It's a really general question, but what are the secrets

>>18719199
a connection (or antipathy) is formed when goals of two people happen to be the same.
it is also built when two people know enough about each other that they could harm each other with this knowledge. At this point you prefer to be someone's friend instead of enemy.

so open up to people similar to you, hoping they'll do the same.
Also, help people selflessly.

>>18719199
Listen to what people say. Don't just hear them, really listen. People like when they feel they're being truly listened to.


Don't always make others initiate conversation. Go out of your way to talk to people.

Be genuine. Don't pretend to be someone you're not. Just like intimacy, interpersonal connections in general demand honesty.