Why does trying to meet new people feel like 50% anxiety

because lasting, meaningful friendships aren't built the literal second you start speaking to someone.

>>18662721
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>>18662721
I don't understand your point. Are you saying everyone is bored around new people, but they just push on through it?

>>18662733

Feeling comfortable around people requires you to build trust and become familiar with them.

Enjoying peoples company requires you finding common ground between you in terms of interests or ideas or humour.

I didn't used to enjoy making small talk. In fact, I hated it. and I felt exactly like you did. But I realised I'd have to put up with it if I was to ever locate decent friends. I made decent friends, and in the process, I learnt to kind of enjoy just chewing the fat for conversations sake (beer helps)

>>18662748
That is encouraging. I go through short phases where I suddenly enjoy small talk, and find it so thrilling that I wondered if it was hypomania. It seems more likely that my anxious brain temporarily gave up on "the rules" and I felt able to talk about whatever I found interesting instead of feeling like "perfect conversations"(where both of us have a strong interest and gain a mutual benefit) is out of reach. I think I just need to meditate more

>>18662771
>It seems more likely that my anxious brain temporarily gave up on "the rules" and I felt able to talk about whatever I found interesting instead of feeling like "perfect conversations"

fuck me, this happens to me too. When I get out of my own head, everything is better