Is it selfish/controlling for strip clubs to be a deal-breaker?

It sounds like you're overly paranoid.

If he cares about you it means nothing to him and it'll likely have him avoid it even if he attends.

The issue is entirely on your end deal with your hangups.
I get pangs of this from time to time but I just remind myself I trust them and they care about me. If I get burnt by that oh well.

Plus even if he gets touched by another woman its likely brief and completely unattached. You've been with him six years and you're this possessive? He clearly cares for you.

As long as you don't cheat on him sexually or emotionally we don't consider your concern valid.

You're going to have to work that out with him.

I mean I don't think it's a big deal, but I'm a guy.

>>18695090
we don't consider ANY concern valid desu

>>18694518
>Plus even if he gets touched by another woman its likely brief and completely unattached. You've been with him six years and you're this possessive? He clearly cares for you.
Nothing wrong with it. She just has different relationship boundaries than you. I would consider a stripclub a complete dealbreaker without question too, and most of the people I've been in relationships have as well. That's without any touching being involved or thinking someone might cheat. Allowing a stripper or whoever to touch you intimately is a whole other level. It's complete disloyalty and lack of emotional connection or brevity have nothing to do with it.

>I know going to strip clubs is the norm

It really isn't OP I don't know where you got that idea. Starting off a committed relationship by having random whores rub their vaginas is a hollywood meme, much like sweet 16s and other things like that. If it really bugs you tell him, I don't have any more advice than that.

>>18693693
Just ask him not to drink at the strip club and not touch the women

What I did was when I went was be the group daddy and made sure nobody got into trouble, not focusing on the women

>>18693693
>and they ended up at a strip club, it's clearly out of his control
He could go to the bar next door for some beers while they're there

>>18693693
>but with alcohol involved, it's never going to be a guarantee
Bullshit
Alcohol doesn't make people lose complete control

Sounds like you just don't trust your boyfriend

>>18693693
No it's not.

Also don't look for others to help shape your opinion. If you don't want him to go to stripclubs, you don't want it.
You're not telling him to wear a blindfold and not dare look at any other woman.
You're telling him that you'd rather not he'd go to a place that is literally meant for guys to look at naked women.

Don't be insecure, if it's a dealbreaker for you that's that.

worry more about being white trash

Yeah, you're gonna need to fix your sexuality problems. Insecurity is annoying and it's not fair to him. If you don't want to change, find a prude or someone you're not going to drag down with that kind of mentality.