>have gf for just over 2 years >lives with me >be last week >see messages of her flirting with some guy on fb >insecurity lvl 9001 >confront her >see instant guilt & regret in her >be mad, not tolerating this >never let her back inside once I found out >destroy everything of hers she left here (clothes, furniture, girly shit) >find out she's staying in her sisters garage >fill my car with the destroyed rubbish >drop it all in her sisters driveway >blocked/cut off all contact with her
last time I saw her was when I unloaded her last lot of stuff, she was crying that she's sorry. I completely ignored her. Now it's a few days later & over 70 missed calls, I'm starting to question if I went a bit too far with how I reacted. What does /b/ think?
>>675613072 She's a fuck around mate, she only wants you back because she can't have you and you acted like a man. She'll be upto her same shit if she get's back with you and she'll use it as an oppurtunity and game to gain your trust while trying to crush whatever confidence you have all while looking for new meat to play with.
Bottom line is you lose if you take her back, go fuck her sister or friend or something.
You did overeact. I mean imagine if the rolls were flipped. You wouldn't want your girl destroying your shit just because you were talking to some girl and then throwing it all on the ground in the only place she has left. I mean you don't have to get back with her, just apologize and acknowledge that you went overboard.
no, guilty does not mean she actively cheated. When I was in a failing relationship that I knew was going to end anyway and flirted with some guy online, and I mind you, it was light flirting (nothing sexual), I felt guilty as hell.
So feeling regret/guilt does not always mean cheating.
>>675613072 I wish I could be as strong as you OP. Not even kidding. Think of the many who have not the courage and willpower that you do. Remember this, it is wrong to question whether or not we have gone too far.
If there is indecision between two things, just flip a coin. If you don't know already what you want as the coin is landing, then you will know what you want when you see the side it's landed upon.
>>675613072 You went too far. It's understandable for you to dump her after that, but completely smashing her into a broken mental state so that she will probably never be able to trust anyone again is too much. Talk it over with her.
Most of the woman-hating /b/tard will tell you you did nothing wrong.
The answer is simple: It's your relationship, you draw the lines. You say flirting with someone else is too much? It's something you wouldn't do if you were given the chance? Well, then you're free to end your relationship over this. Will it ever be your right to "destroy" her personal stuff because you go jellymad over some faggot on facebook? No.
would be fine if you stopped your sentence at "probably fucked the dude", when you keep writing after that, the "probably" turns into "she must have fucked him so you are ok with destroying her stuff".
but we can not expect you, an autistic, to understand that
>>675614742 well, he will surely have problems as well, but part of a relationship is also accepting that the other might make mistakes and that, even if you can't forgive them (in this case it shouldn't be) you can behave normally, or at least not like some savage. Smashing her stuff seems a little immature to me, I know, destroying things helps a lot with anger, but next time, go chopping in the woods and take her with you.
>>675614658 no, by saying probably fucked the dude would mean he was in the right for destroying her shit. like the first sentence indicated, it would be overboard if she didn't actually bump uglies.
but the solid fact she was showing her goods off to other buyers is a pretty solid indicator that she'd eventually (or already did) get down with other dicks. so preemptively destroying her shit lays the ground rule: don't fuck around.
>>675613072 You're obviously incredibly juvenile and insecure, which is probably why she was bored of you and flirting with another man in the first place. I hope she sues you for criminal damage to her property.
Sounds like you would be better off with a dog than a girlfriend
>>675613072 grils need attntn if you didn't give her enough, she'll thankfully take it from guys like me and in no time i'd be banging her and she'd be all like "anon i wish i'd get that much attention from my bf but he just doesn't care anymore" and i'll be like "you don't deserve this" and in no time she'll be my little sloot that lets me do things to her that you can only dream of just bc she craves for attntn like an addict and i'll be nice and all and treat her like a princess and thus turn her into my own little bitch that's always down for a fuck
>>675613072 You set boundaries for her, OP. Women like boundaries and authority. They date their fathers, or seek out what they feel was lacking in their father figure. Give it another couple of days, then take her back or don't. You have control of the situation and she knows it, now. She'll be well behaved.
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>>675613072 >bitch lives on your expenses >at your place >been lying and playing games for 2 years >stayed with you because obvious financial/material comfort is obvious >i bet she dared to ask you countless times to pay her stupid shits >took you for granted >played in your back for a while just to test the waters >suddenly felt way too comfy in the relationship >she had undercontrol: no way he's going to find out my adventures with Chad... Anon is such a beta cuck >gets confronted with facts of the issue >gets into panic mode >QUICK! QUICK! THINK OF SOMETHING CLEVER >her body language communicates that she's deeply guilted with the potential possibility of losing all of her perks she had from being with you
No fucking mercy should be allowed, maybe breaking her shits was overboard but you did the right choice
With how society is turning nowadays, cunts uses emotional manipulation as a tool along with their cunt friends that they always bitch behind each others and gossipmongering
>>675613072 Im exactly on same situation dude, i did the same as you, except destroy his shit, she told me tonight she was going to kill herself, 3 years fucking wasted, but in mine case she was talking with him for phone
>>675615150 shut up cunt. If a woman is already interested in someone else that means she has lost respect for you as a man. Cheating or getting dumped comes soon after. A woman in love does not do that shit. OP went overboard with destroying her shit, but dumping her was the best route. Saved himself from a lot of bullshit in the future.
while this guy explains how that state can be exploited >>675615221
not judging here. it's in their genes to behave like this. lots of guys out there that don't have their dicks under control and are driven by testosterone but also loads of females out there that let their emotions have full control over them.
the emotionally driven ones make a good fuck but are only troubles in a serious relationship. you'll want one that is in control of her emotions if you are looking for a long term partner. unless you are into drama a well (which i consider an insane waste of time but that's all up to peronal preferences).
>>675613072 I mean, destroying her shit is probably a bit childish / crazy. Cutting off contact for cheating, that part is the right thing to do. Otherwise small cheating / flirting ends up with you kissing her after she blew two different guys at work that day.
Everything is good man. Destroying her stuff may have been a bit much. Not for her sake but it just makes you look like a psycho but all in all you're good.
Now talk to her and act as if you're coming around a bit. Don't flat out tell you want back with her. Have no strings attached with her for as long as you want.
This is more or less what I did to my cheating ex until she moved far away. She wanted me back and she let me fuck her whenever I wanted. But for this to work you have to not have any feelings for her what so ever or it'll fuck your head up
>>675613072 I've been in the same situation. I just kicked her the fuck out of my apartment and told her baptist parents. She was from some god box family and was using me as a escape, I took her in for a good fuck and she cheated.
Last time I saw her she was basically married off to some tragic autist with huge glasses and she sobbed for me to save her, and I told her to fuck off.
Off all the alpha shit that half these niggers will post but don't live up to, a if someone cheats on you they aren't worth your time and you cut them the fuck off.
My best friends gf once grabbed my dick when on a sofa and I told him in the kitchen within 20 mins. You don't tolerate that shit near or around you, only breeds mistrust.
>>675613072 ultimately i think its her that will benefit from getting rid of a total raging douche bag yes shes upset, just because her world been turned upside down, but eventually she'll see the lucky escapes shes had, and probably will end up dating who she flirted with, man she will look so good in her new clothes, win win
I think you all are chauvinist retarded women-hating faggots. Just imagine yourselves in her situation. Wouldnt you think that she is a desctructive crazy bitch if she did the same to you for just flirting?
>>675618163 Nah, it's not all this bad, pretty sure this comic is done by MGTOW. It's a cringy movement where men say the don't want women because they drag them down. We just need to change the law to not favour either sex.
There's an infidelity statement (I think that's the right word, I'm not a lawyer) that you can sign at marriage where if one person cheats on the other, then the person who gets cheated on gets compensation and basically all legal favour because they weren't degenerate.
Honestly, I'd prefer to just throw out marriage all together. It means nothing nowadays. It's lost its holiness, you can cheat and divorce and no one seems to give a hoot, it's gone from being frowned upon to something 'normal' in a very short amount of time. Not only that, but the jews behind jewelery stores charge you $2k for a fucking mineral Marie, and if you don't get one you're a cheapskate (clearly it's not true love if you aren't willing to spend $2k on a mineral with no intrinsic value, however let's forget about the bitches who are in love with you but also won't accept a ring worth less than 2 weeks salary). Diamond rings aren't tradition, jewelers made that bs up, and men have been paying for it ever since. The best way to be MGTOW without being a cringy fuck is to reside with a perma gf who understands that marriage means nothing anymore.
>>675618810 Thing is, I can flirt with other girls and it's okay. My key will not open their lock if I don't want it to. However, as soon as little miss whore opens her mouth to flirt, she pretty much greases up the ol' slip and slide and that lock pops open so much easier.
A key that opens every lock is a master key, a lock that is opened by every key is a shitty lock.
>>675618810 Flirting is ok in my book. But if OP has stated from the start that flirting is not ok, then it really doesn't matter which gender did the flirting. Smash their shit, and their face if you ask me.
>>675617835 because women don't know their place anymore. they just take and take, they aren't interested in making you happy they think you're the lucky one because she stays with you. you can love her as much as you want, they are stupid, lazy bitches. there was a legit reason why woman were treated much more worse in the past
>>675619076 If she knew from the beginning that its not okay with him, then it is okay to talk it out and eventually break up with her. But with cold head, not like a crazy angry ape. >>675619043 gr8b8m8
>>675619575 Nah bro I don't think she would have girls just don't chimp out, if I caught my girlfriend doing that I think of it as Open Season to cheat on her at best but I wouldn't break her shit and throw her out into the cold.
>>675619575 I had been cheating on gf while being abroad as an exchange student. I confessed it on my own and after some time she forgave me and we are together again. Women are humans too and each of them react in different way.
OP, do you think the 'look of guilt & regret' meant she legit fucked some other dude?
if so; you more than absolutely did the right thing.
But i think that if this bitch is still fucking crying and calling you probably means she has shit to explain (like that she didnt fuck another dude) because else she would have gone to that other dude imo.
you been with her for 2 years and didn't want to marry her then dump her you're not even cheating it seems more likely op just wanted an excuse to get out of the relationship so bottom line and probably both better off.
>>675613072 listen nigger that if your bitch is flirting the relationship won't last long anyway save yoursself some trouble and cut that bitch ive been in the same situation gave her 3 chancer because im a huge faggot and got reckt
>>675613072 In my experience, flirting *usually* indicates a desire to cheat in future. If she hasn't already.. Women are like monkeys, they'll make sure they have another branch to grab on before letting go of the first one. She might have just been talking, but eventually left unchecked she would quite plausibly latch onto that guys branch-in every hole
Sometimes you can make a huge shitshow and let her know it's not okay. You need to really give her a scare and let her beleive she's lost you, and then give her a chance again. It's crucial after this stage to also look at yourself. If there's a genuine reason she went looking for attention elsewhere beyond the fact she's just an attention whore or slut- then try to change yourself too. this isn't always easy and you need to be able to look atyourself objectively from an outside perspective and see flaws in your relationship or the way you treat her too. Don't be too quick to listen to her reasons as often it could be total BS about how you don't give her enough of you and she doesn't feel special, but likewise don't be too quick to dismiss them because sometimes theres genuine truth in them. This is hard to do
sometimes* that works and she'll never mess up again. I'm currently in a relationship that has been "fixed" for the last 4 years. this way I know because I'm paranoid as hell by nature and constantly find evidence supporting that, but no evidence supporting any shenanigans on her half. but right now she's absolutely loyal and she knows full well if i catch her doing anything she's gone in a second. And she doesn't want to go. May not last forever but it's certainly working now
Also like other have said you went overboard trashing the stuff. It's ALWAYS the best option to simply cut contact without any fanfare, and if you want to be crueler, treat her like a princess then suddenly split with no contact. Her mind will be more fucked than ever, because theres no anger, no closure and it's so sudden
>>675613072 Also you didn't explain how serious the flirting was or whether she's previously given off any red-flags or done anything to deserve mistrust.
70 missed-calls is a fair amount. I'd say have a cooling off period. Wait to see whether she crawls up to a new guy or she keeps trying to fish you back.
If she's strongly persistant, and the flirting was minor enough. Consider a second chance but make it absolutely crystal clear she's on a trial period. She'll need to apolgize and treat you like a king. She needs to know if it EVER happens again she's out quicker than she can say "he's just a friend"
All you stupid fucking cucks saying OP is wrong for ending the relationship are too beta for your own good and should honestly kill yourself if a girl after two years is shady enough to do that shit its only the beginning of the end and you're all fucking autistic for nor seeing it
In the present. Believe it or not I wouldn't marry or date any western woman anymore unless they are from a good family cheating and hurt happens way too often. It completely kills love and creates asswipes who will ruin their own lives with alcohol and drugs. Or mass sex guaranteed STD. I think best option is to date Asians, eastern like Russia, isolated west. Hell even niggers might be better. Within one generation as swipes will just be bound to each other and probably die out.
>>675613072 Ya did good anon. It hurts but what you did takes nads. I applaud you >pro tip Women always THINK they want control of a relationship. And they'll fight to get it. But when they do, everything turns to shit, and like children they will look at their man and say "This is your fault!" Blaming you for their mistakes. In reality it IS your fault, but only by letting her get the upper hand. This shit is in the Bible son, women want to be controlled. They crave it.
You had to get her out, you don't really know the extent of her infidelity, you might have caught it at the root, but maybe not. What you did got her the fuck out, so who cares what you did to someone who burned you so long as it worked.
With that said...
Your insecurity was already up since you decided to look up her phone and text history. Flirting is not cheating, and since you are obviously jealous and not very confident to begin with, her flirting might be a natural response to your possessiveness. Your jealous ass drove her to seek attention from more secure men, she might've not even been planning to act on it, but she lacked the security a confident man brings.
You sound like you suck. But she doesn't sound great either.
>>675625618 >be anon >has gf >said gril friend is fucking tyrone >bitch be actually cucking the shit right out of anon >yet according to your logic >get this >anon is tard for going all alpha on the bitch
You're literally a retarded faggot. Kill yourself.
>>675624068 >>675624279 They may not be dubs, but they speak the truth. Go forth and find a woman. Not a grill, a woman that you can trust. Make family, live good life, and laugh heartily when you see her in 10 years with 100 extra pounds working a shit job.
>>675613072 Fuck no you didn't over react. You did the best thin you possibly could. You caught that shit before it even started. She would do it again. You saved your self a lot time and heart ache. Good job op maybe you aren't a faggot after all.
OP, she was probably cheating on you or at least seriously considering it. It's not difficult to stop yourself from flirting so yeah you dodged a bullet.
Honestly though I wish more faggots on this website had the guts to do what you di.
I found out my bitch was stealing money from me once and lying to me, and she was living with me along with her 10 year old. So i kicked them both out and tossed their shit off the balcony down to the ground.Then she tried to steal my phone and take it with her, so later that day i went to her own place, took my phone back and slashed every soft fabric i could find including her bed.
She was out of the house at that time.
But yeah, moral of the story op, if bitches be fuckin' wit you, fuck wit their lives.
>>675613072 You didn't do anything wrong. Nothing else needs to be said, but here's the truth.
People don't wait, get married and then move in together. That's 1930s bullshit. People couple up, date exclusively almost immediately and move in together. Marriage 2.0 because we're serfs and the economy is fucked.
She broke the agreement. She depended on you for financial security, and everything that goes with being in a closed, committed relationship.
Then she got bored, decided to see if she had a high enough social value to trade up on you. Find your superior.
You just saved yourself from a divorce in 5-10 years, and even more loss. Flirting? No, she was testing the waters.
DO NOT FEEL BAD. That's her only weapon. She feels horrible because
1. she exposed her game, making her a joke in her social circle.
2. She feels the immediate loss of security you provided.
3. She sees that her social value isn't as high as she thought, you're the best option she has, and that is destroying her ego.
4. Face it. You'll never, ever trust her again.
She fucked up. How you reacted doesn't matter, it's in the past. What matters is what you do next. Go find someone who actually respects you as a man and is deserving of you and what you provide.
>>675618810 And if the genders in this situation were reversed there would not be a crowed of hair dyed harpies screaming "YOU GO GIRL!" & "GIRL POWER!", men have had enough and are not tolerating being shamed into complying any longer.
1.If a girl flirts or cheats once - she will do it again 2.If a girl flirts with another guy - she will take this further eventually and some day you will catch her in your bed with someone else 3.There are no exceptions to statement 1 and 2
>>675613072 BRO. IF YOU FORGIVE HER IT'S OVER. SHE DOMINATES YOU. YOU ARE A CUCK. ARE OYU A FUCKING CUCKOLD? DONT LET SOCIETY MAKE YOU THINK YOU'RE GUILTY FOR CUTTING OFF A LYING CHEATING WHORE. THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU FAGGOT. FUCKING HELL MAN! DON'T BE BRAINWASHED
>>675625839 >>675618808 >>675615058 He didn't say "get back together with her", just pay for her shit that he destroyed. Honestly destroying property isn't really justified no matter how big of a cunt someone is. Unless they fuck with your property first, but this wasn't the case
You took the wrong road to your destination, but is IS the correct destination. You don't want to be with a girl that is not going to be loyal.
Doesn't matter if she was just flirting - flirting always escalates. A girl doesn't show interest and never let it go beyond that. When she finds a guy that says all the right things, she is on that cock fast. It's best to get out before it gets too involved.
So, yes, you absolutely over-reacted and you look like some fucking raged out juicer. But, you still did the right thing by getting rid of her. Just take it down a bit next time, chief.
>>675630844 I think what other men are overlooking is the message this event is going to put out to the female friends of OPs ex, OP has done you all a service, females are very much a herd type community, if they think this is a potential outcome for their philandering, they will think twice.
Why do you think girls act in such horrible cuntish ways to men? , they believe their actions have no negative consequences.
Whilst the destruction of the ex's belongings may have been a bit much, this sort of thing needs to happen every once in a while to remind women that men are people with feelings just as much as they are.
>>675613072 I will speak from experience OP, gather round and let me tell you of my tale...
My ex girlfriend was keeping in contact with her ex secretly for years behind my back, even though I gave her absolutely everything. I regret the five and a half years I spent waiting on her to get married, only to be destroyed with no warning and had her lie to my face about wanting her ex back.
This all happened after I gave her chance after chance; I do however disagree with destroying her stuff though. It's important to keep a cool head and refrain from lowering yourself to that level of indignation.
Now after my year long heartbreak, I'm a new man. I'm slicker than before with a stone cold front and have girls wet for me because of my hardships (Basically I'm apathetic about everything but ooze hardcore indifference). It changed me as a person too but it's not without its benefits. I now have a very attractive submissive bisexual girlfriend who cooks, cleans, and shares other women with me and I couldn't be happier.
You make your own happiness OP; make yours happen too.
>>675613072 Nah you did fine. If she's flirting she either cheating or about to soon. You'll get over the guilt in a few days. Just drink and party with your mates and good riddance to bad rubbish brother.
>>675613417 is the middle east a prehistoric country full of unevolved savages who we should seriously just nuke right out of existence because it would honestly solve tons of the worlds problems and save the lives of countless civilized people who actually matter?
> be me, 20y > just got gf (about 3-4months) > gf be: 27y, asian (looks like 22 for me), sexy, cute, and has thinking like a man; means: no unnessecary quarreling etc.etc.
> Have fun together > actual EQUAL relationship (well, more or less, since she could theoretically provide more than me, but I do more, because I get money and she doesnt)
> overall, I think I love her, and think shes the perfect women as a mother, lover, and having a happy life together
But we havent had sex yet. Not because she doesnt want to, we both want. But it seems like she has vaginismus, and we need to fix it somehow.
So. People of /b/. > Any suggestions, tips, help for a relationship freshman? > maybe u know how to get rid of vaginismus or have experience with it? > have another thing to talk about, but would like to know wether I get responses on this at all or not
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