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What do I do about my girlfriend?
She's very insecure, she suffers from severe depression and probably suffers from Borderline Personality Disorder. She's not very toxic like some people but her insecurity, neediness and lack of emotional fortitude has taken its toll on me.
I won't go into all the details, this is just 4chan, but I maintain that if the genders were reversed her actions could be considered abusive.
She's my first girlfriend (which explains why I'm reluctant to break up) and she's really made me feel like I have someone to confide in. She's a lovely person when emotionally stable, caring and loyal, witty and the sex is mind blowing. I wasn't in a great place when I first met her, and I think having a partner helped lift me out of that.
While I'm quite emotionally stable, and generally realistic about how dysfunctional our relationship can be, I haven't had the balls to break up with her. The problem is, I don't think I'll be better off without her - but it has affected some of my friendships and restricted my opportunities to socialise with a wider group of friends.
Any advice is appreciated, especially if it's someone who has gone through this before.
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>>18595565
> typical women
anon i don't see the problem here , literally none
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>>18595565
>abusive
>affected some of my friendships
>restricted my opportunities to socialise
Dude, leave. Restricting other social ties in order to control you better is some basic abusive shit. That's how it starts, so that when she goes nuts on you, you won't have anyone left to turn to for help and support. She's insane or at least getting there, no matter how sweet and lovely she acts when she's feeling like it. I get that she's your first gf, but if you stay with her you're just indicating that her bullshit is fine by you and you'll put up with anything from her. It will only escalate from here.
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Having a partner in general will affect your social circle, so I'm not so sure that's unique to her.
She needs her own friends, therapy, and her own life (job / school / hobby). Perhaps take some time apart (I do not mean a "break", I mean maybe one of you visit family by themselves or travel alone for a few weeks by themselves)
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>>18595565
if she has depression and bpd you should educate yourself on how her brain works and ways to help her cope.
bpd is an emotional rollercoaster with no end in sight, and there isn't much you can do about it except make sure she gets medical and psychological support and be there when she needs you.
she probably has abandonment issues or has been negleted as a child (aka daddy issues) so yeah the sex will be mindblowing but you should encourage her to show affection in other ways too, say i love you, hug, etc.
it's very normal that she tries to manipulate you emotionally, she probably doesn't know better. again therapy and medication can help her cope with emotions without resorting to extreme reactions like that.
remember that it's not her fault and if you love her, even if you do break up, she deserves affection and care as much as anyone else and probably never got it; so at the very least if she was good to you, be a friend.
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