Should I lose my virginity to an escort? Will it make me

Maybe
You'll realize sex is overrated, but you miss out on sharing your first time with someone special.

If you aren't happy being alone, women won't help you.

>>18684596
If that virgin thing matters to you, I don't see why not? Pick your escort wisely though, so she could help you enjoying it throughly.

It won't magically make you scared less of woman, but it could be an eye-opening experience for you to learn about intimacy and sexual activities.

>>18684596
Yes, better than agonizing over it
Maybe. At least you would know what to expect and what goes where so that mystery is solved.

>>18684601
>sharing your first time with someone special.
Dude I'm 20, that won't happen. Girls my age have already had several sexual partners.
>>18684602
>matters to you
I'm pretty much unable to talk to women, and I don't like being constantly reminded by society that I'm a loser.
>Pick your escort wisely
Is there a guide for that or something?

>>18684606
>At least you would know what to expect
I was told that it could make my anxieties go away, or at least tone them down significantly. Is that not the case?

>>18684609
As far as I'm aware, no official guide on picking escorts. Try to ask somebody, like those "mamas" or pimps for a recommendations.

I'd suggest to ask them for a girl with good track record on girlfriend experience, so it'll be easier on you on your first time and easing your anxieties.

>>18684617
I'm in a country where it's illegal, so how do I make sure I don't get fucked by cops?

>>18684611
It will. Thats an added benefit of getting laid other than the sexual release. They may creep back in but at least it takes the virgin thing off the table. Don't tell anyone though it was with a prostitute, doesn't matter.

Never did the escort thing but have gone to private brothels and massage parlors. I like the massage parlors best. Nice steam, then a girl soaps me down and then a massage and then if I want, hand, mouth or vagina release.

It'll probably make you even more afraid of women, seeing the emotional disconnect they have when it comes to sex. You'll feel inadequate, and dirty.

>>18684630
>doesn't matter.
Why are people and especially women so anal about it then?
>>18684635
>You'll feel inadequate, and dirty
I already do.

>>18684622
I'm aware that it's illegal almost everywhere, but the truth is it can't be stopped and always exists in one way or another.

Try to find massage parlors or bars. Usually people who flock there would try to offer you, the pimps or mamas would approach you and ask if you'd like a good time.

The safest bet would be to join some kind of local online community and work your way from there. Local online communities often give hints behind the table for this sort of things.
You could search on instagram, facebook, social media, but nowadays its safety are not guaranteed and you're more likely to get scammed.

>>18684638
Ok, I'll look around then. Thanks anon

>>18684596
>tried losing virginity with a girl
>really liked her
>I had never used a condom before
>bought regular ones
>they did not fit
I thought she was teasing when she said it was big, it was so tight I couldn't get hard. We broke up because of life weeks later and I'm still half virgin. Kill me

>>18684678
>half virgin
Is there such a thing?
Also why didn't you look up sizing on condoms before buying them

>>18684711
Well I kinda got to fuck her but it was very tight and I coudn't keep an erection.
>why
because I thought I had a normal dick, I had no idea I had to buy XL condoms. When she said I was big I thought it was teasing.

>>18684711
Sizing isn't a thing in Australia. It's one size fits all and I thought all condoms were like that. I mean honestly, you can fit a regular condom over your head and it won't break.

Went to Thailand and ran low on condoms, so I picked up a packet of Lifestyles at a pharmacy. It felt like someone was squeezing the life out of my dick. I had to stop and find a pharmacy, specifically looking for bigger condoms. It was embarrassing.

>>18684596
No definitely don't, being Virgin is a good thing sometimes.

>>18684846
>being Virgin is a good thing sometimes.
Like when?

>>18684596
I lost virginity to an escort. I would advise against it - i got addicted to escorts and wasted a lot of money and time on them. I do think that sex makes you a little more confident around women, but nothing substantial. Unfortantely, when you are inexperienced, sex is no where near as porn makes it out to be.

Depends entirely. For some people it does because they realize that sex isn't very complicated or anything. Or they felt very burdened by their virginity and better now that they can honestly say they've had sex.
I've also read stories of guys saying they hated the knowledge in hindsight that they paid to fuck the first time they did it. And don't forget that interacting with a hooker is nothing at all like interacting with a random woman. You are a paying customer, none of her responses will be genuine. Trying to get experience that way is like talking to someone in customer service and feeling like you did well because they were nice to you. She's there as a professional not as a person with her own opinions and preferences.

It also can be addictive and some escorts actively try to get men hooked by getting them to develop feelings.

Just do whatever you want. It CAN make you less scared of women but it's no given.

>>18684862
same thing happened to me when i was 19. i thought 19 was way too old to be a virgin so i got a hooker. it ended up becoming an addiction and i blew 5k on hoes over the next year mostly just getting my dick sucked 40 bucks a pop.

on the bright side it cured my anxiety around attractive women and it turns out i like pussy a lot so it motivated me to get a gf to nut inside.

>>18684637
doesn't matter to guy or to you. Pussy is pussy but women don't want you to realize that. They want to pretend theirs is special and have power over you so don't give them an opportunity to pick it apart. If asked. I am no longer a virgin. If they insist who was it just say some girl you just met and never saw again.

>>18684888
>some girl you just met and never saw again
Isn't it shitty to lie about that if you want to be in a committed relationship

>>18684882
>on the bright side it cured my anxiety around attractive women and it turns out i like pussy a lot so it motivated me to get a gf to nut inside
exactly anon and why I think OP should but it is important to be aware of the risk as you state.

Every guy at some point blows cash on pussy be it at a strip club, massage parlor, escort, etc or some entitled cunt you blow your whole paycheck on and pay to have her car repaired, etc and its not a loan.

>>18684894
there is no reason to tell a girl that you fucked a prostitute to lose your virginity. no good can come of it. thats like if your girl told you shes fucked 25 guys before, it can only cause grief and its better left unsaid. we all want our girl to say 2 guys with 2 small dicks and every girl wants their guy to be a stud who decided shes special

>>18684637
>Why are people and especially women so anal about it then?
Guys are anal about it (if they are to begin with) because it's seen as masculine and successful for a man to pull girls. So if you are a virgin and they aren't, they feel like they got the upper hand over you at least in that regard.

For women, it is a mix of stereotypes that aren't entirely 100% bullshit but obviously do not exactly apply to every person. Depending on the person that ranges from feeling like there must be something wrong with you if it didn't "just happen" yet, to fear that you will inevitably dump a girl anyway because you wouldn't want to settle down with the only girl you ever fucked. (Or worse, you just use her as a "practice girlfriend" or less to get rid of your virginity, and wouldn't like her at all if you were less desperate to lose it.)
Definitely not all women care and a lot of it also has to do with how much of the stereotype you embody. When people make jokes about virgins they aren't picturing a perfectly average, functional human being who happens to have never had sex - just like when people joke about sluts they aren't picturing well-spoken, kind and modest women who happen to have had more partners than you would expect. They are thinking of a stereotype of a guy who doesn't know how many holes women have down there despite watching porn all day, who lets his mom do his laundry and is all around inexperienced and awkward. If you are none of that but you are a virgin than a lot less people will care than might laugh at some virgin comment.

>>18684894
Its not a lie. You just met and you never saw her again. Furthermore I caution all you guys about offering detail. You can have a sexual history conversation without giving numbers, situations, or who they were.

I fucked first at a party with a girl and we were both drunk and have no idea what her name was. Second was at a brothel out with my friends and then on girls assumed I had fucked many and were insecure when they would inquire a number. I would just say "more than one" and "I would think it unfair to any girl I had sex with, including you potential gf, to speak of it in detail", then let it drop

>>18684907
I don't disagree with the point that you don't owe someone every truth about your past, but I do feel it would be a lie. By framing it this way you are not just not telling something but presenting it so that they draw the wrong conclusion (ONS). What you tell your partner shouldn't be like some legal document that you really have to turn inside out to make sure you are not getting screwed by things that aren't technical lies.

In this case I'd sooner go with preferring not to discuss sexual past at all, like you said, than the more specific girl I never met again.

>>18684907
Also, a lot of girls do lie about the number of sexual partners they have - mainly from fear of judgement. For the ones that say they have had sex with a fair few (Say 20 or more) and are happy with it, they are highly judged by women and called sluts by men as well.

So if you guys want more opportunities for Sex, stop making women so afraid of judgement for liking sex and having multiple partners. Better for women, better for guys. Also, women stop being so harsh on women for liking sex.

>>18684923
It is true that women slutshame more actively than men, but men not wanting to date women they deem too experienced is the core issue. If the implication wasn't "you're a slut [thus not as desirable to men]" it wouldn't have the same sting. When women call each other sluts they are essentially saying that they are rotten apples in the eyes of men.

>>18684923
thats all fine and dandy except slutty women are disgusting and i cant respect a 20yo girl who has had 32 dicks inside her

>>18684719
How big is your willy??

>>18684922
I promise by your third relationship, who you lost your virginity is not even talked about. You are placing way too much emphasis on this. I realize one reason why is you want to know who the girl lost hers too and think it fair to tell them but sometimes THEY LIE.

First real gf told me I was first. It seemed like it with her awkwardness and not knowing what to do and nervously shaking but I found out 8 months later when her sister was mad at her that she lost her virginity to a guy in the neighborhood when she was 14 two years prior. Of course I asked why she lied and she said it was real quick and it happened just messing around out of curiosity and he moved away and she wanted to forget about it.

Stop this kissing and telling.

>>18684923
>So if you guys want more opportunities for Sex, stop making women so afraid of judgement for liking sex and having multiple partners
I think you're completely missing the point. Men don't like promiscuous women for the purpose of a serious relationship. Promiscuous women are provably more likely to continue being promiscuous. Men love sluts for a quick fuck though. The problem is that women can't be certain which one of these two they really are because men will lie just to get their dick wet so the women often get burned and perpetuate this among other women.

>>18684937
The amusing thing is girls lie about the number of partners they sleep with - sure your girl might tell you that she's only had 1 or 2, but how do you know she isn't lying? Just trust her on her word? Your probably the 10th guy she's said "I'm a virgin" too - and she's probably laughing at you for feeling so proud and believing her.

Point being is - the older girls are, you must assume that most have already had a few sexual experiences regardless of what they tell you. They will be truthful about their partner count if they think you won't judge them. From your attitude though, I think the girls you sleep with will be telling you that they haven't slept with hardly anyone.

Wake up moron.

>>18684962
im married and my wife had one previous partner.

girls lie because they know their behavior is reprehensible. no one wants wants their life partner to have fucked the whole football team. your mindset is juvenile and shortsighted. try promoting strong healthy relationships instead of slutting around.

>>18684948
I'm not OP and it's not the kissing and telling (or lack of it) I care about. Just the idea that if you word things deceptively and let your partner draw the logical conclusion you want them to draw, that would not be lying because you did not utter false words or whatever.

>>18684974
So your acknowledging that your girl could have fucked the whole football team but lied because she believed her behaviour was reprehensible.

I'm trying to say that if a woman got laid heaps in the past, that fact should not matter to anyone. What's in the past is past. All that should matter is whether both partners love each other or not.

Don't be insecure.

>>18684991
I'm not the guy you're responding to, but does it not matter because it's ok (in your eyes) to fuck around, or does it not matter simply because there's no way to know anyway?
If it's the latter then I agree.

>>18684995
I don't care what people do in their private lives, that's none of my business.

I believe that both men and women should be allowed to have sex with as many/few people as they want since I believe in freedom. I may disagree with how often they do it, but I don't agree with stopping them doing it because that is limiting freedom.

I find people who judge others future capability of loving based on their past relationships incredibly cold people.

>>18685017
Where did anyone talk about stopping people from having sex? We're saying that it's not unreasonable to refuse being in a relationship with a woman whom you know for a fact has slept around a lot.
>future capability of loving based on their past relationships
Would you trust your partner if you knew they had slept with fifteen strangers?
People can make mistakes, but there's a point where mistakes cease to be involuntary and become choices. It's not cold or unreasonable to judge people for the choices they've made.

>>18684601

Solid advice, right out of the gate. Was gonna reply to OP, but this is everything I was going to say.

>>18684596
if you do get a hooker just remember that no matter how awkward it is, it isn't. You're paying her

>>18685029
I thought the special first time thing was a meme
Who the fuck waits for a special person? That's a good way to end up a wizard

>>18685027
>refuse being in a relationship
I have no problems with rules being set. Remember what is right for you mabye different for others. For instance, some guy might make a rule that he's not being serious and he's seeing others, so he's ok if she does the same. Your relationship, your rules - if it's someone else's, they can determine their own rules.

Again, it's up to the couple what boundaries they want to set in the relationship.

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I lost my virginity to a prostitute.

It depnds on your sitution.

I did it as a stupid teenager. A really hot street walker came up to me and asked for only 20 euros. I physically couldn't have said no.

I regret it though, because just a few months later I had sex with a regular non-prostitute.

Now whenever people ask me about my first time, I have to lie and say that my second time was my first time.

However, if you're in your 20's, I'd advise you to give it a go because you are missing out

>>18685027
If I knew, yeah sure I probably wouldn't. But if I loved her already, this wouldn't deter me from continuing the relationship. If I didn't truly love her before, then of course I'd probably leave.

>>18684609
>Dude I'm 20
>Girls my age have already had several sexual partners.

not me ;_;

>>18685056
How? Did you fall for the "wait for a special person" meme?

>>18685058
that and I'm shy

its not super rare though.

I have a friend that is in the same situation as me.

>>18684609
>Girls my age have already had several sexual partners
Just because they had serveral sexual partners doesn't mean they can't be someone special to you in that moment
Stop finding excuses and work on yourself my dude

>>18685065
>work on yourself for months or even years with no guarantee of success
or
>pay a few hundred and get to fuck an 8/10

damn that's a real dilemma

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>>18684622
Go to a massage parlor with a pink exterior at night and they will straight up ask if you wanna fuck a hooker

>>18685063
>its not super rare
Depends on the environment you're in, where you live, etc
In big cities people like you are extremely rare

>>18684975
I prefer to avoid the conversation all together and after you fuck, prostitute or not, your demeanor will not scream virgin so the conversation may never require any comment other than a yes or no.

>>18685076
>after you fuck, prostitute or not, your demeanor will not scream virgin
How does that work, does the girl give you a memo on how to change your body language or something?

>>18685074
>In big cities people like you are extremely rare

I'm in Toronto.

Anyway, I read it is more common for women to lose their virginity late than man.

>>18685084
Are you in college?
>I read it is more common for women to lose their virginity late
I don't buy it. If you're ugly it's probably the same as if you were an ugly guy, but average or attractive women get many more opportunities to have sex than average or attractive men.

>>18684991
>What's in the past is past
But even you know while it may be past it may still be recent. A girl lets go and fucks a ball team, realizes she doesn't want this and stops fucking for awhile and gets her head on again. Then she enters a relationship after making adjustments after a life lesson.

Then, and more common, are the girls still fucking ball teams right up till they meet you, stop and try to figure a real relationship out and learned nothing. This is a timeout and temporary and wasn't really "the past" since some of these guys she was fucking or were in queue are still hanging around.

>>18685032
You pay any girl unless its the town slut and its your turn. That is why I love town sluts, they give it away for free.

>>18685090
I graduated

>I don't buy it
here you go
http://nytlive.nytimes.com/womenintheworld/2016/08/05/millenial-women-are-waiting-longer-to-have-sex-compared-with-their-gen-x-peers/

>you're ugly

I don't think so... I am really skinny and have a weak chin but I don't think I'm hideous

>>18685033
Its not that special. How can there be an emotional connection with two horny people fumbling around

>>18685063
but even you must admit most of the girls around you are running up the score

>>18685079
its because you been there and done that along with a knowing smile

>>18685033
I waited for the right person. Dated three people before him, but I never fell in love with them, so I didn't fuck them. Lost my virginity when I was 23 and it was great, would wait again.

>>18685100
That article only tells you that women are losing their virginity later today than in the 90s, and gives no comparative data for men aside from telling us that the average age is overall constant throughout the years
As I said, it also depends on your country and environment
By the way, the average age simply tells you that 50% of people lose their virginity before X, and 50% lose it after, it doesn't account for anything else

>>18685112
yeah

some girls have lots of partners obviously

>>18685119
Most men in their twenties shouldn't take that risk, though.

>>18685115
Practically speaking what is the difference?
If I'm awkward before I'll be awkward after too and people tend to associate that with virginity anyways.

>>18685120
I guess you're right

I look this article that has stats
>Virgins make up 12.3 percent of females and 14.3 percent of males aged 20 to 24.

https://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/03/on-late-in-life-virginity-loss/284412/

>>18685136
What a depressing article

>>18685148
why is it depressing for you?

>>18685156
It reminded me I was abnormal

>>18685157
... sorry to hear that

though keep in mind being different can be good

>>18685163
Not in this case

>>18685165
there's nothing wring with being a virgin.

it just means you lived your life in a different way than most people.

stop seeing it as a mark of shame

>>18685172
Yes there is. It means I'm too dysfunctional to have had experiences the overwhelming majority of people consider to be normal and healthy.
People go through these things during their teenage years and I'm in my twenties. No matter how you put it it's pathetic

>>18685182
Fuck that's the median right?

>>18685180
If it bothers you, you should take some steps to correct it.

I suggest reading the /fit/ sticky and follow diet and weight lifting advices from there

Also, join a local events and meet people there.

do these and you'll find that girl that wants your penis

>>18685190
Do I need to be ripped to get laid? I'm already fit
What kind of local events should I look at, last time I did something like this it was to join some kind of programming bootcamp thing, but I had a huge spergout because there were too many people, and I just stopped going.

>>18685206
>I'm already fit
good for you

>some kind of programming bootcamp thing

yeah.... definitely not that.

try going to a intercultural exchange thing. There lots of young girls from around the world and they might find you exotic

Or go to salsa dancing classes. It is mostly female, the women are hot and you can hit it off.

I'm in the same situation as you OP, i'm also 20 years old and every day that goes by I get a little bit more hopeless

I'm not fat, I can handle conversations just fine and I dont think I'm extremely ugly
I just never know how to escalate things with girls, and since everyone at my age has had multiple relationships in the past theyre all much more experienced than I am

>>18685228
>definitely not that.
idk, I thought going to a place where everyone was socially retarded would make it easier for me.
Maybe the cultural thing is a good idea, I couldn't contain the spaghetti if I went to dancing classes though so not that

Does it really count if you lose your virginity to a hooker? It's not like she wants to have sex with you, so even if you do it, it's not like you lost it to a girl who actually wanted you and thought of you as attractive.
That's what bothers me the most about losing it to a prostitute.

>>18685125
and how did you and the few friends that weren't fucking everybody view them? in awe or envy?

>>18685330

We would mock her but we were pretty jealous as well

>>18685069
It isn't a dilemma at all for most people, get your shit together

>>18685352
Yes, because most people don't have to spend years improving themselves in order to be normal.
Most people get laid naturally.

>>18685120
>By the way, the average age simply tells you that 50% of people lose their virginity before X, and 50% lose it after, it doesn't account for anything else

That's not how averages work retard.

Imagine a bell curve, with 90% of people losing their virginity in the age range of 16-24, with 5% on either side losing it before or after.

The average age would be about 19 or 20.

>>18685314
The vast majority of women don't want to sleep with the vast majority of men.

It only ends up happening because men have money/resources to offer, and women will give them sex in exchange.

Basically all straight adult relationships are prostitution at their core.

>>18684719
16 cm and thicc

>>18685357
hummmm

>>18685432
>>18684943

>>18685433
What?

>>18685406
>all straight adult relationships are prostitution at their core.
Not officially.

>>18685432
16cm is considered big ?

>>18685559
If girth is above average I guess
I'm like 5.8" in length but 6" girth and normal condoms don't fit

>>18684601
>sharing your first time with someone special
What if I never find that person and end up lonely and bitter in my late twenties?
Yeah I'd like to find a girl I actually like and all, but given how far behind I've already fallen, I feel like I'm in no position to be picky.

>>18684596
No. Believe me, you won't be less scared of women. Instead, you'll likely treat them more like objects than human beings, and that will show in your body language and demeanor in social settings.

If you're really trying to get laid, but you're never speaking to women due to perceived or real social problems, then the real problem probably stems from you not truly understanding your self-worth.

If you want concrete advice, then I would say first read a book called Animal Farm by George Orwell, figure out what character speaks to you best, and then stick with the character throughout the story to see how they are treated. I already know what character you'll pick, and the outcome. But it'll make you think differently in ways.

After that, then I would say to make the changes that you don't want to make, but know will probably be beneficial for you in the long run.

You could go into a career path which lists family values as a higher priority than others, like the military.

You might've heard someone say something like "most girls are just as horny as guys.. they're just more emotional" or some stupid shit like that. What most people don't know is the amount of girls who are looking for a guy who values shit like having kids and starting a family over just the small talk.

Most guys today are fucking wimps whenever it comes to marriage and raising a family, and women understand that. I'm not telling you to go raise a family, but just finding a way to come off as the type of guy who has his shit together will make a world of difference to losing your virginity.

>>18685685
>not truly understanding your self-worth.
What if it really is nonexistent though?

>>18685685
This.

>>18685685
Am I supposed to identify with Snowball?

No, absolutely don't do this.
I did this (more or less) my first sexual encounter with a woman was a borderline rape situation my first year of college. I grew up rather sheltered in a single parent home but discovered porn and such on my own and was still learning for myself. Won't go too much into details but I wasn't dating the girl who I did stuff with, we were barely friends, just kind of let AIM conversations get really heated. Once we were alone at my house she pushed herself on me more than I wanted but I also didn't want it to stop despite feeling awful, she kept trying to get me stick it in but I said no so she just sucked me off and she showed me how to eat her out in return. This happened a couple other times but then I found out she had other guys she did it with and it was just a weird situation for me, so I didn't get it in/didn't want to but that technically means I was still a virgin

A year and a half later I was dating a girl and thought things were going well after 7 months but then she just disappeared/pushed me away. Never heard from her again and got really depressed and saw an escort in my desperation. It was awful and didn't help that the escort was a massive bitch too. I've read in my research after the fact that there are good quality escorts, but you just have to dig, still, I would advise against spending to money to sex for the first time. It will create negative associations in your mind in regards to sex. Good luck anon

>>18685815
>I'm an autistic failure who had a bad experience so you shouldn't!

>>18685825

>I've read in my research after the fact that there are good quality escorts, but you just have to dig

I just said I would would advise against it. This was also about 10 years ago now.

>>18684596
I did it. I had to visit her 3 times. First two times I didn't cum, even though she was extremely hot. I would advise doing nofap for a month or three, then going to see an escort if you still want to. Trust me, you won't enjoy it if you fap daily.

>>18685908
>nofap for a month or three
Wouldn't you cum the second she touches you?

>>18685910
Maybe, but take it from me, fucking a really hot girl with a limp dick for an hour is much worse. Some of the higher tier girls offer multiple shots, though.

What if I want to kiss a girl or put my mouth anywhere near her pussy

>>18685119
having as much baggage as I do, the pool of women who will accept me is already small enough

when or if I actually do find someone, what are the chances that it will be "special"?

>>18684991
Nobody wants a girl who can't resist temptation.

>>18685918
Aren' high class escorts clean?

>>18686031
>women
>clean
top leek

>>18686071
I heard in Amsterdam they were required to take monthly medical tests

Having sex won't make your personality do a 180. Having sex with someone close to you will help you understand it's pretty easy to get someone to do it with you, assuming you are in a romantic relationship with them.

>>18685570
>a girl said a 5.8 inch dick was big
Suddenly I'm quite reassured

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>>18684601
This, please Anon, do yourself a favor and try to find someone special to do it with. I lost to a hooker and I've literally only had sex with hookers and strippers ever since. I don't think I can ever have a real relationship with a woman who actually loves me, I'm starting to feel that I'm going to walk on the Seedy Side for the rest of my life.

>>18686071
They are... It's their livelihood and reputation. It's the same reason why in place where prostitution is legalized, like the places outside Vegas, they make their girls get tested. It's called keeping good business standards because they're literally in the business of selling sex.

>>18687065

this... :(

I could use specific tailored advice.

I'm turning 25, and apart from hugging and dancing with a girl in a 6th grade graduation ceremony, I've never had any physical intimacy with a girl; I'm a kissless virgin.

To compound matters worse, I've let myself go since 8th grade, because I got home schooled, in high school. I basically had a "Boogie situation" with a mom that constantly overfed me and made me a manchild. Anyway, since high school I've been at 300lbs on average. I've weight lost twice, reaching a 'low' of 220lb, only to gain it all back, like Jonah Hill.

So where am I going with this. I'm fat, miserable, depressed. And I'm sure the lack of physical intimacy is driving some of that. Should I maybe consider getting a hooker as a form of 'anti depressant'? Or should I work on my weight again, and make good faith attempts at dating, which I've never done in my life, not even when I was low weight for a few months.

>>18687031
I'm a man

>>18687065
>find someone special
That's easy to say. Truth is, it's much harder to find someone "special" than to just go to a brothel and get it over with.
There's no guarantee that I'll ever find someone anyway. Some people go through life without ever being in a meaningful relationship.
>>18686965
>it's pretty easy to get someone to do it with you
I'm not attractive

>>18688054
>I'm not attractive
And?

>>18684601
OP is probably too broken for a stable relation due to sexual frustration and isolation

I suggest hooker

>>18689384
>too broken for a stable relation due to sexual frustration and isolation
Is that possible? Fuck

>>18689427
dunno