>making out with bf >start to touch his dick >we've

Seems like you both are inexperienced that's why you let some awkwardness and silence defeat you. If he already came it's naturally going to be hard to make him cum another time. Many men aren't really interested in continuing after cumming once. No reason to get all insecure about it. If you like him, text him. No biggie.

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>>18691785
>I ask him if he wants to jack it in the bathroom
>he goes and tries it for like 2 min
>comes back and says he can't cum bc he fapped earlier that day

This reads like a scene from some awful sitcom.

>>18691837
t. virgin

if the dude havent came after 30mins some forced fapping for 2 mins in a bathroom wont make it happen either

>>18691840
I understand that. You get nervous, you can't get off, etc.
But this particular conversation where she asks him if he wants to jack off in the bathroom and he actually goes there to do it then returns to proclaim he can't do it, it's just...

How could you make this any more awkward.

>>18691829
This. It's probably the most likely case.

And it's probably not at all like what happened to me when I was young and a virgin, and dated a guy for 8 months who could never cum with blowies, was literally afraid to have sex, wrote me some beautiful love letters, talked to me all the time about how wonderful I was and how patient and sweet I was for waiting until he was ready, and then wrote me a letter saying he'd fucked his neighbor and was "soooo sorry". Literally the first time my heart felt truly broken.

Sounds like he's inexperienced, I did the same thing the first time a girl came onto me.

I think he just respects you a lot and you sucking him off was a bit uncalled for and something he didn't want to ask of you, maybe he saw the act a bit degrading and he couldn't make up his mind whether you did it purely for his sake or if you actually enjoyed it yourself.
When you don't know the other's person motives, things get awkward by definition.

No guy dislikes a blowjob, there's no such thing as a bad blowjob and if a guy is pissed off over a bad blowjob then he ain't worth your time.

The two of you are stuck in this awkward-loop right now, the best thing to do is just to see him in person and forget all about it, don't even mention it, things will go back to normal if you act normal.

>>18691785
>>10 min later I ask if I can suck him off
>>he gets nervous and tells me yes only if I'm comfortable with it

Listen, if he hesitated like that after you actually offered to suck him off he was obviously quite nervous and it really sounds like he doens't have much experience. Just try it again a few times and he'll relax and get the hang of it. Sex is fun and feels god but it can be a little daunting at first for some people.

Generally with a blowjob I'd say if a guy doesn't cum within 6-7 minutes, he's not going to.. It's not like sex, there's no motivation to try to last longer

>>18691844
he was probably nervous and when a chick sends you to jack off it means she doesnt want to deal with your boner anymore, thus you better fucking cum and be done with it

remember for young ppl boners can be embarrasing, i dont give a shit if a milf sees it now in my office

>>18691865
In fact, going longer just makes it more difficult to come, at least in my experience. You get numb down there after a few minutes of vigorous sucking.

If you want him to come from just the blowjob, you need to ease into it softly and tease him a bit. Full vacuum from the get go is like if a guy just started fucking without getting you wet first. Sure, it feels good, but it isn't going to get you to orgasm.

Also, if a guy is nervous, the best blowjob in the world isn't going to get him there. Deal with the nerves first.

He probably feels insecure because he couldn't cum, reassure him he doesn't need to.

He probably couldn't cum because he was putting pressure on himself to cum.

Real life sex isn't like porn, there isn't a script you have to both follow. In future just go with what is happening, and enjoy the moment for what it is. You have to relax into it or there will be performance issues sometimes.

1. Things moved too fast and shocked him, it'll pass
2. You should've been looking for feedback from him during succ. If you're not getting an explicit positive response pretty quickly, change it up or ask him what he wants, sexy times are not a war of attrition

>>18691785
You guys need to plan these things so both of you are ready.

It is because he jacked it, but it could also be nerves, or just inexperience.

Say you wanna get sexual on Friday this week and ask him to be ready, you'll have a more fun time

>>18691785
>I know it's not that big of a deal but now everything is super awkward between us and we're barely texting anymore, I know it's selfish but my confidence is crushed and I feel like shit now. I don't know what to do, what if he's lying and I did a terrible job?? (it was only my second time btw) he's always super nervous to touch me and I want to be more sexual but I don't have the confidence anymore and don't
Depends how often he jerks off.

If he had already blown his load recently, or if hes feeling awkward/inexperienced, then its not a big surprise. It sounds more like the problem is with him.

Try to get him to calm down, and don't worry about it too much. Unless you're using teeth, changes are it wasn't your fault.

>>18691785
He's embarrassed becuase he couldn't preform as he should.
You can't be bad at blowjob unless you bite his dick.

Some pointers on blowjob:
1. Although it's called "blow"job, you should suck
2. Use your tongue
3. Fondle the balls
4. glance up sometimes and make eye contact
5. Kiss the cock

And SexEd 101, blowjob is a technique used to make the dick hard when the man can't get it up.

TL;DR
He was nervous and inexperienced, try again.

>>18691785
Wow, women really can't jack a dude off if it takes 10 minutes.

>I ask him if he wants to jack it in the bathroom

??? in what culture is this normal. you literally said
>go fuck yourself

>>18691785

This probably happened because he got nervous. I agree with a certain anon who said that the blowjob was uncalled for, so it's natural for this kind of reaction to happen.

If you want to be more sexual, you should gather confidence and discuss this with him. This way you guys can reach an agreement. You can also talk about your current situation with him, even if it feels awkward. The best choice is to talk things over, and ask your BF to be honest about his point of view.

Calm down, anon, and try not to overreact. Best of luck!