How do I go about finding someone I can trust that's interested

It should be someone you know, not randoms online. Seriously.

>>18686686
How do you figure that? I don't know all that many people and those I do know probably aren't interested in it.

>>18686693
Because people online are shady. Think how shit the average man on Tinder is. Now imagine an average guy on a BDSM site tie you up. Mhm? mhm

>>18686680
I've been looking my whole life for someone like you. All the relationships I had couldn't fullfil my sexual desire. Most women found it to extreme or just couldn't submit themselves to a degree i would enjoy. The last thing I had with a girl didn't work out, cause I tried subtly training her into submission. Didn't work, though and lost interest. It's for some reason my biggest turn on. And yes don't visit those website, you will not get what you want. I already had my experiences.

I'm a man with a 24/7 pet/slave gf. You just have to keep dating the regular way until you date a bf who you love and trust and who wants you to be his pet. Just like I had to keep trying until I found a great gf who is also submissive to the nth degree. I never messed around with meeting women from websites, due to the same hunch you mentioned.
Also, it didn't turn into M/s right away. We were a vanilla couple for at least a year first before it naturally gravitated further and further.

>>18686680
Go to this thread >>18687072 and cuck the OP.

fetlife ofc. what are you, new? ew

>>18688032
>fetlife
EWWWWWWW

>>18686680
Make your partner do this test
http://mojoupgrade.com/

>>18686680
Don't, it's really dangerous. Find a friend or partner then

WE'RE JUST TROLLING YOU

I KNOW but I feel inclined to worry about people! Which is not a bad quality.

Sup bitches?

>>18688032
Fetlife is in a lot of countries useless.

>>18687713
>You just have to keep dating the regular way until you date a bf who you love and trust and who wants you to be his pet.
This.

>>18686680
I'm a 24/7 sub, grown naturaly from a LTR with my best friend. To trust and be able to let yourself fall, you need someone who really knows you and yourbody language. Imagine beeing gagged and trying to hold back the safeword to be a good gril although it breaks your atm capabilities. A good dom should be able to see it and stopp log before you give him the safeword/sign as he is supposed to know his sub good enough the slow down his pets attempts to impress her owner.

You won't find someone like that on the trash bin of society calling itself fetish online hookups. At least as long as you aren't a trash human yourself of course. Don't define yourself through your sexuality. Be a good human men would like to date and that's the way to have a wide selection to find someone which matches. But that's not an invitation to slut around. You don't need to suck everyones dick to know how they like to procede. No one wants a infested pet.

>>18686680
I have no idea what this scene is but you have to make sure you really hate yourself to want to be someones 'pet'. I mean you are going to say "hey internet I want you to make me into your pet" believe it or not its not hard to find depravity on the internet.

Respect the submissive lifestyle and don't just throw away your body and soul to a stranger. I know its hard though, can't you just do some less kinky thing that doesn't expose you to having to live in some Deliverance freaks torture cage for 15 years?

Like I said OP if you hate yourself then try it. I am speaking more as a Christian than a BDSM guy, God wants your body to be pure so you can be a good wife and have children.

Imagine some guy takes it too far and destroys your vagina with some weird object and then you go infertile. Please take it slow and decide what your limits would be... if you are an atheist then its your body but still...think about it. You might have to be prepared to die in some cases.

>>18689377
Fuck off with your religious BS. This is shitty b8. OP wants to know how to find somebody, who will pleasure her the way she wants and needs it. Not some huur durr Jesus wants you to do XY. Abrahamic religion is just a shitty jew monotheistic version of assyrian belief.

>>18686680
Did you always have this kink or did it manifest itself during a relationship? I'm this guy >>18686781. It's impossible for me to get this kinky with some random woman. I kinda need to feel alot affection towards my "pet" in order to let my desires out. Also I want to have the feeling I'm trusted and that there is no limit to my actions. Just the feeling. Of course I will know my limits and I would never do something that my partner wouldn't enjoy. Can you give me a tip on how to find early out if the girl I'm dating is into it? Or should I just keep asking them straight to their face if they enjoy being dominated and played by me?

>>18686680
Am I just shit for having no desire to do this to another human being I care about? Or is this one of those "It's literally 2017" situations?

Also I'm reading a lot about "trust" here, which is understandable. It does also however seem that you basically need to be a Chad to even get to a point where this might even slightly be viable. So, once again, a man has to do 90% of the work to be deemed "trustworthy" while the woman can just lay there.

Sad really.

>>18690300
It's just my fetish bro. Sex and relationship is in a lot of cases about power and submission to a certain lvl. People like me get turned on by distributing the power in a extreme way. In my case being the dominant part. Ofc you need to have a certain degree of Chad mentality; you are supposed to be dominant. It's not about looks though. There are probably couples, who are both below 5/10 and maintain this relationship. And ofc the partner needs the sub kink or it will never happen.

OP here
>>18689496
I'm not sure. I think I always had it. I remember my parents used to spank me and I would always act up so I would get hit because I found it exciting. I don't think you would be able to convince someone that they would be into it unless they suffer from Stockholm syndrome or something.

>>18690300
I can understand where you are coming from and think it's normal. My first serious boyfriend couldn't get into it because it made him uncomfortable and he didn't enjoy bullying me. I guess that's just normal human empathy.

>>18689352
The idea of trying to woo people I know before finding out if they are into BDSM or not doesn't sound appealing at all.
I'm not trying to make submissiveness the only defining characteristic for me. I'm just really sexually frustrated. Vanilla sex doesn't do anything for me at all and I can only masturbate to heavy bondage stuff and even that isn't all that satisfying.

I would not want a cigarette burn on my tongue. I've got two cigarette burns on my left hand, that i assume are permanent now, and I hated that huge yellow pus bubble that appeared over them for the first week or so. Does that happen on the tongue, too?

>>18690832
A shame there is the high probability you're a guy don't live in my area. If you were to spark my interest, I might give you a chance and abuse you to your heart's content.

>>18690300
> It does also however seem that you basically need to be a Chad
Nope, you don't have to be a Chad in any sense. Just be a good man and someone with some social skills so you know when to stop. Also, if you're a dom it's not "work". It's like saying fapping and eating is work, you do it with pleasure because you want to dominate. That's why you have to find a dom if you want to submite. Normies wont understand. Further, I as a sub usualy also "wrok" for it. It's not easy sucking dick for hours while looking like a model and still beeing able to breathe in a tight corsett. Mine usually just enjoys it, till he throws me on the bed and shows me his appreciation in return. On average a sub does more sexually than a normie gril which acts like a death star fish in bed.

>>18690832
>The idea of trying to woo people I know before finding out if they are into BDSM or not doesn't sound appealing at all.
Nah, you have to find people which already know where they stand. You just look throw normie ways, instead of fetish sites because you also want a normie human and not some retarded human garbage which only lives for sex.

> I'm just really sexually frustrated.
Yeah, well fap. Frustration isn't sexy and that'S the same mentality which everyone on such sites has. They just want to fuck in the end and don't care for your personality. But if you want a D/s relatiopnship that's not the way to go.

>I can only masturbate to heavy bondage stuff
You might need to just maybe NOT FAP and get yourself sorted out. You know, the more you dive into it the harder stuff you need to masturbate. Just try to go a couple months without. Your clit will be more sensitive and then try to fap to your imagination instead of porn.

Most likely you're just part of the 50 shades of shit train which got hooked on the dopamine.

The problem I'm seeing now is that A LOT of women (and frighteningly the statistics and research back it up) enjoy PAIN (of various levels and types) during sex, as well as for all intensive purposes being pseudo-raped (so long as, and for as long as, they like you).

Forgive me, but being raised to respect everyone (if for nothing else than civility) and treat others as you'd want to be treated seems to be the ANTITHESIS of what women actual crave on a deeper macro level.

For example I recently had a fwb call things off because I was hesitant (and to be honest repulsed, but I tried not to show it) to give her anal while fucking her with a toy. It was just so out of the blue it was a genuine "wut" moment for me; she obviously didn't like that non-response (I guess it reflected badly on her ego?), two days later "I'm sorry Anon, it's been fun but it's not working out..."

I guess this is why so many younger guys are getting angrier and angrier.

I wish sexual education would just be amoral and state facts like yes, Cindy DOES in fact like being called a slut (but only by her partners). No she shouldn't feel shame about it, and nor should you shame her.

>>18692168
>No she shouldn't feel shame about it, and nor should you shame her.
LOL
Yeah right
I don't understand how people like OP even have the right to vote or speak in public t b h

>>18692168
>treat others as you'd want to be treated seems to be the ANTITHESIS of what women actual crave on a deeper macro level
Nah, it's just sex. Also pain and lust centers in your brain are direct neighbors so it shouldn't surprise you that most PEOPLE enjoy pain while fucking. And the reason why most women enjoy rape PHANTASIES is also biological, due to the adaptation of conquering tribes. Women which didn't stay loyal and procreate with a wildling were allowed to life = give on their rape-enjoying genetics. Also most women are submissive by nature so getting fucked and slapped and made to suck dick is just part of beeing a healthy woman (woman, in case some fat feminist teenies here want to start to bitch about muh sexism).

But that all doesn't mean that you have to act like an asshole in daily life.

>For example I recently had a fwb call things off because I was hesitant
>hesistant
Yeah, woman want men which know what they know and lead. To be honest YOU should have asked her if you can double her if you're in an LTR. Slow reactions are never appreciated on peopl which are supposed to lead.

>I guess this is why so many younger guys are getting angrier and angrier.
Dunno, maybe most young guys just want a lustful slut without beeing able to fullfill said slut? I mean, if you want a gril with which you can do such shit you should know what to do with her instead beeing the male kind of dead sea star and get salty if those women don't appreciate to play a little boy as an teacher.

>I wish sexual education would just be amoral and state facts like yes
Sure, let's sexualize kids even more because you watched to much porn and think you can get a submissive slut while beeing a vanilla which get's a wut moment if asked to double her.

>>18692197
>i want to be treatedike shit during sex and that's a good thing but it should not affect your esteem of me otherwise lol !

let's gas all women pls

>>18692209
>he doesn't understand that you don't act the same way in public like you act in bed
Sad, sad normie. Many such cases!

Go be vanilla somewhere else.

This is unrelated, but every girl Ive met, bonded with, and started dating turned out to be massively submissive in the bedroom. Does this mean I am an "alpha"? Or does dom =/= alpha? I would count about 7 women. I had some sex friends but they could not relax enough to even enjoy sex, let alone act submissive. One came out to me that the reason was that she caught feelings and at her worst, she felt used for her body.

>>18692218
>hurr i am a massive hypocrite i secretly like being degraded but i would like to keep up appearances in public
yeah no
you are just a whore and not even an honest one, so you can just go fuck yourself

>>18692168
So you spoiled your spaghetti while she made you a juicy offer and now act as if women want to be treated like shit because they enjoy sex beyond of what you're used to?

Just start beeing a MGTOW and be done with it. You fucked up, that's all there is to it.

>>18692246
So, every woman which enjoys beeing dominated by her man and used by him is a whore which wants to get publicly degraded. Boi, you sure seem pathetic.

FYI I'm married to my dom and only wanted to explain your mistakes so that you don't repead them. Instead of getting butthurt you could just thank me, as you obviously neither understand BDSM nor woman as such.

>>18686680
post tits

>>18692263
Of course you don't want it but you fucking deserve it that's for sure
And no i don't understand women and i am fucking GLAD about that

>>18686680
do you have a male close friend? try talking to them and easing into the subject of your fetish. don't make it seem too brutal at first because it can scare them off. start with the usual stuff and present a fuck buddy style relationships. he may refuse or may not but the point is don't lay all of your cards out at the start. as time passes start introducing more hardcore stuff and go from there. this will be good because you will not encounter the same problems as your first bf.

>>18692304
So why do I deserve it? Because I showed you were you fucked up with your ex gf? I mean, she obviously wanted someone who can play on her level eg double her if she makes that offer at least. You weren't used to it, and made a foul out of yourself. She has gone to look for someone which better matches her slut level.

Just look for more vanilla grils and grow together into it, if you like it or not at all instead of acting as if women want to be Gor-tier slaves because they enjoy an alpha in bed.

There is nothing to be glad about not beeing able to understand a group, even if only to be able to destroy it from inside.

>>18688032
>fetlife
>yes please just sign here and here and here
>give us your name, social security, phone #, and a DNA sample to tie to all your sick fetishes and a picture with your face clearly in it. It's for your safety!

Yea fuck that. If you sign up for fetlife you are basically giving up on ever becoming someone of any kind of importance which means anything above waiter or waitresse.

>>18692536
>giving your real data
Anon pls

>>18692556
>not giving true data ironically
ISHYGDDT

>>18692317
I am not the same person you can tell by the fact i don't write the same way as that guy

No you deserve it because on the one hand you want to be humiliated in bed and on the other you come here or irl and you dare act as if you are respectable : YOU ARE NOT
There is no way i can have any respect for you i can't have anything but contempt, you fucking disgust me you are subhuman and should be treated as such end of story

>>18686680
>How do I (woman) go about finding someone I can trust that's interested in 24/7 BDSM play?

people like this exist in real life?

>>18692734
Well, I know some people have their own problems and like to project so I don't mind. I have a happy life, good sex and my posts don't sound as if I just have gotten intimidated by the experiences of fullfilled people.

You really sound like a beta so comtempt with himself that he has to lash out on someone to whom he can't relate to. Sad.