How do you be OK with being alone indefinitely? I've lived with a painful longing for someone my whole life but have always been met with rejection. Ive had maybe 2 relationships but they were both toxic and nothing close to what i've been after. I get that for some people the shit just doesn't happen, but what i'm wanting to know is if theres ways people can actually just get rid of those feelings altogether?
I get a painful ache all day every day over this and it just seems silly at this point. I have no interest in the dating circus and I haven't had any lucky connections so how do I just get over the heartache without being self destructive?
>>18606548
Id suggest checking out MGTOW, search it on YouTube.
>>18606553
nah im not into all that fag shit
>>18606548
Ask yourself: What does a man in a "relationship" receive? Look at the real world examples. Not your fantasies. Look at examples of men in their teens, 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, and 60s.
Nothing is free. Ask yourself: What do men in relationships have to give for that relationship? Is it worth the cost?
What specifically in a relationship is that painful ache for? Love? What kind of love? There are different types. Be specific. Name the tangible expressions of the things you want. Ask yourself if you can get them outside of a relationship.
>>18606580
I see the types of relationships i envy all day long. I can't even get people lower than my standards to give me the time of day. I guess the ache is pretty self explanatory.
As far as the cost, I used to think it was all about money but over time i've noticed money has jack shit to do with getting the right partner. A lot of it seems to boil down to luck
Hah, fuck women, try living truly alone, without a friend or family member in the world who likes or cares about you. The ones who did care are now dead or they departed elsewhere.
It will wear upon your soul. I have an unending, painful ache that I want filled as well, and it doesn't even involve pussy. I just want to be loved in a sense that people treat me like family or Cheers.
I'd love to come home to warm loving faces that bring me life after an always shitty day at work, or if not, I want to hang out somewhere with someone talking about interesting shit, doing interesting things, fucking around for fun.
Either way, I lost my thirst for women, I just thirst for love and compassion at all.
>>18606587
>I see the types of relationships i envy all day long.
Are you seeing the entire reel or just the highlight reel?
>I can't even get people lower than my standards to give me the time of day.
What are your standards? Also, what is your age? What is your line of work? What are your accomplishments? Where are you in terms of wealth?
>I guess the ache is pretty self explanatory.
No, it is not. What is the aching for specifically?
>As far as the cost, I used to think it was all about money but over time i've noticed money has jack shit to do with getting the right partner.
If you are a man, there is always a cost to a relationship with a woman. Not just money. Resources in general. Up to and including your wealth -- if you have any.
>A lot of it seems to boil down to luck
A lot of what seems to boil down to luck? Being able to pay the cost of a relationship?
>>18606603
I love you, faggot.
>>18606603
well that doesn't make me feel any better
>>18606608
Aww, thanks.
>>18606604
>Are you seeing the entire reel or just the highlight reel?
Does it matter?
>No, it is not. What is the aching for specifically?
Women I am attracted to
>If you are a man, there is always a cost to a relationship with a woman. Not just money. Resources in general. Up to and including your wealth -- if you have any.
...OK?
>A lot of what seems to boil down to luck? Being able to pay the cost of a relationship?
Are you talking about a relationship or a hooker?
>>18606625
>>Are you seeing the entire reel or just the highlight reel?
>Does it matter?
Yes. Elliot Rodger, the incel virgin killer, only saw the highlight reel. He didn't see pregnancy, child support, false abuse accusations, family court, divorce, etc. He only saw sunsets, kisses, yearning for companionship, heavenly sex, etc.
>>No, it is not. What is the aching for specifically?
>Women I am attracted to
So young women for sex? Or young women for love?
>>If you are a man, there is always a cost to a relationship with a woman. Not just money. Resources in general. Up to and including your wealth -- if you have any.
>...OK?
Are you awake yet?
>>A lot of what seems to boil down to luck? Being able to pay the cost of a relationship?
>Are you talking about a relationship or a hooker?
Both.
Regardless of whether you are talking about a street hooker, a high end escort, a tinder date, a long term girlfriend, a girl you've met through "pick-up artistry", or a wife you've lived with for thirty years there is always a cost to a man to be in a relationship with a woman that involves sex or love.
>>18606654
Looks like OP has been stunned into utter silence. Mind blown.
>>18606654
>Yes. Elliot Rodger, the incel virgin killer, only saw the highlight reel. He didn't see pregnancy, child support, false abuse accusations, family court, divorce, etc. He only saw sunsets, kisses, yearning for companionship, heavenly sex, etc.
This kind of weird black or white thinking doesn't help
>So young women for sex? Or young women for love?
Both
>Are you awake yet?
?
>Regardless of whether you are talking about a street hooker, a high end escort, a tinder date, a long term girlfriend, a girl you've met through "pick-up artistry", or a wife you've lived with for thirty years there is always a cost to a man to be in a relationship with a woman that involves sex or love.
You sound bitter
>>18606727
I just got back to check the thread, sorry
same here
have a bump op
>>18606548
You could just learn to hate women like the rest of the internet. Makes you spiteful and irrational but I bet it'll help.
>>18607426
I don't want to waste any more time on being resentful, I just don't want to want it anymore