Is it normal for a father to renege on his children once they

>>18704700
swallowing the fact that your parent is a burnout piece of shit is hard, but not the hardest. You can do it. The important thing is to focus on making a life for yourself.

>>18704700
Welcome to being an adult.

A good parent will make sure your their kids are on a path of success and won't draw an arbitrary line at 18.

>He didn't bother saving up any college fund and instead spent it on lottery tickets and casinos

Sounds like your dad falls in the category of bad parent. Sucks for you but I'm in the same boat. He's an alcoholic who hates my mother for divorcing him and by extension wants nothing to do with me because she got custody. I'm on the student loan train as well because there is no other way.

It's just a fact of life that some have it easier and some have it harder. The most you and I can do is make sure we don't follow in their footsteps when we're parents.

>>18704700
>>18704744
I'm an outsider as I was fortunate enough to have parents who were financially responsible.

Financially responsible enough for me to wallow in depression and non-functionality without going broke and homeless, which I would undoubtedly be if I were in either of your situations.

How do you fight the good fight? I'm too emotionally bankrupt/handicapped to get my head around providing for yourself in the world with that hand.

>>18704763
I lived on campus with retarded high rent, got to live with mother and was lucky enough to find a roommate whose dad payed towards the rent at an apartment (that ended very badly fyi).

Also, you get used to the pain of adulthood. Some advice, be concerned about yourself first and foremost. I bothered with social circle like back in high school with people who weren't worth it because I cared too much about others and not myself. That's not to say don't care about networking (that is incredibly useful for your career) but you need to meet the right people.

I'm in a similar boat op. I decided to go into a trade and I couldn't be happier with the choice. It's not for everyone, but if you like physical work, problem solving, outdoors in some cases, and a short education time trades are the way to go. I'm becoming an electric lineman and hopefully after I journeyman out can be an extra high voltage lineman.

>>18704799
Hvac, welding, electrical work, gas work or plumbing would be my choices. Land surveying is cool too. Line work is the most satisfying to me though it really is something else.

>>18704782
Thinking about the pain yet to come fills me with dread and other nasty shit feelings.

The atmospheric pressure of my struggle feels disproportionate to my resilience.

I sit on my ass day in day out because I can't deal with my feelings.

The pain is compounded when the doubt I experience goes beyond and blurs the line between suffering and self-pity/loathing.

>>18704836
Really consider line work man. When I'm up on a pole there is nothing to think about except safety and procedure, damn near meditating. Climbing poles isn't scary there's safety gear, and. Most jobs bucket truck then gtfo

>>18704836
Am I a truly suffering specimen who hasn't been yet gifted a end to the anguish?

Or a whiny cunt.

Would I know the truth if it stared me in the eyes?

It's hard to type about this stuff because there's something in my head that wants to call me pathetic for being sad while owning an xbox or living in a house or breathing clean air.

>>18704851
Nah man just because your material life is okay doesn't mean you can't be dealing with mental issues too. Let it out and we'll offer insight

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>>18704857
Let me just take this bong rip real quick

There's too much anon.

Parents divorced @ 9
Violent nonconstructive childhood w lots of yelling.
I'm having a really hard time with my life right now which is why I'm smoking all this pot.
I've always been smart as a whip which I think is part of the reason why I'm falling apart now because looking back, I can attribute many of my faults, fears, and social shortcomings on the damage my parents have unknowingly caused and continue to cause, just by my existence in their spheres of influence. I get really fucking angry a lot about all this and I can't look my mom in the face.

"pain of being an adult" made me think about the pain of having to endure something even when you know it's wrong and it hurts but you have to take it and let it fuck you up because that's just how it goes.

>>18704902
All in all feeling very held back by negative feelings I can't overcome. :/

>>18704700
Its not normal, but it happens. It sucks, but you play with the cards you're dealt.
Believe me, the most pissed I've ever been and the closest I've ever been to murdering a person was my friends dad and step mom. The people were just fucking white trash assholes to the core, and my friend was a great person. I remember begging her to just come live with our family, we'd take her in without question our house was always open to her. She often had to come do laundry at our place because her parents wouldn't/couldnt pay the bills.

What was the killer was as soon as she was of legal working age, she started working as many hours as she legally could to save up her own college fund. About a few months shy of her 18th birthday, her step mom found her stash of cash she was hiding since she couldn't get a bank account without a parent's signature underage.
The fucking cunt gambled it all way, 3 years of her hard work, gone, and she couldn't legally do anything about it since legally any money a minor makes at a part time job belongs to the parents.
She never did go, and she was such an incredibly intelligent person.

My neighbors were kind of strict on their kids, said they had 1 year after they graduated college to find a job and move out, they weren't gonna support them a second longer.

My parents are chill, probably too chill. My sister graduated a year and a half ago and still hasn't found work in her field, been living with mom and dad and refused to even get a min wage job because that's "degrading" now that she has a degree. Parents finally kicked her ass and said "You need a job, I don't care what it is, you need a job or you can't stay here" bc all she was actually doing was playing video games all day and night.

All in all though, you're an adult now anon. Sack up. I'm sorry your dad's not helping you out more, but be thankful your mom is at least. The truth is, you're entitled to nothing in life.

>>18704902
Similar situation here. Parents divorced, abused as a child, my step dad died and he was my favorite person, and I'm poor. I have 40$ in my bank account. Drugs aren't the answer man even pot. I used a lot of them daily from 15-19 and in the moment it did help but it doesn't teach you to cope. It's hard I know but a couple years in a trade you'd be able to gtfo and put this shit behind you. Trades are the easiest/quickest way to get ahead and start a good life. I know I'm young and my advice isn't going to be the most experienced but man just keep going.