I have no idea what to do. Basically I asked a long time friend

>>18717897
Stop ghosting and just be upfront about it preferably face to face.

Currently I am back at her home state where as she's off at college so it'd have to be over messages.

I graduated a few years ago and both of us are trying to land our dream jobs, coincidentally, in Cali so I don't think it's a matter of future planning.

>>18717897
She's not gay, she only told you because she didn't want you to be mad at her.

Just follow your feelings anon, stop talking to her, and if she ask why, you tell her you want to say something in person, and then you say everything you feel, but without touching her or acting pretendious. Then you say good bye and block her from every media, making sure she knows you don't want to see her again. You wouldnt be a monster, you would be a human, that has his own feelings and dignity.

>>18717946
>She's not gay, she only told you because she didn't want you to be mad at her.
>I figured it was to spare our friendship or it was because she was gay (she's only dated females). However, she's fallen for this guy who also is her friend up at college.
Sounds like OP just made assumptions, not that she actually told him it was for either of those two reasons.

It was my convenient way of coping, yeah. She had never explicitly said she was gay.

>>18717897
if your still friends with her then thats fine and you should cherish friendships
and if you just wanna fug her then you may as well just accept she dosent find you attractive and move on

She's like my best friend. But it's eating me alive. And I'm pretty sure I'm not her best friend. Or at least that's how it feels sometimes. I need to address her. She's mature enough to where I think if I come to her with my thoughts, we can work it out and I can find some peace.

>>18717897
>So basically I've accepted that I'm ugly.
post picture of self so we can judge if this is in fact true

>>18717897
>>18718051
her not wanting to date you doesn't mean you're ugly, i have plenty of male friends who look fine that i wouldn't date. you could be attractive and have a pleasant personality and if we didn't ''click'' in a certain way, then dating would be off the table.

you're drawing irrational, broad conclusions that aren't based in reality. are you just jealous? your value as an individual isn't defined by her or your level of dateability. you sound hyperfocused on this shit. take a step back and stop being dramatic.

the only girls guys hang out with are girls they fuck and girls they wanna fuck.

>>18718419
This