How do I find a shrink? Like where do I even start? I've

https://www.betterhelp.com/helpme/

Do you work out regularly?

Bring an easy-to-eat packed lunch to work, eat it on a quick break, and use your lunch hour to change and actually go on a run.

>>18623344
>online counseling
This makes me uncomfortable
Does it work

>>18623349
I run three days a week and lately I've been doing light bodyweight exercises on the off days. It helped when I had a less consistent schedule at uni, but when I'm coding 8+ hours a day it doesn't do shit

>>18623305
Go to a general practitioner and get a referral. Im not kidding you. The field is full of hacks and actual phd medical professionals.

Theyre almost impossible to tell apart unless you yourself have an education in psychology.

I can take an online course on freudian psychology for a month and be a psychotherapist.

>>18623305
Also...

Could be plain boredom. Its not add if you have to sit at a desk for 40 hours a week and its driving you crazy. Anxiety will mimic add as well.

Add is an entire personality. To say "disorder with attention problems" scratches the surface.

>>18623305
Google it bitch.
>shrink in my area

>>18623359
So I should just ask my regular doctor for a referral? That's easy enough

>>18623364
>Its not add if you have to sit at a desk for 40 hours a week and its driving you crazy
Fuck I worked 50 hours last week. It's a startup and the hours fluctuate 45-50 hours

I had major problems at my last job that was only 40 hours though. I couldn't deal with doing desk work 8 hours a day so I asked around to do some more hands-on work. Instead of transitioning into onsite engineering, I ended up in a pure management position (should've turned it down, but I felt like I didn't have any other options). Anyway I didn't do great and when I asked for my old job back they fired me

>>18623387
Haha damn. Ive been there.

Yeah man i mean im not ruling out add at all.. But even so a general practitioner can help.

And even if you got medication and a good psychotherapist, theyd just advise you to find more hands on work. Thats what add/adhd is mentally designed for.

But at the very least its obvious you arent either.

Im getting the vibe youre pretty smart though. Ever think of home entrepreneurship?

>>18623393
Thanks. Yeah I've had a few things in the pipeline. I've been working on a day trading algorithm and have some well-off friends who like taking risks and are interested in leasing or funding my venture, provided I can prove it's profitability. Haven't got much work done on it since starting this new job though

If I may hijack your thread OP,
similar situation, though I'm actually pretty fucking suicidal at this point, only thing missing is the courage to do it and the lack of guilt towards what my death will do to my parents.

Thing is, I'm 22 and still on my parents insurance and I do not want to have to explain to them that I'm fucked up because they would not understand and probably tell me to just suck it up. They don't take mental illness very seriously.

How do you get a therapist without using insurance?

Only thing I got is I do have something provided with my college, but 1 I graduate in a year so thats only short term and 2 it's not even a real shrink. It's just the psychology major's field experience course. I'd be seeing a fucking student my age who's not even licensed and I don't trust that shit at all.

>>18623414
OP here. I actually have some very-slightly-but-not-actually-related experience in this realm.

My parents are very devout Christians, and moving in with a girlfriend (no pregnancy involved) was grounds for them cutting my older brother out of the family for two years. Anyway, I had pretty bad performance anxiety a while back and went to the doctor while I was 18 on my parents' insurance. Told them it was a bad cold or something, got a script for viagra, and paid for the script out of pocket so it wouldn't appear on insurance. $80 a pill without insurance, never again

I'm with a girl who doesn't make me anxious so I don't need those little blue pills anymore but god damn. Work it out with your parents. Your mental health matters and they need to see that. Don't do some stupid program with another student, get the real deal and get it with the support of your family

>>18623436
ugh I also just do not want to deal with the shame of it all too. I want nobody to know I'm this weak, especially not people I have to deal with for my whole life.
Plus I already know my parents will treat me different when they know. My sister's the same, started therapy in college and antidepressants. Parents started treating her like she was made of glass, constantly asking her about her mood and shit. I do not want to have to fuck around with that crap.

They're good people don't get me wrong, I love them and I know they love me, hence why I don't want to upset them with me an heroing. They just have this strong bias towards mental illness that shows quite plainly when they're talking about other people. I suppose it's not fair to say they would tell /me/ to suck it up, since they didn't treat my sister like that, but that's just how they act around the discussion of anyone else's mental illness.

"People just suck down happy pills because millennials don't understand life isn't sunshine and rainbows all the time"
"People on antidepressants or people with mental illness have no business ever becoming parents"

shit like that. The stigma shows harsh even though I know they would never say anything like that directly to me or my sister, but I think that shows what they really think. Everything they do with my sister is just an act for her sake, I don't think they actually take her seriously.

>>18623351
Not him but I did online counseling via breakthrough.com and I had a great experience. It very much depends on which professional you decide to schedule with, which is no different from meeting shrinks nearby. I can't tell you how many shitty, out-of-touch therapists and psychs I had to go through, before I decided to try online.

Plus my therapist only charged me like $75 a session, which insurance knocked down to $25ish. All the local shrinks? They charged insurance upwards of 300, leaving me to pay up to 200 some days.