Losing my virginity tomorrow, should i tell her? The girl really

>>18613303
Tell her before you get started so she knows you might need a little guidance in the beginning. Everyone sucks at sex the first time. If it's not a surprise to her, she can prepare for it and help you out by telling you what to do and how to do it at the start.

The worst thing you can do is not tell her because then she'll just assume you're a shitty lay.

>>18613303
if you are really worried about it just tell her it's been a while

>>18613311

She already knows that i 'don't have much experience', and never had a real relationship, and she's cool with it. She knows i'm a bit nervous and awkward around her, and she doesn't mind. I have a feeling that she'd be totally cool with it and enjoy 'training' me (she's kinky). But you just never know, telling her could also kill it.

If this is a girl that you're serious about, and you have a good relationship going, then do not lie. Put aside your superficial desire to lose your virginity and finally have sex. A good relationship can only come from openness and honesty. If she were to become disinterested in you if she knew you were a virgin, consider if that is really the type of person you want to be in a relationship with.

Also consider that your first time having sex might be a disaster for various reasons. It would be frankly stupid to tell her that you AREN'T a virgin if you seem very inexperienced.

Just tell her.

If you are very close and talk about anything, tell her. You know her better than us. How do you think she would react?

If you have been dating for a bit and still don't know all that much about each other, don't tell her. Just do some research to refresh your mind on what to do. It's not hard, and there are videos that can help you.

Good luck and I hope you don't become a wizard.

>>18613321
>I have a feeling that she'd be totally cool with it and enjoy 'training' me (she's kinky).
Which is exactly why you tell her.

>But you just never know, telling her could also kill it.
Which is why you tell her BEFORE you have sex so you don't ruin it in the moment. Let her know you want to be trained in every way to please her. If she's a dom type she'll get off so hard coaching a virgin, you have no idea bro.

>>18613321
>telling her could also kill it.
Man, you have to stop worrying about that kind of stuff. The goal here to find a person that you have a real connection with (presumably). If this woman is going to leave you for superficial shit then it's clear that she would not have been a good person to be in a long-term relationship with.

>>18613331

I think she may be a dom type, but i'm not sure yet.

So DON'T tell her when we start getting hot and heavy? We might go to the beach in the afternoon, should i tell her then, when we're relaxed and cuddling?

>>18613389
>should i tell her then, when we're relaxed and cuddling?
Sounds like a plan man. Just be honest and open with your expectations and desires for sex. It'll be great.

Maybe jack off an hour or so before to try and last w little longer

>>18613426

Idk, i want a maximum boner, fapping might kill my horniness. I think cumming a bit fast and showering her with a huge load would be better than having a hard time getting it up all the way.

>>18613303
Don't do it, save yourself until marriage.

>>18613440
Don't listen to that guy. Dumb advice.

>>18613426
This is kind of retarded.

>>18613303
I would say it depends on how long you've known her and where you think it's going. If you decide to tell her at all, maybe bring it up casually after, like "I'm glad my first time was with you" or something along those lines but complimenting her.

I unknowingly burned my husband's v card and he told me the truth a year later. I didn't believe him at the time (now it's glaringly obvious) but also if he had told me before the deed it would have been awkward with too much pressure because for us it started as casual. Telling her shortly after at least let's her know then but also takes the pressure off both of you.

Most importantly, do what feels right to you in the moment. And congrats op.

>>18613727

Well it's not exactly casual for us, we're actually dating and like each other.

Whatever you do, do not lie. This is a giant mistake.

It will likely be pretty obvious. Everybody (men and women) suck at sex the first time. It's not like movies/porn/bragging stories from your friends. It's awkward, you won't know the positions you need to be in, etc etc. If you're up front about that, she can help.

There's no shame in that - sex is fun, but it's also not always sexy. (Also, if you "haven't been in a relationship before", she can probably pick up the hints that you haven't had sex before anyway)

>>18613303
>so close to wizard powers
>throw it all away just to get your dick wet
it's not worth it

Do remember that the aim of sex is not to show off your masculinity, but just have fun. If you are nervous, you aren't having fun. Above all, if she cares about you (It sounds like she does), she wants you both having fun, and not for you to think OH MY HOW AM I GOING TO PULL IT OFF, HOW CAN I NOT BLOW IT (Thinking this way will probably make you blow it). You should enjoy each other :)

Deny til you die bro

Maybe tell her a year later if you want. You owe it to her to lie.

>>18613303
From reading the thread, i get the impression that both of you are seriously into each other, so +1 on telling her:

Short term pros: she can guide you
Short term cons: She might be suprised. But I'm sure she already suspected it anyway

Long term pros: She'll know you're not just shit in bed, and she gets to train you the way she likes.
Long term cons: Can't think of any.

When: Not sure about this. When you both half or fully naked and sex is inevitable, i guess. "Just for the record, I'm new to yhis, and i hope you could give me some directions now and then"

Tip: Everyone is nervous about not getting it up, or not lasting very long. For me it was the latter. I'm sure she'll be up for round two when you're ready.

>>18613303
>we are also going to fuck
How are u so sure? Is it included on the calendar?

>>18613303
You don't have to tell.

I told my GF 3 months after I lost it.

She was surprised but was fine lol

>>18613303
Was talking to a girl last night about it, she said it's weird when a girls take a guy's virginity. I think in general girls get weirded out by it. If you must tell just tell her after the deed is done, not before.

>>18613303

dont fucking tell her anything you dumbass!

do you want to have a good time or not? stop fucking fagging it up. just roll with it lifes an adventure you puss.

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>>18614386
that's because most girls are fucking WHORES!

>>18613303
>It would get a load off my chest

Take a load off of yours before you drop one on hers ayyyy

One thing i've never understood. I've had sex a normal amount, but I always see these "we probably/definitely are gonna have sex" threads, and they're normally posted by people with very limited experience, so I figured they were just anticipating it so much that it was hyperbole. But, is this a common thought process? I've never gone somewhere or hung out with a girl and even considered that fucking might happen, let alone will. I always assume it won't, until it does. Anyone else think this is a strange mindset?

>>18615088
>I've never gone somewhere or hung out with a girl and even considered that fucking might happen, let alone will.
Bullshit. If you've been on a few dates with a girl, and she invites you to her place, it doesn't even cross your mind?

>>18613321
>totally cool with it and enjoy 'training' me
youre disgusting
>>18613303
>Losing my virginity tomorrow, should i tell her?
yes you should. and if she has any common sense she will not fuck you.

>>18615098
Context. We've been out on a date, supposedly had a great time, yeah if she invites me over to her place I figure something might happen if no circumstances arise. But i've never gone into a date/out to a social gathering assuming i'm going to have sex.

>>18613303
>>18613303
nope, it will display low status to her.

suck it up, and pretend you've done it before.

even if you are clearly a virgin, the absolute worst thing you can do is apologize for it and verbally articulate the fact.

by clearly stating your low status, you remove any real of imagined fantasy in her mind that you are a high status male.

>>18615104
>>18615119
kys retard

>>18615122
Truth hurts lil man.

A woman never, ever, wants to be verbally reminded of your low status. She'd rather discover it herself, but explicating it removes even the last shadow of doubt in her mind, and is actually counter productive.

a high status man who happens to be a virgin would not explicate the fact.

OP needs to suck it up and not try and make it any easier by self-sabotage. That's essentially what "just being yourself and telling her about your insecurities" is - it's the easy option.

>>18613311
Perfect answer
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