I'm a shy, socially retarded loser nerd with zero charima

>>18631865
Some people are not made for relationships. By some people I mean you. Learn to come to terms with your situation and focus on something else.

>>18631865
If possible move to a big city, more girls, more meetups, more everything really

If you have to ask where to meet women, I don't think you actually have what it takes to maintain a relationship with one. What do you as a self-described "shy, socially retarded loser nerd with zero charisma and mediocre looks" even have to offer a woman? Work on yourself.

>>18631884
Not really a viable option for me unfortunately, at least not in the forseeable future. I make ends meet, but have very little in the way of savings so I'm in no position to uproot my life at the moment.

>>18631891
That's a little harsh. I might be an awkward weirdo, but I still have redeeming qualities as a person despite my lack of social skills.

And me asking for advice to help me go out and meet new people IS me trying to leave my comfort zone and improve myself.

>>18631911
It's harsh but true. You admitted you're not much of a catch looks wish, that you're socially awkward which means you probably couldn't show a non-desperate woman a good time and you have some pretty bad self esteem issues. Honestly women should be near the bottom of your list right now. You need to work on your self-esteem, your social skills and learn to live an interesting life on your own before you even think about adding a woman to it.

>>18631865
>I'm a shy, socially retarded loser nerd with zero charima and mediocre looks
Work on this. You could be surrounded by women but you'd still not get anywhere because of this. Not knowing where to meet people is your secondary problem.

>>18631935
How can I improve my social skills if I don't know where to meet people?

My whole point in wanting making this thread was wanting to go out and get experience talking to women instead of moping around my apartment feeling sorry for myself. Come out of my shell a little. I never expected it to be a process that happens over night, and sorry if I wasn't clear on that, but years of living as a reclusive introvert have left me clueless as to where to start.

>>18631984
Well you refuse to go to clubs and bars and you refuse to date online so there's really nothing else we can tell you. It's not like there are groups of people hanging around in public, just waiting for you to come and hang out with them.

>>18631935
>>18631933
>>18631884
you guys always say this, but i know a lot of girls personally on the internet who are socially awkward and shit too and they say they would date a "shy, socially retarded loser nerd with zero charima and mediocre looks" as long as they had a genuine connection and they were loyal

if you guys say you /need/ to have this amazing type of lifestyle to be loved, why would anyone want to be loved by someone with those standards if there exists people that don't mind the awkward nerd with no charisma?

>>18631990
>refuse to go to clubs and bars and you refuse to date online so there's really nothing else we can tell you

but there are plenty of people of the opposite sex who are like the OP person and don't go to clubs or date online. it's really hard to find though and it's usually by accident through the internet like on discord or something

>>18632003
Them saying they would date them doesn't mean they actually would or that they would be satisfied with the relationship. How many of those women are dating shy socially retarded losers? What kind of men are they with now?

>>18632017
well the ones i know personally have never had a boyfriend

>>18632003
>>18632011
If you don't want to change or make any effort, don't. But if you're going to do that, shut up and stop whining.

>>18632035
OP here, like I said that's what I'm trying to do. Put myself out there to build confidence and experience with social skills. You're the one stubbornly insisting that the only way that'll happen is by becoming a normalfag and frequenting clubs as if it's literally the only way to meet people.

Aside from online dating, which is a cesspool unless you're a 10/10

>>18632069
Start conversations with people wherever you go. I used to be shy and insecure. I still am but I force myself out of my comfort zone. Just greet people wherever you go, or make a comment about something going on in the environment. Try to be funny, don't put pressure on yourself to get something out of it. As a matter of fact, I recommend talking to people you don't think you can get anything out of like old or ugly people.

When you get comfortable with that, move to talking to younger people. Cute girls are still people on the inside. They have insecurities and want to be noticed just like everyone else. When you get comfortable with speaking to strangers and maybe even holding conversations, start complimenting people. If you're out and you see a girl with some nice boots or something don't be afraid to say "Excuse me, I just wanted to say I love your boots". Most people will be ecstatic that you noticed. Worse case scenario, they ignore you. Their rudeness is on them. What you'll find as you do this is that, although hard and scary at first, your comfort zone will move to include holding conversations with strangers and you'll do it without thinking about it too much.

The same goes for every other type of social contact. Just slowly stepping out of your comfort zone until one day, you're in bed girl she's putting your hand on her breast and rubbing her ass on your crotch and you remember the loser you used to be and thinking, "Oh my god, this is happening.."