So, if I wanted to be a little bit rough with a girl during sex,

Start light and see how she responds.

Try it and if she tells you to stop. She's not into it and you shouldn't continue.

>>18599055
Don't just start choking her if she doesn't know it's coming and you don't have a safeword or something set up. Spanking is different. No one ever went around killing women by spanking them.

But talking to her doesn't really ruin it. There's a huge community of BDSM people who are very upfront with each other about what they're doing and still enjoy it.

>>18599055
Spank her lightly and see if she's into it. Escalate from there. I wouldn't choke without talking about it, and don't choke hard until you're sure you know what you're doing.

>>18599055
I would bring it up first outside of having sex just so you know you are on the same page. Then it will be easier to see how hard you can go while you're fucking.

>>18599055
Goddamn, anon. Fucking sext her first and feel her out. THEN just go for it in bed.

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>>18599055
DO NOT do anything even remotely violent or rapey out of nowhere.

Start with the lightest things, like holding her hands still during foreplay, or a playful single smack on the bottom as she walks past. Read her reactions carefully. If you two eventually get into rough sex, you can play with the boundaries of her comfort zone as part of the fun. But at the start, she has to be clearly and unambiguously happy with everything you do.

Ask her about her turn ons and off and mention yours and say you like it rough and what exactly you like?