How do you keep the sexual spark going in a long-term relationship?

Why dont start filmimg yourselves? Amateur porn exista for a reason.

>>18632383
What about pegging? waxplay?

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>>18632383
Your story doesnt add up.

You either want sex and then you may get it, or you dont want sex. It is all about compromises.

Who want sex more? She? You? Make a deal about it. Maybe not penetration all the time, just mutual masturbation? And you can keep intimacy by cuddling and daily routines like saying good morning and kissing her. And not every cuddling have to end up in sex.

Sex once per week sounds ok. Your love phase is over, it happens to every couple. Learn to live with less and be grateful you have somebody to share joys and pains with.

Tldr talk with her about it. And dont be afraid to get your daily dose of intimacy by hugs and cuddles. You see your gf? Hug her, no excuses. Smile. Tease her. Do morning ritual and cuddle the bitch. You dont need to have a lot of sex to "be normal". Make sure you know what you want.

And when will you finally marry her and make some babies?

>>18632383
Same here, op. Been with my bf for 6 years. It sparks up every once in a while. We mostly spend our time going out now and sex is once or twice a week.

I want to just stay home and fuck several times a day like we used to. While we've experimented on everything. Almost all our sex is the same and he doesn't want to change it

>he wants a bj
>no foreplayfor me, if I convince him he half ass pokes around my clit and it hurts
>sex with me on top
>switch to reverse cowgirl then doggy then finish in missionary

It's been the same for like a year. If I suggest something he gets defensive. We also started dancing around sex too. I'm dying but I still love him.


I feel like the only way to solve it is to talk about it. When we finally do talk, we'll keep up for like a week, until sex drive drops again. I used to like giving bjs, I know they are lacking from what it used to be, now it feels like a chore, which just makes me not even want to get started anymore.

Thing is I don't want to have sex with anyone else. I just want something to happen that just isn't happening.

>>18632488

The problem is that when you fuck the same person hundreds of times, in different positions and situations, it's difficult to get as excited about it as you used to. The issue exists for both of us. That doesn't mean our emotional relationship has deteriorated, and we still cuddle, kiss, and hug all the time. But it's difficult to get excited about sex. It starts to feel like a chore.

The weird thing is, it's not like I've started to desire sex with other people. I think I look at more porn and masturbate more often, but I don't want to fuck anyone else. The whole concept has gotten kind of old.

>>18632491
Yeah I feel exactly the same way. I think you just have to accept that at some point the sex is going to become less relevant, but it worries me that we'll eventually drift apart because of it.

>>18632503
I see. Lets use this stolen advice from elsewhere then:
You cant appreciate something which isnt scarce. Like you dont know how much you need electricity or clean water until you lose it.

Suggest a game for her. You wont have sex unless something will happen. Something hard. Like getting more fit, running 5 km in one go, adopring sport, reading some long book, taking her to 10 romantic dates. Cleaning house, making that one chore nobody did for a year.

Be creative, make a deal, teasing is allowed, but no sex or masturbation whatsoever until the goal is met and then do it.

It can work. Make sex scarce. Something you have to fight for. Something both her and you have to earn.

>>18632491
To be honest, this sounds like different case. He simply got lazy and you allowed him to become so. Do you know how you fight lazyness? By discipline. Whip him into action. No, it wont be easy, but it is worth a shot. Ask him what is he willing to do for you to not leave him.

>>18632488
if I had a woman around all the time and could only have sex once a week I would end up cheating, and I don't even think cheating is right

not sure what page you guys are on

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>>18632560
How old are you? 19?
And do you know you can curb libido by masturbation? And that being horny doesnt excuse you from cheating in the same as being drunk doesnt excuse you from murder?

So jelly.

At this rate, I'm lucky to get it once every two months.

>>18632589
Are you boy?
And how does it feel to be in soon to be dead bedroom marriage?

Either learn how to solve problems, how to communicate or ask yourself if you can live for the rest of your life with some fat friend who wont even jerk you off from time to time. Maybe it is time to do something radical?

>just for inspiration
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2225936/A-husband-confesses-Seeing-wife-birth-sex-YEAR.html

>>18632605
That's a lot of assumptions.

I know this feeling OP. Been with my gf for 2.5 years, and we only do it about 1-2 times a week now. I've definitely got a higher libido than her anyway, always have, but the sex has kinda gotten stale, and we've tried lots of stuff. Dunno what to do, is this normal? Our relationship itself is great, no problems there, its just the sex. I'm ashamed to admit, I have been noticing other girls recently and thinking they're hot, but i've not done anything.

>>18632535
>Be creative, make a deal, teasing is allowed, but no sex or masturbation whatsoever until the goal is met and then do it.
>It can work. Make sex scarce. Something you have to fight for. Something both her and you have to earn.
I've tried this with my bf but he doesn't care and just jacks off later. What do?

>>18633480
It's the same for me, 3.5 years and we have sex like once a week but she doesn't live with me so maybe that's it but we used to do it 3-4 times a week.

>>18633527
To solve problems in relationship you need both sides of conflict wanting to solve it.

Either whip him into action, assert dominance, use force or use manipulation to achieve your goals.

Like if he has energy to fap, he can at least tell you to fap him and vice versa. Have him read some articles of this?
https://yourbrainonporn.com/

>>18632383
Don't try to rekindle sex. Work on rekindling romance. Do lovey-dovey stuff out of bed. Cuddle and hug. Go on a romantic weekend away from everything. Bring her flowers.

You'll be surprised how very unusual your usual sex will be when you're both in a particularly loving mood.