So /adv/ recently I've been getting a little worried that

Similar here. My gf wants sex often but it's always basic quickies. She has no kinks, no fantasies, doesn't want to branch out at all. She isn't into porn (not against it, just not into it) she doesn't masturbate, never sends noods, in general has no drive to be sexy. She just wants the same few positions and cum once asap.

I have a crazy high mental sex drive, always looking for the next kink, rp, whatever. I've gotten so bored with her that I'd rather just fap to porn while she's gone and give her the bare minimum sex to keep her from complaining.

>>18704269
That sucks man, have you tried easing her into it? Even with light stuff like doggie style or at least asking her to compromise a bit?

>>18704292
Yes, actually. When we started dating she was a near-kissless "sex is icky" virgin. Got her to give me the succ (not very good but at least she swallows now) and let me eat her out. Those two took a couple years but it's fine now.

She's just a naturally closed minded person
>That looks uncomfortable
>That won't work
>That's just for porn anon nobody actually likes that
>Remember we tried something similar years ago and didn't like it?

And other bs like that. She wants the D in her P often enough, she just doesn't have the zest and passion and mental game like I do.

>>18704313
Wow thats boring as fuck, sounds like sex is like a chore for you. Have you tried getting her drunk to loosen her up or is she against that to? After she cums does she want you to stop?

I guess I'm lucky to never really deal with that because we're open to practically every kink.

>>18704250

This seems like a conversation you need to be having with your girlfriend, not a bunch of strangers on the internet. We can speculate all day but we don't know anything about you or your girlfriend or your relationship together.

You gotta talk to her. If you two aren't capable of sitting down and having an honest conversation about this kind of stuff then you probably shouldn't be dating.

>>18704329
Getting her drunk makes it better, feels fast and loose and free, but she's rarely in the mood to drink.

She's not being selfish, she thinks she's doing well, thinks she knows what she likes, thinks she has tried it all already.

After she cums she usually wants me to cum soon because after a few minutes it gets sore/dry. Not always, but usually.

She genuinely doesn't get it. She's tried to dirty talk for me, has done it a little but I can tell she's not into it and it's a huge boner killer.

Almost everything we've done I had to force her to do a few times before she started liking it.

The few "kinky" things she does like is light choking and hair pulling and stuff like that which is nice but IMO is still really tame.

I've tried to talk to her about it, it usually ends with her crying about how "she's not good enough" because she literally does not understand how kinks work.

>>18704250
>>18704269
I envy both of you my gf has the exact opposite issue
I want to fuck every day just once a day and she never wants to go the point where it's usually once a week we have sex

Then when we do she says I'm too big and it hurts and forces me to cum as quickly as I can so I'll get out
>inb4 use lube
We do and she still hurts

>>18704250
do you masturbate and/or look at porn?
if yes then you should probably stop doing that

>>18704250
The average after the first "honeymoon" period is 3 times a week, so you're doing fine.