I need sexual advice, i can't cum. I've been with both

Are you anxious or stressed? Do you have performance anxiety? Are you using antidepressants?

>>18594471
No antidepressants, must be anxiety because I'm very relaxed. Idk i find it difficult to concentrate on the pleasure it self

When I was with my first girlfriend, I wasn't able to cum with just her pussy/mouth/etc until like 4 months later. My advice is stop jacking off, and just getting used to sex. It might take a long time, but if you have a consistent partner and know what you like, then you'll eventually be able to nut.
Unless you're asexual, but if you like to beat off and get hard from being with your partner you're probably not

>>18594492
I do look forward to it everytime. I hadn't jacked off in a week and still couldn't cum this time

>>18594466
Have you explored orgasming on your own both vaginally and clitorally?

A first thought, that both and just not one may help.

>>18594584
Im a guy

>>18594466
Have you been addicted to porn or masturbation sometime in your life? It could be rewiring your mind on sex even if you've stopped doing it.
My experience is I've been a porn and masturbation addict for 8 years, and first few months of me losing my virginity and having sex regularly been hell since I couldn't reach orgasm and ended up disappointing my partner.

Took me nofap+noporn along with kegel training and practicing foreplay to make me have a normal orgasm while having sexual intercourse.

>>18595159
Yeah i guess this is the issue. I must have been death gripping for a while. Still even before I got a lot into porn, it took a lot for my first gf to make me cum and could only do it through handjobs.

>>18594481
Don't focus on pleasure, focus on things that you normally get off to. Whatever makes your dingding tingle.

>>18595243
>be a burger
>get mutilated coz jews
>left with 10% of original sensibility
>choke your dick to even feel anything
>lose the last 10%
>be left only to getting anally pounded to even feel anything

feels nice to be free

>>18595602
You're assuming a lot of things. Not from US and uncut here

You have shitty sex it's not a fucking science
>>18595602
This isn't true it's more like 70-80% is left

OP I have no advice but you are not alone.

>>18595602
Who hurt you

so you can cum. liar

>>18595632
What? I was able to cum yeaars ago with my first gf, but never from sex or blowjobs. I haven't been able to cum in like 3 years now

>>18595656
I'm not going yo let you coax me into giving you jerk off instructions but I'm pretty sure you can make yourself cum
If not, ask some sex expert for advice and experiment what they tell you, possibly if needed with paid companionship.

>>18595662
well of course I can cum on my own very fucking easily. It is with other people I can't bring myself to.

>>18595667
Then still follow my other advice just and consult an expert and experiment with what they tell you. They would probably want to know your fetishes and act them out on your spouse with their approval (and if you can't find one, pay one).
Your real problem isn't that you "can't cum", because you can, it's that you're having inadequate sex. It could also be that you might have to avoid sex entirely, but the point is you should consult yourself or an expert to determine what the reasons are behind your situation and make changes appropriately instead of making vague complaints on a mongolian basket weaving community forum.

>>18595683
thanks for the advice bro. I'll do the nofap and no porn thing for another week and see how it goes. If no cigar then I'll seek professional help. Thanks.

>>18595688

Don't forget exercises it does help, maybe not with actually coming, but I know it helps with lasting longer and helping with more explosive cumblasts