break up will be hard, id reccommend cutting all contact immediately, cause she'll most likely try get you back and will fuck with your head. In my case, she told me she was pregnant, and was likely to kill herself etc etc

best of luck op

>>722889027
Are you fuckin stupid, yeah someone has had it worse but that doesn't mean that she can handle what she's got. Maybe if you actually took time to think instead of spewing shit from the whole most people speak with you'd see that. Who are you to judge suffering you cunt

>>722887749

Everyone wants to preach doom and gloom but DBT has a substantially higher success rate than traditional CTB or CTB12. Much of the current research shows nominal improvements in all patients and a remarkably high cure rate in over 80% of patients after two years. If I could find the paper I wrote over this topic while studying at TTU I would be a bit more clear with my sources.

I challenge the other poster to cite a source no older than 10 years that shows "very little hope" for people with BPD undergoing treatment with DBT.

If your girlfriend is not meditating everyday or constantly practicing mindfulness she won't get better. A little random TLC to incentivize these behaviors wouldn't hurt either.

>>722889535

Probably because in reality she's just being a drama queen. If she's got good parents, a nice boyfriend, food in her belly and a roof over her head she really does need to grow up and realize her life ain't shit.

>>722889243

Good on you for actually getting out of that relationship, so many people just let their partners walk all over them.

>>722889599

I've gradually been introducing meditation and mindfullness exercises to her, and she is doing it more regularly now. I think there is hope perhaps.

>>722889874
There's always hope. I won't lie, it's going to be a massive struggle. You'll give up before her, I promise you.

>>722889874
Ah, one last thing before I go drown broken self in alcohol. Always pay attention to the time between incidents. If she's practicing that time will get longer. Three days to four, four to a week, a week to two, and so on and so forth. Pay no attention to the intensity of the incidents.

>>722890264

thankyou your comments have actually really helpful

>>722890347
Glad we could help, you have many options, make the right one, god speed

>>722889676
Self harm you are saying is because she doesn't feel it. And the rest you say is faked? Either you are a troll or a cunt.

>>722890555

I don't get what you're saying, yes sometimes people will cut themselves because they want to draw attention to themselves. You see it all the time. Their lives are fine besides a few tiny issues that EVERYONE has to go through and they decide to make a massive deal about it.

Either she goes to a psychologist and it turns out to be legit (which true can happen) and it gets worked out with meds or more than likely she's just wants attention and is being a drama queen. It's not hard.

Never stick your dick in crazy.

>>722890757
Self harm is a way of getting rid of thoughts you can't deal with. Either she actually has something to deal with or she cuts for attention because it doesn't hurt much.

Next everyone doesn't go through the problems we all face. Not everyone is aware enough for that. Many people go through life without realizing many of the horrors they might face, she may understand these things. Child birth for instance is something she might be thinking about... If you don't know why that's a problem for women I don't really want to waste any more time on you.

cutters = attention seekers.

>>722886864
Double'd

>>722891444


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>>722891365

>child birth

So you're saying... she might be cutting herself... because she's thinking about future child birth...

>>722891565
Oui

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>>722891666

That hilarious, I've heard about people making excuses but good lord 10/10

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>>722884833
She's obviously unstable as fuck is is in no way capable of maintaining a relationship. For fuck's sakes I thought I was bad when I only have depression. Leave now OP and never return.

>>722891750
Yeah um you're right having your body ripped open for more than a few hours isn't something you would try to forget. You're right, I'm wrong, I'm sorry.

The solution isn't to leave, it's to stop caring.

Crazy chicks are fun. They're wild in bed, do all kinds of entertaining shit. You just need to stop worrying about the person, and start being entertaining by the spiraling psycho degenerate riding your dick.

>>722891666
devil confirmed

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>>722891981

If this really was an issue anon, I think we'd have a lot more mothers walking around with wrist stripes. Sure it'd be a traumatic event but fuck me bro not everyone is as weak as you seem to think they are

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>>722892085
He's right though

>>722886459
Giver the ol dickeroo so good it gives her a reason to live

>>722884833
DUMP HER OP

>>722884833
Fucking emo !

>>722892107
Do you really think you are correct? I'm done explaining this shit to you. If you really don't get it I doubt you would unless you actually experienced it. I hope your next life is female and you have 4th degree tearing. You miserable excuse for a person.

>>722886599
probably this

>>722884833

Make her take meds for her anxiety and borderline. It takes time to findthe right ones. Also get her into CBT. That's whats been helping me.

>>722889194

still there, op?

quick question:

>first in uni

a first in what?

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>>722892682

As I said it can be traumatic but shock and horror women deal with it. and on top of that, I doubt OPS gfs cunt essentially exploded from his love child so your example is redundant in this case.

Sorry if your baby nearly ripped out your insides or someone you loved, that really sucks and you should seek some psychological help

>>722887414
you seem to have missed previous' point... get the fuck out. It will ultimately do you both much more good. Stop letting your emotions rule your decision making process.

I left my BPD girl a year ago... Think one thing: are you staying because of the investment? I mean all the emotional efforts you have already done? If you don't want lose that investment, you'd better run away now because you will just have to risk much more if you stay. Does it make sense?

>>722893144
How did it go when you left? How did she react?

>>722892810

first in english lit and journalism

>>722889027
Projections and assumptions in mind, it would seem you are clearly a horrendous retard with cheetoh bits on his shirt.

>>722890757
It must be nice to be this dense and stupid sometimes kek

>>722891565
Troll face is troll
why do you even exist to troll people with severe emotional issues? what a fucking loser

>>722884833
>op fixes her
>his gf leaves him for some chad bc she's at a different point in her life now
literally just keep her there and let her stay crazy if you want your dick wet. true talk.

>>722891750
does your box have room for another cat? you might need another cat.

>>722893672

I know right, the fact everyone has emotional issues to deal with some worse than others but they actually have the mental capability to seek out help when it's needed rather than be a burden on not only the people they love but also themselves preventing them from moving forward in life and actually enjoy it.

Or there partners happen to be going through it and they care enough about the person to make them seek help and should they ultimately not want to them come to the realization that the person must not actually love them all that much in return if they're simply unwilling to at least try.

So stupid and dense.

tell her to kill herself

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>>722893864

It's not trolling but hey if you really want to assume logic is trolling, you stay in that little world of yours. You already seem to want to cut yourself over imaginary issue.

>>722892107
lol this guy knows EVERYTHING!!! Grand Master of the human psyche over here fellas!
Your a shitty troll it's just too obvious.

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>>722894078
>>722893975
>>722893864
>>722893672

Samefag is just cranky he or someone he cares about wasn't strong enough to take care of themselves.

As Mr T would say "I pity the fool"

>>722892897
>ironically adds salty meme even though is the saltiest cunt of all start-finish
>troll face is troll
>"hrruuugnnnrrrrrrrrrr me know all of everything, your gf stupid, you stupid me know your lives you stupid HURRRRRRRRRRR"
you are a literal waste of space kek my sides

>>722893395

did she get any kind of job related to utilizing those "firsts" skills? maybe if she didn't get a job or has none at all, there probably exists some sort of reality vs. "but i got 4.0GPA in college, i MUST be queen shit of everything!"

reality must have kicked her in the ass after graduating. i know ppl who were "kings and queens of shit" in my college classes, but they got destroyed when they tried to find jobs that anyone and everyone can do.

>>722893997
Yes. You are. That was my point. Do you even read your responses or do you just keep scrolling? lol

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>>722894263

and he's stillllll gooooing

>>722894077
>projections projections projections
Coming from someone who clearly has plenty of emotional/mental issues, this could not be funnier. I am laughing at you irl fam.

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>>722894380

I get it now, you're just trolling, it's ok anon, hope you have a good day and I'm glad you're not actually this stupid

>>722888786

snek is right, you know?

>>722894479
>>722894493

>>722894179
>cringy troll knows it all
Your English sucks stay home with mommy and give up on the outside world entirely fag.

>>722884833

>borderline personality disorder

Run, you fool. There is no effective treatment for BPD. You cannot help her, but she WILL destroy you.

If it makes you feel any better, she will almost certainly not kill herself; her sort rarely performs that service to humanity. It is merely another empty threat she uses to control you.

Run.

Do not look back.

>>722894658
>>722894493

>>722887448

This anon knows what he is talking about. Most mental health professionals would rather deal with violent schizophrenics than BPDs.

>>722894493
A nice rounded way of pinching off your shit posts and not assuming any responsibility for your retarded view of things here or your trollish behavior.
You truly are a shit person anon lol. Like the kind of troll no one can like.

>>722894858
>>722894493

>>722884833
what was that about not sticking your dick in crazy?

>>722887321
Bro, ive got this shit

Take her on a date. But not just any date: one that you had set up and planned the day before

What is on this date? A path, filled with things like statements on why you love her, things that are good about her, various milestones in your relationship

Walk slowly through the path and let her take it all in, and then at the end.. have shit that you want to be in the future. Marriage, kids, etc. Then at the very very end, one big, sappy ass statement like "i love you because i need you"

Fucking brainwash her into worshipping you, become her fucking god

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>>722895158
Man this is the worst advice. If she does come to idolize him, once OP leaves her she'll be sure to murder him or do something completely retarded because her whole world will come crashing down. She's already insane, so channeling her insanity into reverence of OP is inadvisable to say the least.

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Why would you waste your entire life with some insane chick with so many serious mental problems. You're going to be miserable for the rest of your life. You could very easily dump her, find someone else and live happily ever after. My advice to you is to move to hawaii, buy a house for less than 100,000, drink pina coladas and fuck as many horny tourists our dick can handle. You'll forget about her in a week.

>>722895158

rather counterproductive. she will latch onto all those dates and treat those as just more things so leech from without having to do anything to earn the date (so to speak).

if op starts talking about kids, etc., and she doesn't want that lifestyle, she'll bugger off and find someone who only wants domesticated pets as kids.

OP, none of these people know what they're talking about. You should listen to me. I've been dating a girl with BPD for 2 years now.

There is no hope. She will not get better. You kind of have three options here: leave her, learn to live with it, or get destroyed. I don't know what your motivations are to stay with her and I'm not sure you know them either, but you're going to have to figure them out and compare them to the consequences of staying.

>>722889676
you've clearly never had an actual mental health problem, either that or you're absolutely fucking retarded

>>722895875
>>722894493

I'm gonna post some more shit here because I just read some more clueless responses from people who think it's a simple problem of telling her that you love her. Nothing you say will change anything. You could treat her like shit, or you could treat her like a princess, doesn't matter. There are only two shades of color to her - black and white. She'll love you like crazy, until she doesn't. When her BPD flares up, she will turn against you, herself, and the world. Don't fight with her. Don't argue with her. Don't do shit. You might get lucky and snap her out of it with a key phrase, but probably not. Look, her moods are caused by an actual imbalance in the brain. Trying to make her better is like saying therapy is going to help a paraplegic - no, they will never walk again (with conventional medical treatments). All that can be done is help cope with the disorder.

>>722895847

So why are you with her?

>>722884833
why can't you faggots learn to stay away from this type of female.
they are fucked beyond help. getting them help doesn't work. the reason they don't go for help is because they want, and sometimes need, to be fucked up.
and dragging others down with them is what they thrive on.

they're emotional vampires.

walk away, what happens afterwards is of no concern to you.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yen7UVKTWC0

>>722884833
>borderline
Honestly, that's the biggest problem when it comes to a relationship.

>>722896523
Because I have a high tolerance for stress that stems from a large amount of apathy for the things happening around me. She's good enough when she's not going psychotic.