Hey. There's been a fight between me and a friend that

So he did make a sacrifice to come here and as far as I know, there's not exactly that many people here who he would bother with. I feel bad to the core about that, let's be clear. However I cannot tackle this. Even though I told him that if it wasn't convenient for him and his well being, he shouldn't come, he did it anyways, then acted as though I was the reason for it and should pretty much suck his dick for it. Even though I've done a lot of shit in the last 4 years, it's all to his credit, because back in 2013 he gave me one solid piece of advice that motivated me. I truly wanted to help him and it didn't just seem to fail, but it produced a very ugly effect.

After that heated conversation there are probably very few chances to actually "reconcile" so to speak, unless we're willing to permanently lie to ourselves. What do you think, should I move on from this? We're talking about a friendship that lasted since I was 6 up until today (I'm 29). It's no damn joke. 2 years ago it almost got heated because he really wanted to take almost $100 from me without me noticing, but I had to question my friendship with him at that point and he decided not to do it. He's not "remembering" now, let's say.

tl;dr lost a childhood friend to honesty, because he didn't want to hear shit but he still wanted help, should I continue this path and give a fucking arm to recover this or just move on with my life with the pain of losing this for a while

What the fuck are you rambling about? You're bitching out your friend about being vague when trying to share his problems and you're doing the exact same thing? Fuck off, m8.

The best thing I can tell you is that sometimes people just need some support and an ear to listen and not necessarily someone picking apart their lives - they're probably doing that in their head already.

>>18604800
This.


The fuck are you on about, OP? Fuck you talk some shit.

>>18604705

your story sounds oddly vague for something thats got so much text and three posts. you seem to be hiding some key details about each interaction, but I think I get your gist, but without the full story were just giving you what you want: vague answers to a vague story so you don't have to answer for the specific things that went down.

so whatever advice you do get on this issue, don't expect it to be the 'right' answer. expect it to be a biased answer, one that swings in the direction you manipulated it.

that being said, it sounds like you guys haveb een growing apart as people, and you only see each other once a year during these visits right? there is no need to make a long term decision. he already visisted, so send him home, and take some time for your self. disappear from whatever method of communication you use, claim you're going to be busy, and just temporarily block him so that you can just live life without him and see how you feel without his presence looming over your shoulder.

I have to say that you've given me exactly the kind of help I needed. I'm really stupid and have done a terrible thing. Now I have to pay the consequences. Perhaps I could explain everything, but I ramble a lot and I have legit issues with being concise.

>>18604912

generally, neither friend is really at fault. they just kinda outgrow each other and things begin to deteriorate as a whole. try to make amends if you want. but its okay okay to move on.

just remember:
>you can make a new friend
>but you cannot make an old one

>>18605002
Got that. I apologized about the wrongs that I have commited and made it clear that this was a point of no return in which we could just peacefully part ways if he wanted to do that due to both our mental states. I have jumped the gun too quickly and that's something that I have to take in consideration for a while.

I'm awaiting for his response.

I had this with another friend. Just ditch him. I'm sure he has enough reason to ditch you as well. It'll be better for one of you, at least.