been with gf for 3 years. have a very healthy and happy relationship.

stop trying to win the argument. your fragile ego isn't worth losing your love. if you know you're right then calmly explain why it's right without putting her or her opinion down.

You could try the Socratic method. Ask her questions until her answers defeat her own argument.

>>18596705
I lost my lovely gf of two years recently primarily due to this. I highly suggest you find a way to solve this before it happens to you. Women will only put up with so much and there will always be someone else who doesn't do what you describe that they can and will leave you for.

It's not fair but the reality is if you want to keep a woman you must go above and beyond to make sure your personality is in line with what they want.

>>18596732
Don't do this. Most women dislike logical arguments and it will only piss them off. From their perspective feelings are more important and if you ignore that half of an argument you are setting yourself up for some heartbreak in the future.

>>18596720
>>18596753
How do I stop doing that? How do I train myself to not get into an "i must be right" mindset?

>>18596759
From your posts i think you feel like the more clever one in the relationship. Since you are the clever one who is always right, it shouldnt be a problem for you to pick the right battles and let the insignificant ones for her to win.

Tldr think before you open mouth and if you arent sure, dont say anything and simply cuddle / hug her. It is your qtie, treat her in ways she deserves.

>>18596788
i do think i'm the clever one, but she is very intelligent and is almost certainly more clever than myself. i think a big part of it is i have serious ego issues.

>>18596804
Well, first step is to realize where and what is problem. Everything else should be easy after that.

Good luck! And really try the hug thing. Girls require regular emotional upkeep. And not every cuddling has to end up in sex.

>>18596705
disengage from the argument. its easy to throw a bunch of regrettable words and actions at someone when you are in a passion. try to do less reaction - slow down, breathe, make a firm intention not to raise your voice or otherwise let strong emotions through. sit down with a cup of tea together. anything to slow your roll

Yeah make sure you really show you see her perspective and try to find a solution. It doesn't matter if you're right, it hurts her more telling her she's wrong.

My ex and I of 1 1/2 years broke up because she'd get upset over stuff I didn't think she should be upset about and I didn't take things more seriously.