My girlfriend of 3 years wants me to move into a new apartment

It's okay to live with your family if the situation demands, but this is simply a case of this woman wanting to have a life with you. It's completely understandable to not want to share 24/7 if not necessary.

If you love her, move in with her. Stay near your family if you want to, but move out. You make far more than most people, enjoy the freedom that provides and make a life with this woman.

>>18620404
If you make that much money, you are well within your means to buy a house. I'm not saying buy a house with your girlfriend, but for fuck's sake, stop wasting your time. You are earning NOTHING while living your parents. A home is equity. It is your investment, your wealth. Buy your own property and start acting like a professional adult.

>>18620404
Dont know man , im in a similar situation.
Try to think reasonable and consider downsides and upsides and think of an alternative.

Being close to your family is all well and good, but you're going to have to grow up and move out sooner or later. Why not in 9 months' time?

>>18620411
Maybe he's not an American. Family not living together is mostly a US thing.

>>18620428
Not that anon, but most people here are assumed to be from the US until proven otherwise. Even they're not, the majority of 4chan users are from the Western world that share similar values to the US so chances are that he 'should' move out

And even if he/his country do value living together, that anon does have a point. OP's money is just sitting there.

>>18620404
Can you two meet half way? Maybe get a slightly bigger place like a 2 bed, 2 bath closer to your family? That way you aren't completely sacrificing either space or your family, but you still get to live with your girlfriend? I mean, if you're not sure about the commitment then don't do it and enjoy things casually.

>>18620434
>And even if he/his country do value living together, that anon does have a point. OP's money is just sitting there.
If he's making that much money he's probably not stupid. Until he says otherwise I'd expect him to have both a 401k and a pretty decent portfolio of stable investments. ESPECIALLY living with ones parents, who also seem to be quite wealthy and would not be shy about sharing their experience in this.
t. from a wealthy family

>>18620404
I think wanting to stay with your family despite being financially self-sufficient is very touching, though the idea is a bit antiquated. Historically, families did indeed stick together this way, depending on the culture. You would see it typically more in family units based in Asia in than Western European and American families. Family tightness is still a big thing among Asian families.

OP, I suppose the sensibility of your girlfriend's aversion to living in the same space as your family depends on the culture of your area. I live in the United States myself. While I feel it is strong to keep your family unit consolidated in this way, I personally prefer some distance from my relatives. I don't dislike them, but my preference for distance may come from the family unit expectations I grew up with in the US.