tl;dr Fiance and I got into a HUGE argument because I won't

You can't force someone to make a decision they don't want to make.

If she's not messaging you, there's nothing more you can do.

>>18731342
>haven't heard from her in over a week.
She's definitely hopped on some dude's dick, don't marry a drama queen slut.

Spend that money on nice things. You could be in Hawaii drinking fancy cocktails and getting your dick sucked right now. Or traveling through Tibet alone and sleeping under the sky. Or whatever else you find pleasurable.

I'll never understand why rich people waste their lives and money with work, marriage and kids.

Looks like you found yourself a woman with a princess complex. Narcissistic people storm off like that and then silent treatment their significant others in order to cause pain and hurt while putting themselves into a position of power. She's trying to manipulate you and hurt you. Dump the bitch and find yourself a real woman who genuinely loves you.

Look on the bright side, at least you found out before you married her.

Lol.....

When it comes to love/marriage I believe that the 2 people need to have been brought up in a similar manner.

So that's strike one.

And money is the key factor in most divorces.

That's strike two.

You might wanna call this thing off mate.

>>18731342
1) you lied to her over something huge, that's a deal breaker, regardless of your thoughts on this she has a right to be angry.
2) you haven't heard from her in over a week, she's either in danger or never wants to see you again.

Holy shit dude, red flag. Just find some virgin qt at a church and marry her, life will be 10 times better than with this cunt.

>>18731342
100% leave her she'll be wanting to spend all of that now, idiot showed her true colours and you should really thank her for doing so

>>18731391
Found the woman.

OP, anyone who immediately changes their behavior over money is someone you want to avoid. The end result WILL be (not MAY be, not COULD be, but WILL be) is that, should you cave on the wedding, you'll ask for a pre-nup. She will do this tantrum again, saying you don't trust her, so you will back down on the pre-nup. Then, when you're married, she's going to ask for a joint bank account. When you tell her no, it will be "you don't trust me!" again. So you'll open up a joint account and load it with cash.

Then she's going to spend every dollar your parents left for you to have a good, comfortable, happy life, because she doesn't give a flying fuck about you or your parents' wishes now that she knows money is available for her to spend on herself.

>>18731373
I should add though that you should have told her after a few years. 7 years is a long time to keep that from someone.

>>18731342
OP. You lied to her/hid something major from her, and that's shitty. She has every right to feel hurt.

On the other hand, the way she behaved is shitty as well. I wouldn't personally marry someone who changed drastically as soon as she knew I had money.

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>>18731391
>>18731421

Found the cucks, it's not her money so why should she be told?

>>18731426
Can vouch for this. I know a guy in his early 60s whose dad got fucking loaded after finding oil in Texas, and he's had to divorce twice because the women he was married to started giving him "allowances" for his own money and denying them sex for "spending too much" on their hobbies, while they made contracting plans to build a house, bought new cars, and took unnecessary weekend vacations behind his back. I'm not saying all women are like that, but that kind of behavior is easily avoided if she doesn't find out in the first place, and going through the mail of someone else is explicitly illegal.

Although it bites me in the ass all the time, I'd give her time. If she's worthy of being your wife, especially after knowing her for so long, she'll attempt to mend bridges.

Though any idea where she went? Mutual friends? Or did she disappear off the face of the earth? She might be in danger, as 7 years just to give up on someone over an argument seems a bit much, even for today's society. I wish shes at least safe.

Also, it seems like she was wanting to marry you before finding out you were loaded, so . . . yeah, I would trust her, it's the right thing.

File a missing person's report though.

>>18731426
When you spend 7 years with someone, and commit to spend the rest of your life with them, it hurts to find out that they hid something major about their life from you. You wish they shared everything about them and their life, and you wish that you went into the marriage knowing what to expect.
While I do agree that it is not her money, and I think it is shitty that she treated it like it was hers, if I found out my husband hid something like this from me I would feel very upset.

In the same way you'd be hurt if your wife never mentioned being a whore because "it's her sexual past, not hers", or if she didn't tell you she wast infertile because "it's her uterus, not yours".

>>18731426
Why wouldn't you tell her? It's obviously something that affects both of them going into marriage, and if she acts like this upon finding out anyway that's something you should know

>>18731391
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>>18731454
>>18731460

OP don't listen to these retards, if you want to see if this bitch is a leech whos going to suck the life out of you.
Text her a message saying that you don't think the two of you should be together because it doesn't feel like it'll work out.

If the cunt freaks out DUMB HER, if she agrees and says this is something she cant deal with then she's golden and you need to get this girl.

One last thing OP if you think about getting with her after she starts trying to pressure you, just know she was definitely getting rammed by some guy while you were worrying about her.

>>18731354
>>18731373

this and this

after you piss the money away on the wedding, especially this lavish nonsense, then what next? work years to recuperate that expense?

cheap wedding and spend money on trips over the years.

>>18731342
>she opens up one of the quarterly letters I get and found out

you should have dumped her there and then, you dodged a bullet with this cunt, trust me.

>>18731454
Are you an idiot? If she was a whore it affects him directly because she could be carrying STDs, she could cheat on him, she could be dissatisfied by him or she could have lied about being chaste or not a slut.

His money doesn't affect her because they both equally pay for things

>>18731576
>His money doesn't affect her because they both equally pay for things
Of course it affects her.
After you are married, you and your spouse will be financially responsible for each other and to each other. The state of your finances is extremely relevant when you get into a marriage.
Much more than your sexual history, actually, since most divorces happen over financial matters and not over infidelity.

> If she was a whore it affects him directly because she could be carrying STDs, she could cheat on him, she could be dissatisfied by him or she could have lied about being chaste or not a slut.
She could have an STD, cheat or be dissatisfied with him even without being a whore. It hardly matters if she was paid to have sex or not.
OP lied as well, so if lies are the problem OP is as guilty as an ex escort who hides her past.

>>18731342
dump the bitch and find someone who cares about you and not your money. if your partner isn't fine with getting married by a judge in court then they're not right.

Sounds like your gf was a gold digging cunt under all that love. Sucks to be you.

>>18731576
That's not cool dude. People out there have STDs from plenty of other reasons than being sleezy. There are so many bloodbourne illnesses that a ren't only transmitted via sex.

What the heck

You've been with her for seven years and never told her?

I mean yeah she did something very childish but man

>>18731342
Look into it, and try to do it for her if you love her. Don't blow all your money on the wedding, obviously, but will it hurt to add a bit more luxury to it just to keep her happy (especially since she misunderstood you not talking about your finances as "hiding it" from her)? She feels like you're cheaping out on her, that you don't think she's worth it. Refusing to budge even a bit will just confirm that.

>>18731609
this x 10

>>18731342

if it was a day or two and she came back understanding and apologizing id take her back. but honestly to leave you for a week wtihout any answer or indication of whats up is kinda defeating the purpose of marriage in my opinion.

that being said, not being honest about your financial situation kinda defeats the purpose of marriage in my opinion. i dont think it should be your job to spend all your family money on her or take care of her orbuy this big expensive wedding, but on the flip side if someones investing themselves in you for whats supposed to be forever, I think your financial situations is something you need to know. Unless you guys were essentially living separate lives with completely separate finances.

all in all I'd move on. cuz best case scenario this is the first of many problems that ends with her getting that money in the end anyway.

Why would you say "atleast we can spend more on the wedding now" and when she takes up the offer you go all "we won't spend more than we planned"?
That's actually pretty unfair, given that you also hid something big from her for years.
Idk, she might show some gold digger tendencies, but you definitely fucked up, too.

i guess you can cancel the marriage now, since it takes a lot to not contact your fiance for one week...

>>18731411

this. a prenup is actually a good 'test' OP if you want to give her a chance. if you decide to wait for her and she does come back trying to make things work, say you can only move forward if there is a prenup. if she throws a fit again or just leans towards no, get out of there, shes got money on her mind now.

>>18731342
i would terminate the relationship immediately
i dont buy the whole "im butthurt because you dont trust me" bit. theres no reason for her to throw a tantrum when she found out other than shes pissed that she doesnt have access to your resources
sorry about your luck, anon. be more cautious with your mail in the future (also why the fuck did she open mail that was addressed to you?)

>>18731342
Sucks dude. Theres a drive thru wedding service a 40 minute drive from me. Its 200 bucks and total legal and binding in thr governments eyes.

My gf and I are between that and asking a friend to get a minister license (free online) and another to be a witness and signing some papers at home. And shes totally cool with it.


Im not even autistic at all, and i cannot for the motherfucking life of me understand why people still do weddings. Tens to hundreds of thousands of dollars on a party at great expense and sometimes inconvenience as well to all who attended, that takes months or years to plan and becomes a super anxiety driven affair for anyone involved with planning?

Jfc people who the fuck cares anymore?

>>18731576

>this is what 4chan actually believes

jesus christ, everyone gets STD tested its not like shes going to go get married and never get tested, especially if she was a whore.

>she might cheat
>BUT HIS MONEY IS HIS BUSINESS

bull shit.

>>18731342
Dump her, she sounds dumb af. If she has common sense she would ask you to buy a nice house for your family instead of spending tons of money on the wedding

>>18731813

you seem to have misread

>she says 'at least we can spend more on the wedding now"
>she

>>18731825
Oh yeah, my bad.

why didn't you go paperless you stupid fucking moron

DON'T EVER TELL THEM
jesus fucking christ it's bad enough if you give too many details about "what you do" and they can piece it together then look up your salary on glassdoor

>>18731342
unless you are a billionaire, don't bother with her move on.

>>18731342

She is easily replaceable, because there is an infinite supply of them.

You could date a new one every day for the rest of your life, and you wouldn't make the tiniest dent in the supply of them available to us.

Why didn't you tell her about the money?

>I'll never understand why rich people waste their lives and money with work, marriage and kids.

If you don't get married and have kids before you reach 30 you're considered a loser and even a homo even if you're attracted to women.

>>18731426
If you can't trust the woman you're with to know that information after a few years then there's something wrong with the relationship.

Look at it this way, he could have figured out she was a narcissistic princess years ago and he could already have been in a new, established relationship with someone better if he had mentioned the inheritance earlier in the relationship.

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>>18731342

This bait sucked the first 100 times.

>I'm leeching off her (despite paying half)
you for sure were. your half is much, much less to you than her half is to her.