Hey adv how do i stop being so anxious in social situations where

>>18636084
Try this:

Everyone is just like you, to some extent. Everyone "gets nervous" so you're no different, more or less, usually, than anyone you're with. In other words: What you're experiencing is common. There are millions of "nervous people" out there. So what?

That's it. You're normal, more or less. Get on with it.

>>18636084
Drink
That helps me in those scenarios

>>18636100
Drinking helps me too, but i dont want to depend on a substance to do that. I want to be like that on my own.
>>18636095
I get it man, its just i see a lot of people in a carefree vibe and i wish i could. Just like that, give 0 fucks and enjoy my time

>>18636109
>Drinking helps me too, but i dont want to depend on a substance to do that. I want to be like that on my own.
You don't have to depend on it
It can get you out of the door and lay down some foundations on who you are in group events

It's about that foundation

>>18636109
>I get it man, its just i see a lot of people in a carefree vibe and i wish i could. Just like that, give 0 fucks and enjoy my time
When I say you're "normal" I mean you're on the bell curve, like the rest of us, so you're falling somewhere along the line of hard left (I'm a hermit in a cave) to hard right (I'm Chad fucking all the cheerleaders).

If you think you're in the middle or middle-left, that's fine. I mean: understand that some people who LOOK carefree ARE REALLY carefree. They don't think too hard. That's how they're wired. You're wired differently, that's all. Enjoy who you are for who you are.

Be kind to yourself.

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>>18636117
Hmm okay i kind of see your points guys. Thanks

>>18636084
Look at people.

If you can manage to be sociable with one person you can be sociable with fifty. When I lecture or communicate with large crowds I give my full attention to one person for a second or three then switch to another. If you can read the social cues of one person you're fine just jump your attention around. Don't try to falsely present yourself either, just work with what you got. If you don't like to say much be the stereotypical quiet background character who says three sentences the whole movie. If you can fill the air full of random bullshit be the Faceman or whatever. Just relax and be you. If they don't like you, self reflect decide if you can/should improve then find somebody else or change depending on if you're at fault or if they are.