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I'm having trouble with this whole "confidence" thing. Can you be confident in your action, if that action was made out of insecurity? ie: Let's say I will never let a woman drive a car if I am going to be in the car with her. I am confident that this is the correct way of things. BUT let's say that someone could say: "you're only that way because your insecurities prevent yourself from letting a woman drive because it would be unmanly" or whatever bullshit reason.
I was in another thread and I read that this girl didn't like that her boyfriend watches porn. Most people would say the girl doesn't like it because she's insecure with herself. However, the girl is confident that he shouldn't watch porn, and will argue herself to death. So, can you be confident in other ways?
I just don't get it, and it's bothering like crazy (and making myself more insecure)
Thanks for reading, and I appreciate all replies.
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Confidence is weird in that you can be completely confident and not look like it, and conversely, you can look like a pillar of confidence and have very little of it. You wouldn't really be able to get through most of your day if you didn't have at least some modicum of confidence, so I think you're kind of undulating over whether you are insecure or have a desire to be insecure.
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>>18645111
Maybe you're right. Perhaps it is all about perception. So would example 1 in my OP be confidence or insecurity?
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Confidence is beliveing that you can pull something off such as talking with girls or jumping from one cliff to another. The first example doesnt have to do anything with confidence, its more like your own moral code that women shouldnt drive but it could also come from your insecurity like you said. The second example, the girl isnt confident that her boyfriend shouldnt watch porn. Shes insecure about him watching it because it lowers her confidence since she starts thinking hes watching it because shes not good enough, thus she becomes insecure. Hope this helps...
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>>18645158
Thanks, that really does clarify some things.
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>>18645135
You're being confident about your safety.
Your insecurities would only penetrate your ability to reason if they inhibited you from making clear decisions about who drives.
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