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I need a quick advice before my next shift starts or I'll

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I need a quick advice before my next shift starts or I'll most probably commit an hero.

Last week I went looking for a job because I'm tired of being a miserable NEET (and also because I owe like 5 months of rent).
I've got one on a supermarket, but it's on a place filled to the brim with people always.
I've severe anxiety attacks whenever I'm getting watched by a lot of people when I'm doing my job (I've no problems doing it isolated), and it seems I can't get moved to any other area.

The question is: should I try to go through the extremely mind-taxing effort of keeping that job to pay the rent and not let down whoever trusted in me to this point, or should I ditch it, testing the landlord's patience and shame once more everyone who believed in me?
Before answering, keep in mind that where I live there's little to no jobs, so the next try could be months afar, I can't travel away because no money, the jobs I can get are pretty limited mostly because of my scholarship level, and there's no autismbux or anything to help me while I get a job I can actually endure for more than 2 days.

I know the default answer will be "do a flip, faggot", but any other answer can get me out of the hole, so please, help me if you can.
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>>18594161
Alright, I take it your social skills are shit if you're having anxiety attacks at work in a supermarket. Here's a couple of things that helped me when I was in the supermarket and when I was SHIT at talking with customers

>keep thinking to yourself "I'm the boss", positive reassurance will help
>rely on coworkers, if you don't know something, just tell the customer you'll get the manager
>pick out easy things to do at first to build up confidence, if you overhear someone wondering where item X is and you know where it is, approach them and ask them if you can help them

Don't an hero or drop the job, lots of people go through this shit, you just have to believe you can overcome it
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>>18594174
Oh, man. I believe I explained myself badly.
I actually have no problems with customers. I once was a store clerk and it was probably my best job.
From where my anxiety comes is from coworkers and bosses seeing me. Whenever I fail to do a job or when I get asked to do a menial task that has nothing to do with the department I'm in (for example, getting the carts from the parking lot to the entrance when I'm supposed to be registering merchandise cargoes), I get depressed and frustrated.
I know this is normal. That every person new to something goes through this. My specific problem is that I have some depression baggage that I've been masquerading since 2006, and I'm feeling my threshold is getting nearby.
I fear that if I stay and I keep getting depressed and frustrated, I might end up an heroing.
Ironically, if I drop the job, I'll end up doing the same for not being able to pay my debts.

My best bet is going by your advice and keep the job, anyway. It's the only thing that will push me forward, regardless where I will land after that.
Thanks for helping me, friendo.
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>>18594222
Best of luck man
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So from what you've given us here, you're only one week into this job, you know there are little to no jobs due to the area and you don't want to let everyone that believes in you down. And of course the landlord situation.

The answer seems obvious here, and it looks like you knew it before asking. You are not dumb and know the circumstances.

Now, you said your anxiety comes from bosses and coworkers seeing you fail. It doesn't matter if it's in your department or not, failing is inevitable. If you don't fail, then you won't learn and get good at whatever it is you're failing at. I'm no specialist or anything but you have to overcome that fear of being judged by realizing that they probably don't care as much as you think they do. You're new and they know it, and even if it's something basic that any person can do but you can't, it doesn't mean you can:t improve. Everyone is different and we learn at a difference pace.

You basically have to own it and accept that you're not perfect. Your anxiety may go away if you stop caring as much as you do. I know it sounds basic but it does work.

The baggage you said you've been carrying for years is definitely going to need addressing before you move on to bigger things. Dealing with it while working may be tough, but in your situation there are no alternatives. I wish I could offer advice on that front but I'm just someone like you. I wish you luck with however you decide to deal with this burden that's been holding you back
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>>18594281
Thanks to both. I was probably overreacting and got my vision clouded. I'll try my best tomorrow and I hope you all the best of luck also.
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