So I'm probably going to be moving ~9 hours away from my

>>18636414
Mate, this is not good. Leaving will kill the relationship whether thats what you expect or not. This is a decision of her or the job I promise you.

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>>18636835
So my suspicions are more or less confirmed. I don't know if I should thank you or to have a panic attack.
I am honestly ready to marry her once I'm settled into a job, problem is getting a job locally in my field is fucking impossible (the industry is booming, but everyone wants at least 2 years experience). Taking her with me isn't even an option because she's still in school. I'm really getting desperate for a job too, it's been over a year since I graduated, I have to make up a grand lie to employers about what I've been doing in that year (when literally shitposting and applying for jobs is all I've been doing).
I choose her over the job, hands down I won't find a girl better than her. But I don't know when and if another job offer will show up. Especially in my hometown. I'd be willing to move away 2-4 hours away since I could see her every weekend (it's what we do anyway when she's in school). 9 hours is excessive in my opinion.
The worst part is my parents aren't even giving me much of an option here. They are beyond pissed at me for even suggesting that I might turn the offer down for this very reason, saying that I'll never get a job if I'm not willing to move far out (and they have a point, the competition is fierce as a new grad). They dismiss me as being paranoid about my gf, my mom said in an angry fit to just marry her now and take her with me.

>>18636925
How much have you spoken to your gf about this?
Sounds like your very serious about the relationship, you need to make sure she feels the same way

>>18636925
I think you should take the job based on your situation. I don't believe in LDR, but if you love her and trust she loves you then you have no choice but try and make it work the best you can. Shit sucks but there are some times when you just have to risk it to get on with life. I hope whatever happens works out for you, but you need to understand how crucial building a strong career is for you to have a good later life. What does she say about this?

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>>18636931
A lot. She really doesn't want me to move away and says she would feel overwhelmed. She feels strongly that I should find a job locally but if it can't be helped then I "gotta do what you need to get ahead". She said that if it weren't for school, she would 100% follow me wherever I may find a job.
In terms of how serious it is, it's pretty serious and we both acknowledge that. We've talked about where we'd get married, where we'd live, how we would generate income, how many kids, how we'd raise them, names for the kids, the whole 9 yards. It's gotten to the point that even extended family are pushing for us to get married asap.
>>18636934
And I have been considering the whole "if she truly loves you, she'll suffer the LDR to keep you" angle. I know what I'm capable of and a LDR is peanuts compared to other obstacles in life. I can't say the same for anyone else though. It's a fucking gamble on both fronts and I fucking hate it. I want to get far with my career, don't get me wrong, my sights are up high for the future. I want to be a manager at the very least, if not run my own company selling an invention of mine.
She is very aware of the job market, especially in my field (she has seen me struggle to get a job this entire time). So she knows that I might have to move away. She would rather me find a job locally for obvious reasons.