If you can't visit your home country because your dad is in some serious shit so your own life gets threatned even though you have nothing to do with it/haven't gained anything from his doings, do you:
A. Stay away from the country and your dad
B. Stay away from the country and ask for compensation from him (which you will never get unless you threaten to rat him out to the mob)
C. Go to the country and rat him out to the mob so they don't kill you but kill him instead
Keep in mind he never cared for you and only used you as a latteral loaner without you knowing.
Sounds like your home country is a shitholes and you should stay far away from it.
Letter A.
I wouldn't pay being an asshole with being an asshole. That would make us just two assholes.
You can just stay away, that is not being an asshole, that's caring for yourself. You are not making things worse for anyone, just better for you.
I'd go with A.
I vote for A