A few hours ago I arrived home and found that one of my roommates

Hold a meeting, I couldn't respect the wishes of a passive aggressive post-it notes as much as a person. If you personally feel awkward doing it then cite the original post-it as the reason for holding it, then bring up the issues.

>>18614528
It seems to me like someone is using your new occupancy as a means to get away with not cleaning after themselves. I would have an all housemate meeting and assert that the mess is not yours but that you are willing to HELP clean it for the sake of goodwill. Also that if they have an issue to talk to you like a person about issues not some stitty note that puts all the power in the sender as you have no way of defending yourself to a price of paper. Do this with conviction but don't be too aggressive or make it seem accusatorial. You are the "new guy" after all.

-I've had a lot of flatmates over the years.

>>18614573
that might be the case although everyone else but one guy here is as new as I am. So I don't know why they would have singled me out.

I was also wondering if the original note writer might have left everyone else a note as well. Which is part of the reason I wanted to leave my own note in a common area where everyone can see it, so I'm not suspected of being some asshole who leaves anonymous hostile notes for people.

About the meeting, I've thought of it but we are all students and fairly busy, so I don't know how long it will be until we can meet.

I was hoping my note would cause the original note writer to come talk to me face to face, and then maybe I could talk to my other roommates about the issue when I see them.

>>18614606
hmm, this is a tough one anon.. Combating a shitty note with a well intentioned (but potentially viewed by others as a shitty note) is not ideal imo. But if it's that hard to get everyone together than it may be the only real option other than going to each roommate separately, witch I don't recommend as people tend to feel singled out when you do so. If you can convey what my op said in text eloquently then I would do that. There will just be an awkward waiting period, and it's easier to dismiss a note. (hence my suggestion of an all flatmate meeting) But unlike the noteanon make sure it's clear you are talking to everyone about this not attempting to assign guilt.

Didn't even read your post.

If you have 5 roommates, and the house is a mess, the place needs leadership.

Call a meeting, get everything put into the air, and figure out a system. We did that, and when the guy who wasn't pulling his weight was discovered, we all laid into him.

Passive aggressive notes don't do shit. However, a HUGE majority of people are uncomfortable with confrontation. Learn how to engage with people aggressively, and you'll come to find that most of them would rather just do what you say than argue.