Advice Thread. Tell me your lil' bullshit fucking problems,

>>718169852
How do I shot web?

The OP is a giant faggot who thinks he has worthwhile advice. What do?

My man AdmiralBulldog is being seduced by an Australian she devil named SinnedDonut and wont stream anymore. He's fucking playing WoW instead =(

plz help op

>>718169852

I can resolve whatever comes my way on my own. I dont need your help faggot.

>>718169852
>>>/adv/

OP is a faggot

>>718169906
become spodermen

>>718169994
leave thread and never come back

>>718170024
do a barrell roll

>>718170081
k bye

>>718170217

kys

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Y'all can do better than that.

>>718169852
I'm a 19 year old university student with mediocre graded. I'm currently a sophomore and every time I tell myself I'm going to exceed, I end up losing all motivation to do my best.

I have no money and live off of my parents' money until I can get a scholarship, but like I said my grades are too mediocre to get anything. I also can't find a way to balance a job with my school schedule, so I have no job.

Girl I knew for 8 years told me she loved me almost 2 years ago and then left me for her shitty ex. She calls me up now and then to "talk" but I think she only does it to torment me and feed off my interest in her.

Then my final problem (and arguably the root of all my problems) I lack confidence. I would probably have alot of confidence if I had a decent looking face but I just don't, so I have no confidence.

>>718169852
How do we solve the nigger problem?

>>718170299
Not OP.

See a psychiatrist. You're on your parents insurance til 26 so it's cheap. Answer the depression test honestly.

Cut off communication with the Girl. Seriously, never talk to her again. She's using you to feel good when she feels shitty, and it's making you feel worse.

After checking whether or not you need to be on antidepres shiz, or the add spectrum, start doing shit you're interested in. Literally anything. Make the decision to pursue something, and then do it.

Imagine your schooling is a job. Put 40 hrs a week into it. Class time + time spent in a library studying or doing homework. Check results in 6 months.

>>718169852
need to decide weather or not to spend $400 on a bass ive been wanting for years that went on sale in my area, have been needing a new one or if i should save my money for something else.

>>718170808

Ship them back to Africa.

>>718170299
volunteer or take an unpaid internship. you're 19 so you probably have no fucking clue what you want to do with your life, so just pick something thats interesting or has something to do with a hobby. jobs are hard to get for college kids with no experience, but internships and volunteer work are pretty easy to find and both look good on a resume. you usually have more schedule flexibility, plus you can afford it because your parents are paying your way.

stop talking to that bitch, seriously. the girl is calling you up for emotional and conversational support because her ex-now-boyfriend probably treats her like shit, which is why he is fucking her and you arent. either chew her the fuck out and hang up next time she calls you wanting to talk about her bullshit, or just don't answer. yeah actually just dont answer. nothing good will come of that.

you have the same misconception about confidence that a lot of young people have. you dont sit down with a pen and paper and brainstorm "hmmm how do i confidence???" confidence is not a goal, it's a byproduct of achievement in your life. pick two things you want to be better at. for example the big one for me is physical fitness, but they can literally be anything you want to be good at. work at them until you are and until the results are visible in some way to others. that good feeling that you have at the end when you're better than you were before? that's confidence.

I'm addicted to Heroin and I'm trying to get out via subutex but I don't know how hard it's going to suck when I stop taking the subs. Some people say getting off subs is easy, just 6 days or something of mild discomfort like having a cold, but still able to sleep and everything - but there area a million posts on the internet saying how much harder it is to stop taking subs over heroin, saying they would take ct heroin any day over a sub taper/kick, I don't see how because heroin ct is the worst possible pain so bad it should not exist as it's inhumane, I didn't sleep for about 8 days, but these sub people say this shit drags on for a month or something. Jeez if its so bad then why has it been approved for and used as a tool to get off opiates easily?

>>718170299

Nigga just because you're fugly doesn't mean you need to mope about it. Find a girl who looks like she's in your ballpark and fuck her crippled. Build that self-confidence back up.

I don't wanna date this chick but she probably thinks we are I wanna tell her naww I'm just tryna be single but I like kicking it with her wat do

Im a sperg who cannot talk to women
Please deliver, op

I really want to fuck my girlfriends older sister , everytime i go to parties with them and dance her sister always gives me looks of desire and i just lose it.

>>718171868
Ask your girl if she's up for a 3 way.

28 yr old virgin

Misanthrope

Want to fuck

Don't want hookers

Thoughts?

>>718171957
>28 year old misanthrope is unsurprisingly a virgin

You deserve to be a virgin then. Get a hooker or fuck off.

>>718170808
more equitable distribution of property tax dollars into the public school system.
programs and incentives to reduce single parent households in low-income black communities.
more effective training and preparation for police officers who work beats in these communities.
more policing in these communities.

>>718171139
thats a really silly thing to ask another person. it's an even sillier thing to ask someone who doesnt know you. it depends on how much you earn, how much you have in the bank, what your monthly expenses are, whether or not you view it as an investment and can earn income from it.

>>718171954
I wish, shes open to it but not willing with her sister. Shed only 3 way if she gets to fuck another guy but being the shitty guy i am id rather not have someone ram a dick in her ass only for me to fuck a friend of hers

Virgin but too beta to ask girl out. How fix?

>>718169852
Jumped into a relationship too fast a after being heart broken, now I don't feel happy. What do I do? In detail

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>>718172111
>Shit advice

>>718169852
So how do i tell my girlfriend whove ive been telling i havent fucked anyone but her but really ive fucked someone she knew and hooked up with her best friend that ive done all that? Without her losing her shit. Like would a middle of a orgasm be good? Or over some coffee?

>>718171526
im assuming by the way youre talking youre an iv user. i have a buddy who was big into H but only ever smoked and snorted. id recommend going cold turkey. dont think of it as trying, because that mindset will only lead to failure. have a friend or somebody sober around to keep you accountable if you can. get a whole gang of weed and just get stoned; that triggers relapse for some people but not everybody, and if you can stand it, itll help take the edge off the dt's and sleeplessness. im not really familiar with subutex, but suboxone is one that blocks the receptors so taking the drug literally does nothing.

>>718171613
tell her what you just told me. if she likes fucking you enough she'll stick. since we're having this convo im assuming you care about her somewhat. if you dont care about her at all, lie to her and keep fucking her. duh.

>>718171864
practice on randos and fail until you get better. you're not going to be easy or comfortable. hardly anything in life worth having is.

>>718171868
every guy in every relationship ever deals with this, whether its a sister, friend, or random acquaintance. women hate doing legwork to find out if a guy is worthwhile, so they love taken men. weigh your options. how much do you like/love your girlfriend vs. how bad do you want to fuck your sister. also, bear in mind that if you plan on fucking the sister and staying with your gf, the sister will know for the rest of the time youre together.

>>718171957
find avenues to engage in conversation with new people. try to see the good in them. you have to learn to carry a normal convo with a human and not be hopelessly negative all the time before any woman will like you enough to want to fuck you. free your mind, and dat ass will follow.

I've got a small (14cm) dick.

5 years on a good relationship, my gf is amazing. But I started to felt deeply atracted by a friend of our social circle. I often try to forget that shitty idea but I just can't get her out of my fucking mind. What should I do?
P.S. I cheated before, told her, and she forgave me, I know I don't deserve this girl.

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i have a stem phd but i can't find a job, been NEET for 9 months now

>>718172426
Stop hating people then.

Wow so fucking hard. Now that you got the difficult part over with, go put your dick in someone.

>>718172770
Orgasm. People think clearly and positively during an orgasm

>>718173414
Never better than to hear i hooked up with your bestfriend during a great orgasm am i right?

>>718173150
>he fell for the stem meme

That's what you get for listening to 4chan. What you really should have done is some side work that builds up your resume, not go all in on just your degree.

>>718173638
Better yet, aim for the simultaneous orgasm. That way while your blowing your load, you have the motivation and positivity to tell her you fucked her bestfriend and she has the positivity and clarity to accept the fact.

I really like this girl i go to school with. She sits at the round table in front of me, i sit at the kidney table with my friends. She also rides my bus but usually just sits with her friends. Ive made her laugh a couple times, weve talked, but never had a full comversation. What should i do?

>>718173111
and?

>>718173117
see answer before about the guy and his girlfriends sister. it seems like you care more about your gf than he does about his tho.

>>718173150
well phds are definitely geared toward academia. if you dont have experience in the professional world, you need to just take a job quick even if its not the caliber youre looking for. aim lower, if only temporarily.

>>718172770
first, learn how to use a fucking comma. second, there is no easy way to break the news of infidelity to someone who loves you. dont be a pussy and do it in public. that kind of news is going to make her throw a fit and rightfully so, so just save yourself the embarrassment. and this goes without saying dont do it mid-orgasm, dumbass. the shittiest news in the world cant make someone half as mad as a ruined orgasm.

I'm trying to stop masturbating because I hear it actually does alot of good for you. I can't stop getting urges though. I'm on day 3 but I've been getting close to relapsing and I feel that every hour that passes by makes me one step closer to just rubbing one out and succumbing to my porn addiction.

Help me. Please.

I will be graduating college soon. I can take a job with higher starting pay ($55K) in a field that doesn't have as many advancement opportunities or take a smaller salary (35k) but there i much more room for opportunity. My girl is making 50k so i can afford to take the smaller salary. Which do i take? Dont particularly care for either field.

>>718169852
GET ME A DECENT PAYING JOB, OP!

No, don't tell me to fill out applications. Don't tell me to go to an employment agency, or tell me to mow the entire town's fucking lawn.

I've already done all of that.

MAKE SOMEBODY GIVE ME A CALL BACK. CAN YOU DO THAT, OP YOU ALL-TALK GROOVEY MOTHER FUCKER?

>>718173888
I hope you didnt think i was serious about breaking bad news during a orgasm. jesus fuck, i think i heard someone whisper in my room. I am shit scarred.

>>718174046
in my own experience, going completely nofap is not very useful or pragmatic. not having occasional release makes you tense and nervous, which women pick up on like a bad fart in an elevator, and also no matter who you are it fucks with your stamina in bed to abstain completely. its fine to jerk off once every week or even 4 days when you feel the urge. just dont do it to porn. porn teaches your brain to treat sex as a means to an end, rather than an experience to be prolonged and enjoyed.

>>718174101
what are the jobs? im assuming the 35k one with advancement is sales.

How do I change bad habits? I cannot go to bad in time, always feel like I have to watch just another episode of sth or read just another thread and it fucks my next day up, I'm sleep deprived all week. Also I have a terrible procrastination habit, I can't get myself to do anything, postpone tasks for months, even a simple thing like doing the dishes.
Haven't had a gf for years, I know it's missing from my life, but all the MGTOW stuff I've read keeps fucking with my head, kinda started hating on women as a whole even though nothing bad has happened to me personally.

>>718174101
Not OP

Go for 35k. Where there's more opportunity, there's more happiness. Your girl probably wont be making 50k forever but chances are you'll be making 55k until you die if you go that route.

Regardless of how silly what I just said is, just think about the fact that 35k is very well over having a livable income. If there's lots of room for oppurtunity then just go for it.

I can't fuck for more than a minute without cumming. I have tried jerking off beforehand, but it doesn't really do much.

I don't fuck women I don't find attractive.

>>718173841
have a full conversation with her, numbnuts lol. also i know its really hard to grasp because youre still in high school and definitely underage because you ride a fuckin bus to school, but you really dont like her that much. shes just the only attractive girl whos ever paid attention to you. this is normal for your age, so just say fuck it and go talk to her. talk to her until another funny thing falls out of your face and makes her laugh again, and then right after that ask her on a date. dinner and a movie is good. some kind of party where you can show her that youre not a sperg and have at least some friends is better. the main thing is just ignore your anxiety and fear of failure and do it, because if she doesnt like you, youre in the same damn place anyway. good luck.

>>718173888
My answer it's exactly the same that anon's. She's more likely doing a threesome with a male, but i'm not open for it. Also, I guess she's figuring out. Always getting jelous about our friend in special. She's pretty insecure about my loyalty (well, I gave her reasons to).

>>718174684
Don't flex your dick muscles when you fuck. Practice edging.

1st is accounting. I say lesser opportunity for advancement because ihave no desire to get CPA certification or work in public accounting. 2nd is sales. Another option is accounting for school district. more holidays , more time to myself . about 45K pay

>>718169852
How do I reconcile with celibacy? First relationship dissolved after eight years, found that I cannot into dating, hookups or relationships for the life of me so I'm pretty certain my run is over.

What do?

>>718174838
>accounting

That fucking word just gives me PTSD. Fuck.

>>718174233
nope. finding job a you want and convincing someone to gamble on paying you money every month is hard. no one is going to or can do that for you.

>>718174299
im not trying to be hard on you but dude shut the fuck up. you literally have everything that people want at your age handed to you, and youre bored and unmotivated and out of shape. get in shape. focus on your studies. look for an engineering internship, there are tons. volunteer when youre not in class. stop jerking off so much. also, stop jerking off so fucking much. that shit is a shortcut around the one neurological pathway that motivates to do literally anything. limit yourself to once every 5 days. no more porn. the girl stuff will take care of itself. you're like 3 steps away from being happy. just start walking.

>>718174559
yeah dont read that dumb angsty shit. if you have repeated problems with women, sorry but the problem lies with you. that doesnt mean there's no fixing it. just look at the above response and use everything that applies to you.

>>718174684
textbook porn addiction. porn fucks with the way your body perceives sex. tricks you into thinking you get it all the time, and that you get it all the time. welcome to reality motherfucker: you dont. the other thing it does it makes you focus on your pleasure. you have no motivation to last because you have a fucking harem of hoes in 1080p 24/7. when you do masturbate, use your damn imagination and focus on drawing it out longer each time. also, focus on your breathing during sex. keep it deep and consistent, even if it sounds weird out loud. really does work.

>>718172980
Subutex is Buprenorphine, Suboxone is Buprenorphine and Naloxone at a 4:1 ratio respectively. The Naloxone is there to prevent users injecting the drug to try and get high, it's a full antagonist so it fucks people up when they do that, however when taken sublingually nearly all the Naloxone gets destroyed via first pass metabolism so it has no effect

Yeah I had loads of weed to hand when I went cold turkey but it helps with the edge but not by much, it's still utterly intolerable, nothing will get you to sleep. I did feel a lot better after the whole process, I don't know if I will have the same glow after dropping the Subs, or is there going to be months of crippling depression.. I'm so fucked

>>718169852
My girlfriend found out I lied about getting high and now she's mad at me and doesn't think I love her. What do OP?

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>>718175472
Now what if you're not addicted to porn but just masturbate too much?

Like 3 times a day too much?

>>718175472
>fap once every 5 days
>use your imagination

Not those guys but I'm glad I don't have to quit fapping forever. This sounds like a good routine. Are there any other noticeable benefits besides losing the porn addiction?

>>718175537
yeah opiate addiction is a shit hand, but one that you dealt yourself. i mean for a lot of people it comes down to whether you want to live or die, which for philosophical reasons im not going to give you advice on. but you're either going to have to endure the pain and risk dying of withdrawals or keep on going til you OD or develop an abcess and die of gangrene. there is no quick easy way out, and the real stink of it is the drug has weakened the fuck out of your mind because thats all heroin is, a shortcut to happiness. bottom line, its going to suck worse than anything youve ever experienced, but do you want to live or not?

>>718175827
do you masturbate to porn when you do it?

I have a situation with my ex. We're still friends. We were together for two years(2013-2015). She dumped me in September of 15 but we stayed really good friends. So good it turned into a relationship again. That only lasted for 7 months. Ended again in July of last year. But this time she hated my guts. Like I was the biggest loser to her. But then about a month later she apologizes to me and we become friends again. Really close friends. So, I try asking her if she wants to give the relationship one more go, but she shoots me down saying we're just going to stay friends this time. But for some reason she still talks to me about how much she masturbates and how she hasn't had sex since we were really together. I got the idea to ask her if she'd like to be fwb. She happily agees. For like a day. Then she goes completely cold on me. She called me an asshole and ignored my texts for about a week and a half. She then starts talking like she did before. Again. Still good so far as of today. My questions are does she still want something with me? And what action should I take?
>kms
But seriously. Help a comrade out.

>>718175894
yeah youre actually motivated to take risks when it comes to talking to women. you get a good idea of what your standards actually are; not just imposed by the habit of fooling your mind and body into thinking you can fuck any woman you want whenever. more energy during the day. sleep better at night.

Im moving to Colorado, and may come into contact with an ex I stopped talking too. She is likely very displeased with me, and im wondering if i should try to make contact and smooth things over, or just ignore it and see what happens IF I meet her. She got upset with me, and I deleted her contact to try to be left alone. Last we spoke was march of last year, and im afraid she may still have feelings for me/ and I her.

>>718175959
I actually use my imagination to cut my morning wood and then porn right before I go to sleep at night. During the middle of the day I either go with my imagination or porn. It's a strange balance, but I seem to lean more on porn. Specifically amateur porn though. Porn stars can be beautiful sometimes but it's too fake for me to like professional porn. I need something genuine, so I go amateur always. Knowing that, I don't really feel like I can fuck whatever I want because I'm fucking shit at attracting girls.

Fuck, on second thought, I might actually be addicted to porn- amateur porn. Not like there's a difference though.

>>718176038
first of all that bitch sounds crazy. second of all, youve got to ask yourself what you want from her. whatever the answer is, youve got to be absolutely direct with her about what you want. dont be rude or angry about it, but be firm and dont give her room to ask for concessions. women are beautiful tender human submarines, as ken bone put it, but they are terrible at making decisions and live in a constant state of insecurity. women crave the decisiveness and leadership that only a man can offer, and if she wants anything from you, thats it. make it clear that you want her back, but you're not interested in being in some weird friendship limbo. if she says no, reacts angrily, or tries to guilt you back into it, say sorry i cant do this anymore and walk out of her life. if she comes back to you accepting the terms youve set, take her back on a trial basis and hold firm. if she doesnt, good riddance. be firm. have principles. stick to your guns. be a man.

>>718175932
I only smoke it as it's the safest route of administration, so I'm not worried about OD or abcesses, perhaps pneumonia, but also the impact on my social life, not that I had much of one in the first place because I'm a fucking aspie, or having a girlfriend ever, my teen years were wasted chasing some girl that was giving out mixed messages and basically fucking with my head for fun so that's a big ass hole in my life, wasting money that I can't afford to waste, my job is tolerable but pays shit and I don't think there's opportunity to get a job like it elsewhere or whatever, I feel like my life is going to shit anyway and being on heroin wouldn't make much of a difference on the outcome

>>718176284
i cant believe so many of you live in this weird limbo where you have feelings for a girl/ex, but its somehow uncomfortable or inappropriate to talk to them (?). if she still feels something for you, she'd still be talking to you. if she's not, she doesn't.

>>718176512
jerking it to porn twice a day is literally the definition of porn addiction. fuck getting laid, how long has it been since you actually approached a girl whom you found attractive?

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I have two wives. We are bringing on a third. The problem is we are stealing her from my best friend. Should I keep processed with this unexpected romance? Or nah.?

>>718176717
She has sent me many a message since i stopped talking to her, and i didnt read alot of them. I was not in a very good place when i did this. They stopped around october, and ive cleaned up most of my friends lists on steam psn etc. Its not limbo, more of a... im a really shitty person and drop the ball with people alot. Should i try to fix things or ignore them i guess.

>>718176621
what fantastic news. youre never going to die from your addicition, just wander the earth as a listless zombie in junkie purgatory, not quite dead but certainly not living. fuck the antagonists, kick that bullshit cold turkey. no crutches. no help. withdrawals from smoking suck but theyre not going to kill you. the only way youre going to kick the shit permanently is to retrain your brain to do difficult shit to gaina reward, rather than just lighting some shit on fire. and dont ask me anything else about this. your problem is fucking hard to solve, one of the hardest, but by no means is it complex. its a question of willpower and thats it.

>>718175544
tell that bitch to hit the blunt and chill the fuck out. thats serious advice btw.

>>718176796
Err... when I was like 14 I think? I never even approached my first and only girlfriend. I had to get my best friend to sort of nudge her in my direction, then I talked to her.

I fucking forgot the last time I approached a girl. Holy fucking shit. Somebody save me.

>>718177117
She used to smoke but doesn't anymore and she wasn't mad at me for smoking. she was mad that I lied. T.T

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>>718177201
literally stop jerking off for a month, just to prove to yourself that you can do it. after that limit yourself to like once a week, no more. every learned behavior you have about women and sexual release is fucking wrong. you dont even have motivation to say hi to chicks you think are cute because youve trained yourself out of the need for it

>>718177203
dont lie to girls youre dating, dumbass. you lie to them about little shit, they start thinking about how easy it would be to lie about bigger and bigger shit.

apologize to her for lying, and then tell you like smoking and are going to do it occasionally, but will be honest with her about it. once you say that stick to it, as in dont lie, but also dont let her talk you out of smoking if thats what you wanna do.

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>>718176585
I'll try that. Seriously, thanks a ton, man. And, yeah. She does seem crazy at points. It's not much, but have a beanman as a token of my appreciation.

>>718177079
I suppose I'll have to wait until I'm in the right mindset, there has been a couple of opportunities but they have been missed. It would be easier if my life was worth a fuck. I wouldn't wish this affliction on anyone not even Hitler, I would rather spend a month in S-21 rather than go cold turkey again. Thanks for paying attention to my little problems

>>718177340
Not that guy but we're on pretty much the exact same boat.

The difference between us though as that I don't think it's that I'm not motivated enough to talk to women, I'm just too afraid of getting shot down, so I just avoid approaching them. My porn addiction just sort of stemmed from that lack of confidence. I really wanna approach a girl but I'm just too fucking scared to do it. I really do feel the need to talk to girls, but I just can't fucking do it.

>>718177480
saved

I cut contact with 90% of the people i knew in 2011 to get away from alot of druggies and less than quality citizens. This was mostly high school friends and shitty family. Now im moving and some of them got ahold of me because they are going to school where im going. Is it worth talking to them again or should i move on? They arent bad guys, but ive know them for years. Should i take the chance they stopped being gang members and druggies?

>>718177340
>for a month,
>he thinks that will make a difference
kek.

>>718169852
I need to get some work done but I'm too fucking lazy to do it, it has to be done tomorrow...
Time to kms?

>>718179774
Alright wise guy, what would you do in his situation?

>>718179774
>just to prove to yourself that you can do it

18, goto a university, and met this chick. To make a LONG ass story short...

>hooked up on orientation week
(Orientation is the week before school approx. August 14th)
>tell mates on floor
>1 mate went to school with her
>apparently cheated on every guy she was with and the guy she cheated with became the new guy
>check IG
>had pic of her and a guy with caption "year and half strong :)" 3 days before we hooked up
>said she had no bf
>continue fucking till like late november
>she got really attatched in the process, started calling me babe and shit and shit, wanted a commit
>said nah let's hookup with whoever
>asked her if she ever did while @college
>said I was the only one
>fucking bet
>later found out she hung out with her "ex" a couple times in beginning of Sept. without me knowing
>have seen said "ex" text her babe
Fast foward to December
>had a serious talk about commiting and confronted her on all her BS
>said that she hated HS because of all that drama and rumor
>to be fair, my floor mate was an absolute loser in HS and never really knew her
>gave her benefit of the doubt
>had GREAT sex that night
>"love you's" were thrown
>"Guess i'm dating her?"
Fast forward to a week ago
>Thinking we're dating as she proclaimed herself as gf before
>floor mate texts me that she saw her with her "ex" in wegmans
>We're on winter break atm
>She's in Rochester, I'm in Texas
>talk to her that night seeing how her day was.
>never mentions the day and apparently "forgot" what happened the day before
>asked her if we're officially dating
>"nope"
>asked her why she said "I love you" to me
>"skipped a few steps"
>don't believe her and call it a night
fast foward to now
>still says "I love you"
>gut feeling that she's still hanging with the dude
>she said that she's having one last sh-bang with her friend group
>I always ask who's in the group, says the same six names, but I've seen the guy in the group, yet never mentions him
>messaged her today this morning, never messaged back..

>>718179347
yeah it usually takes about 3 weeks of consistent practice to form good habits, but in this case youre not actually doing anything actively. youre trying to kick a bad habit by doing nothing, so it may take longer. only begin to fap again, once every five days, when you still feel that ache to bust a nut but it doesnt consume you and you can redirect that energy into more productive things.

>>718179774
>>718179952

op here, word to the wise. don't listen to this guy, dont consider his points, dont respond to him. just a naysayer trying to fuck with your attempt to improve your life.

>>718180209
p.2
She always messages something at night or messages me.

TBH She's definitely got some keeper qualities (4.0 GPA, great major, not stupid for the most part, great sex, 8.5/10 rating, really chill), however I am NOT getting cucked no matter what.

A relationship would be nice, but should I? I left out a LOT of info to make it short.

FYI I'm a house Nigger if y'all wanted to know and she's a white as white girls can be.
(Like it's almost cringey how uptight white she is, yet she admitted to loving a nigger?!?!)

I'm 6'3" she's about 5'10"

>>718180489

Race doesn't matter, bro. (I'm not OP, but thought I'd chime in on that).

OP, why don't you write a book? (srs)

>>718180209
>>718180489
No joke friendo, I was in a similar situation. Girl I was with wanted to commit but we couldn't date due to certain circumstances. Even so, she told me she loves me. Unfortunately for me, she had JUST cut ties with her ex, whom she still had feelings for. Nonetheless, we were stuck in limbo for a while. Then out of fucking nowhere she starts talking to her ex like every fucking day, but still continues to tell me she loves me. We still weren't dating though. Long story short, she told me to fuck off and cut all ties with me and went back to the old guy. She admitted she lead me on and while I tried to get her to not leave she told me to stop being dramatic. I told her I don't wanna be friends and she burst into tears. Felt shitty at first but knowing how fucked up she is, it feels good knowing that was the only alpha moment I had with her. (Pretty sure she told me to fuck off because I was too much of a beta for her)

In my opinion, you should tell her to fuck off. If she's going to tell you she loves you then that other scrub needs to go away. However, if she chooses to keep the other guy around and still tell you she loves you then she is NOT worth keeping around at fucking all. It's him or you. There's no other way around this. Hell, maybe if you man up and tell her to cut him off then she'll actually commit to you for real. Still though, my opinion stands. She's not worth starting anything with. She's using that loophole of not commiting to you to be with her ex. That way if shit hits the fan she can just say she wasn't obligated to be loyal to you, then proceed to blame you for being dramatic.

Cut her off.

>>718181163
Oh, I'm not OP. I figured I should just mention that.

>>718180209
op here, wanted to make sure you know it's actually me before i respond. i make it a point to be consistent about handing out rational, measured advice to people who really need it in these threads.

my advice to you is thus:
run. no goodbye, no talk, no explanation. dont call her, don't pick up. just ghost; you will be better off for it. this girl is an absolute unicorn of a sociopath and is playing you like a fiddle. she's not even using you for emotional support while fucking some other guy like the garden-variety whore does. she's seeing you, her ex, and who knows how many other guys and fucking ALL of you. im sorry, but youve run across and fallen for literally the worst kind of woman there is, other than maybe the ones who mutilate stray cats in back alleys to get their rocks off like some sort ted bundy wet dream of snow white.

get the fuck out of there. i would say treat this woman as badly as you can in the process because she absolutely deserves it, but honestly itll be more trouble than it's worth. just never talk to her again. if you run into her in public, pretend you never met. it sucks, but it's the only way.
also, learn from this, because you're kind of a dipshit for letting it go on this long.