>Be ME >manipulate gf for kicks >know exactly what to say to her to make her think I love her. >the thing is... I don't feel or believe any of the things I tell her. I only say them because I know that is what she wants to hear or what she values. >Looking at life as if I am a confirmed sociopath >Wishing I could love her
>>657159984 Kinda in the same boat as you OP. With my gf and i care for her more than anything but just dont feel the same way I used to when I met her but all females are emotionally unstable and I know that if I leave her she will lose it and become spiteful and say she will try and kill herself so I just stay cause there is no way out.
I have the exact same thing OP. Fuck am I a sociopath too?
I've had multiple girlfriends, one lasted for 4 years, the relationship i'm in now is going on for 2 years.
But I've never experienced love. Never. I don't know what it is. I just say the 'right' words to keep her happy. But I never mean any of them.
I also flirt with lots of other girls via WhatsApp and Snapchat. All very controlled, so my current girlfriend could never find out. The girls I flirt and sext with, never know each other or don't even have common friends.
I have this urge to flirt with other girls, in the hope I can find real love with them, i guess?
I've been like this since I had my first few girlfriends at the age of 13, I've never really loved a person. I dont even know if im capable of loving someone ever, heck I might not even know what the feeling feels like
ITT: A bunch of faggots scared of confrontation trying to play it off like they're the manipulative ones, while they're trapped in loveless relationships reaffirming their girl's positive feelings and getting nothing in return.
>be me 40 years old >all relationships have been like this. >serial cheat, liar and emotional >chameleon >you do fuck up though, it does >catch up, you get caught >when you do it takes everything in >the sociopath to come out on top >again
>>657159984 I've been with my girlfriend for 3 years now and although it can be fun sometimes and sex is great, I really wouldn't care if we split up tomorrow from my side of things. The only reason I wouldn't do that is because I don't want to fuck her up, she is entirely emotionally and socially dependent on me.
you have got to grow from a self-centered point of view, where only your own needs matters, to a higher level of understanding; to be able to give selflessely... most of the people in the western countries are blocked in this materialistic, personality-centered point of view. reconnecting with your higher self; higher values allow to experience higher, unconditional love. not sure why I spend time writing that on /b/; but hey whatever:)
2. You can keep doing what you're doing. There's no reason to stop if you are getting good out of it. As long as nothing is wrong keep her around and be happy without loneliness.However the second shit goes bad, move on to something better.
>>657165388 I tried leaving her and she just told me her whole week went to the shit and she nearly tried killing herself but her mum got home. I said to myself, damn thats selfish of you to use something like that against me.
>>657165081 As for point two, I'm not sure what good I am getting out of it except for sex. I do want to have love for somebody, I just don't have it for my current girlfriend, but I am scared of the consequences (for her) if I told her it was over. We're 23 and she sees us spending the rest of our lives together
That's the way i see it. Maybe i'm just selfish, but in all the relationships ive had including the current one, I cant stand the thought of coming home to the same person, not having anywhere to go that's 'mine' that isnt the office, or being able to sleep alone once in a while without starting a fight.
>>657159984 Feel kinda the same. I have not been the same since my first love broke my heart and have come to accept that I may never feel love like that ever again. I like my current girlfriend. We've been together for 3 years now, she's cute and is a good fuck, but I've never felt that fire for her like I did with my ex.
Doesn't mean you're a sociopath. You need more than just that to really know. Maybe you're just a misogynist.
However you sound like me, couldn't tell you if you're a sociopath anyway. I'm no psychologist even though I'm highly educated in my disorder. If you wanna know for sure ask a psychologist. If you don't want to pay for bs like I did,tell me more.
Dude, c'mon. You're basically there. Why would you EVER consider 'being honest' with her as you put it?
The whole point is you have all the cards. She's the idiot, feeling a connection that controls her. You're doing whatever you have to do. To cultivate the connection. What's the end result? A lot of control. It's the way relationships are meant to be. You can do crazy things with them. When their minds are completely fucked with whatever the fuck they're feeling.
>>657160238 Most people who threaten to kill themselves wont. I ignored texts from an ex threatening to jump into traffic after breaking up. She is still alive. It was her attempt to manipulate sympathy out of me. In all honesty, quite boring
>>657167876 >you're just unsure of yourself. this is true. Semi-related, I am in-the-closet-gay and have very low confidence about that. Living in shitty ( relating this subject) Greece
>Figure it out. You feel bad for trying to break up so you probably have feelings. No feelings here, can drop a relationship cold, without me missing this person. ( Not referring to a particular one, have done that to 3 out of last 4)
People seem confused about my ability to do that. This blocks my way of thought. I want to embrace my behavior and take it to the next level, while stop having regrets
Lovely and sweet, even better. Or maybe I'm just a pervert. Well I am a bit of a perv, I suppose.
When she's actually in what I would call love, which doesn't happen overnight, she really loses a lot of herself and you basically become the main part of your reality. Everything's tied back to you, her decisions, etc. They can't help. They can't take control and use their brains like us.
The more naive, the more fucked they get. I used fucked because it turns them into idiots. Or I would call it an idiot.
But that said, you don't want to do something fucked up. I would never intentionally harm a girl really, and if you have her mind in the palm of your hand, you really have to watch it. I would never want to do any real damage, I get nothing out of that.
There's a condition or disorder for it. Sure. It's BS. The world is run by psychopaths, or whatever you want to call it. That said, it's just a set of traits that are beneficial, that you aren't just born with. That's all it is.
But I can tell you I don't feel like a normal person. I can tell you that much. But I've been at this for a while.
I'm going to give you my opinion on this, which is you basically owe it to her to take it all the way. I can see enough of where the relationship is at, already, that you owe it to her to take it as far as you can take it. It will give her the thrill she is after, whether she knows it or not. But should also give you the fun you want. I would just use it to empower my ego, for the sex, psychological stuff, but to do any damage. Again, even I think that's really fucked. If you're going to do something, you let them down gently. I think you can legitimately break girls this way and that's when they start to do the really crazy shit, like make insane threats to kill themselves, ruin their life, or other crazy shit. Just insane, emotional nutcases at the end of it. That are fun to fuck.
That's probably why I would never become emotionally attached to a girl in any way and view them in the way that I think is optimal. They're happier any way with it. They want someone that exerts dominance over them.
I read a thing a while ago that said that in longer relationships loving someone is an active choice and not just blindly following emotion. That's what makes "teen" love so exciting, the fact that you're just going off of feelings. I don't know personally, because I've never been in a real relationship, but there you go.
>>657167019 The problem is i only love the bad ones :/....just split with the gf of 3 years who would do anything for me but i simply just don't care. I only want good things for her but she's not gunna get them with me. Sucks
>>657171165 Well from experience you know the good ones are hard to find good love for. Step up your game give the good girl what she's looking for so you can get them benefits. Or live poor and love the bad ones.
Old fag here. (27) I've been doing this since I started fucking girls (13). Currently, I was doing it to a nice curvy little 20 year old and I just found out I got my side girl pregnant. I don't feel love for either of these chicks. This is probably karma biting me in the ass and I'm currently trying to make things work out with my side girl. If only for the baby. Best of luck OP.
What you're loving is the feelings. Problem is, you associate the feelings as the girl. When really, the girl is simply an object that is creating the feelings. If you really want to be good, you have to take her out of it. She's a factor. Not this larger than life thing that makes your emotions go crazy.
>>657171506 But why would i continue the charade? I don't feel anything for her and i dont know why. She absolutely adores me and it was getting to the point of depression because she was waisting her time and energy on a shitbag like me. I figured cutting her loose was the best thing i could do.
>>657171619 Just have confidence. Although Greece is fucked you can find a way to be your natural gay self elsewhere. Get your ass to a nice liberal country where no one really cares what sex organ you like.
Also this. It's very tough anon. The self has enormous gravity and most just cannot escape it. You shouldn't be totally selfless though, you should embrace yourself but not get caught by it. It's a delicate balancing act sometimes.
I like what you're saying more. This is how you have to do it. One thing to the next. Factors, not emotions.
I think this only really works if you really have a distaste for actually being in love, or anything close to it. I know I do. And I would say it would be impossible for me to go there. I'm too logical. I exercise a specific dynamic that results in everything I could ever want. I suppose, in a way, that is my love.
That's what I do. It's how I do things. The best part is nobody can ever know. But you're giving yourself a big advantage.
The only thing I wouldn't do is severely mentally traumatize a girl, which you can do. But I enjoy sex for dominance. But I just don't feel love. I don't feel those feelings. It's just not the way I ended up, but honestly, I'm not sure if I was ever really that way. Everything's a factor to me, situations require management, and feeling emotions in such a way that they actually have any meaning to you is just not effective.
>>657159984 i feel you OP, but i think its more that woman just want to to hear what they want to hear, and if you dont give them that it further destabilizes an already unstable emotional concoction that is the female mind.
i mean wtf is love anyway? i told my ex i loved her for 2 years and apart from the entertainment/enjoyment and the physical needs she provided there was not much else to it. sure i was "sharing" my life with her but thats because i was getting something in return, whilst fulfilling her emotional needs. we broke up because i didnt want to string her along anymore since it would be a bit too cruel to have her thinking we were going to get married and all that shit. its lke an off switch tbh fam
>>657172693 This is the only time ive felt nothing for i girl i dated...i kinda just thought theyd come over time? But never did...ive been way fucked emotionally from some emotionally fucked girls and think its jist numbed the feeling of "love" for me all together
>>657173088 Im pretty sure i cant anymore cause ive been feeling this was for like a year now....just put it off for so long because you dont find good girls like her especially one thats gunna tolerate my shit. Hope im doing the right thing
Loving a woman is just asking to be a second hand cocksucker. Shes gonna let some nigger or jersey shore wap use her mouth as their personal ejaculate deposit. Woman are fucking stupid. Use them abuse them and leave them
>female bodied >don't consider myself a boy or a girl >can't into romantic love >no desire for sex >just anime >be small and people think I'm attractive but I can't into finding real people hit >23 been this way forever
I'm glad this isn't rare. I'd rather live on my own and have my own money than cohabitate with someone other than cats
>>657174462 I dont abuse them either lol. I was juat being a dick. I use them for their money and orifices and whatever else i can get from them. And the crazy yhing is that if i treat them like ahit they love me more. If i was to love them then thats when they come home with dick on their breath and try and make me a second hand cock sucker
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