Is it normal to compare my other relationships to my first true

It's a sign you haven't gotten over her, which is an issue because it was so long ago now.

>>18714639
Well what can I do? The only time she's not on my mind is if I'm in a relationship and it goes on for a while. I don't think about her as "hard" as I did (I used to be really cut up about it, now it's like a constant reminder of what I had).

I don't know I just want to be freed

>>18714645
Accept that you will never have what you had with her. I'm in your current position as we speak. But it's only been 4 months. I've looked through tinder and just looking at any of them i just keep reminding myself thtlat they don't hold a candle to her.

You cannot replicate what you had with your true love. But it simply wasn't meant to be
What you need to do is focus on just yourself. Once you're ready. Strive to not compare, but to find that one person that goes beyond what you once had. Tall order i know. But there will be that one person that just sets the fire going and only then will you realise what a blessing it was that you found this person and that you finally have something BETTER than what you had.

TL:DR
Come to terms that you cannot replicate what you once had.
Focus on yourself and your own personal happiness.
Stop comparing and focus on what you want from a lover.

It's not easy. My god it really fucking isn't. But if there's one thing i've learnt since coming to /adv/ is that you will always have people on your side.

Good luck.

>>18714747
thanks, anon. i need to start focusing on myself and the next.