Who here /lacksselfconfidence/?
>6'4
>not terribly ugly
>buff
>not bald
>well off / >own house and car
>can't talk to women, can't take hints, complete social autist
Lifting just made me look better, but it doesn't fix my confidence.
Read the sticky.
>>18656264
Self confidence to a large part comes from positive social feedback.
If you never got any, good luck fixing that later in life.
>>18656266
Not OP but as a child I was abused by all the other kids for my whole time at school.
Even even after becoming a popular guy afterwards and from the outside developing normal social skills, I still have zero self confidence.
Is it ever possible to un-just yourself?
>>18656267
Yes.
Read the sticky.
>>18656267
Doubt it honestly. Early childhood is the formative phase, your experiences from that time will stick with you.
Even if you succeed you'll probably never manage to reach the same level of self confidence as someone who got positive social feedback in their youth.
>>18656269
I agree, early childhood forms you
I was the tallest kid always and it made me a bully.. then with 14 to 18 onwards I trolled and raged people online especially video games
And now I'm a mid 20 cynical guy who can't keep relationships and shitposts on 4chan
Jesus. Harden the fuck up. Do something manly; got catch a fish or shoot a deer or go skydiving or something. Fuck...
>>18656271
That doesn't really change anything about his problem though.
He can suck it up and act like everything is alright, but that won't just magically make everything alright.
>>18656272
Not that guy but yes, it does. Neuroplasticity. Fake it 'till you make it.
>>18656264
just be yourself
I jest but there is some merit to just accepting what you are and moving from there. How I got confidence was through long periods of observation. I'd just sit in a coffee shop and read my book and eavesdrop on hipsters (this was in 2008 at the height of hipster elitism). Little by little I started to recognize I guess what you would call conversational tools and gestures. Log things like how many questions someone should ask how much it's permitable to talk about yourself. Once I felt like I understood enough of that I engaged them with mixed success at first and then got "in". Felt proud of myself for penetrating an extremely hostile social group and fugging a couple of them. From there it just gets easier. If you're introverted and have an over calculating mind it's just a matter of setting it work where you need it to.