I've been with my significant other for seven years, we

>>18603292
Tell them how you feel. Tell them how it feels to not have sex as much, or how it feels when they reject you by saying they're tired, or how it feels to hear your partner say they're not in the mood to have sex with you because they masturbated. I know you're worried about hurting their feelings, but you gotta spend some time talking about the bad and then frame it as an opportunity to make the relationship even stronger than before. But that means you'll also have to give them the opportunity to express their feelings about your feedback, even if that means you listening to your partner say how that hurts them.

Most problems in relationships boil down to people not feeling as connected to each other, or worrying about becoming distant or detached altogether. You're just looking to connect more and you're worried the waning sex life signifies that the relationship is in danger

>>18603292
I'd answer this but your retarded use of the third person plural is just too fucking annoying.
And you're not in some polyamorous relationship, right?

Talk to them about it, I've seen many people solve big problems by just having a talk and talks like these are important in a healthy relationship. It shouldn't make them feel bad about it as you are their significant other. Talking might as well solve it.

>>18603292
Can't expect them to fix the problem if they don't know its a problem that needs fixed. Also, since you're being so vague, I'm guessing you're either a chick or gay.

Foreplay works both ways. Shit like a massage gets them ready, too. You can also tell them that you don't mind if they wank, but you should have first crack at scratching their itch.

>>18603312
Not OP, but sngular "they" has been used since Shakespearean times and has also been accepted as grammatically correct by the Oxford English Dictionary. Please stay on topic and don't be pedantic.

>>18603351
It is most certainly on topic since the respective sexes of the parties involved makes a difference, and influences any potential answers to this topic, despite what the relativistic globohomo brigade would have you believe. But keep believing in your grammatically correct metrosexual multiple personalities if it makes you (pl.) feel any better.

What are your biological genders op?

>>18603292
Don't focus on sex. Put a little romance back into your lives. Go on a dirty weekend together. Act like teenagers or a movie couple having a secret affair. Get out of the "dull, everyday" zone. Good sex will follow

>>18603351
If we're going to be pedantic, the singular "they" is judged acceptable in informal spoken use, but not in written English (which is always more conservative).