Erectile Dysfunction. I'm 21 and I've had a break

>>18593867
I had a similar situation. I was celibate for 4 years and when I finally met someone and tried to be intimate I would go soft after fucking for a bit and I would never cum.

I ended up buying some Viagra/Cialis. It kept me hard enough to finish the job and after using it for a while I was able to stop. It was all mental. I just had to get back in it and I was fine. I didn't use anything for the remainder of our relationship.

>>18593878
I was hard earlier in the night but when we got to the bedroom it just wouldn't stay.
I'm just glad she wasn't too bothered and is still interested.

Had a lot of trouble ages 18-21. Most likely candidate in the beginning was death grip. When I got my first blowjob my immediate first reaction was "that's it?"

I didn't realize that a big part of sexual enjoyment is mental. I also got extremely paranoid about not staying hard, which would stress me out, which would make me not relax, and then I'd lose my erection. Which would then feed my paranoia for the next time it happened.

I used to bring it up with new women and then just try to relax and if it worked out great, if not then oh well. Eventually I was doing great.

Now I don't bother to tell women I meet because I do fine now. I realize it's about just enjoying it, if you don't stay hard then oh well. Hard to get into that mentality without it being a self-lie, though.

Still can't handle long-term teasing. If my dick gets played with lightly for 15+ minutes it eventually thinks it isn't getting laid and even if the girl is suddenly "oh let's do penetration now" it just won't work. I hate extended foreplay.

>>18593900
Paranoia is probably the part that hit me. When I realised I was only semi-hard my brain started to spiral.
I still focussed on having fun though.

>>18593867
>extremely abusive relationship that made me really fucking afraid of sex

lol what?

how does this happen as a dude?

how does a girl fuck you up so bad that you can't get stiffys no more

>>18593913
Specifically she cut at me and hit me during sex. It was my first relationship and I was inexperienced n let it continue as normal because I didn't know what to do about it.

I was a retard back then for letting it happen and whilst I've got over my fear of trusting people the whole sex-violence association is still there.

>>18593909

one thing that really helped me was not focusing on my penis at all. 69, groping, kissing, eating them out, whatever. if you can get tinder girl over again, try just masturbating each other while you cuddle and watch TV or something.

>>18593919
lmao bro that sounds kind of hot man.

>>18593974
Eh for some people I'm sure. But I'm not entirely happy with permanent scars on my body as a result of her.

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I was in a fairly long term relationship until about a year ago, and wasn't really interested in sleeping around for a while after that. Eventually I did go for it while retarded drunk and couldn't get hard, but put it down to alcohol and fapping like 7 hours earlier.

Now I'm with 10/10 qt and had trouble getting it up while barely drunk and lost it straight away when I put a condom on. Tried again only a bit drunk again the next day and managed but came fast as fuck.

What's wrong with me?