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Need help with gf
My girlfriend and I are going back to different schools next month and we have decided to split for college because we don't want to go long distance and accidentally ruin the relationship. We both love each other but I love her more so this whole ordeal is very stressful for me.
The current problem is an argument of a night out tomorrow. I cite a reason as not wanting to spend a lot of my money on her anymore because we're breaking up in two weeks anyways so what's the point. When I brought this up an hour and a half ago she became very upset and is currently still crying, saying that "I don't care about her" anymore because we're breaking up in two week anyways.
I don't know what to say to calm her down. If it were up to me we would stay together but she agrees that it's best we split for college. I just want to work things out
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>>18577669
Seems kinda dumb to set a break up time, anon.
It isn't even worth it to argue and attempt to mend shit. Things aren't going to work out, that's why you guys are breaking up.
Should have just broken up now and not have to linger around each other when it's at it's end. That's how closure issues come up.
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She just wants to siphon some more money out of you while she can. Don't let her get to you.
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>>18577669
Why do you feel breaking up for college is less likely to ruin the relationship than being long distance?
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>>18577669
Sounds like you dont want to break up, and she doesnt either. I think the whole breaking up for a while thing is silly. "Split for college" means youre both either going to
A. Fuck a bunch of people and feel weird about it when youre back together
or
B. One of you will find someone and the other wont, and you will be stuck 'waiting'
or hopefully C, youll both find someone you want.
OP, dont break up with her. Do this long distance thing, visit eachother on breaks. You can do it if you love each other enough.
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Saying you don't want to spend money to go out is a pretty harsh thing to say to her, if you brought it up directly like that. It's pretty much saying you don't want to spend time with her anymore.
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>>18577690
She doesn't love me enough that I could trust she wouldn't cheat. She said herself that if she was with someone she truly loved she wouldn't have a problem with long distance but it's just not there yet.
I know standard advice is leave her and find someone that will truly love me, but I believe that I can make her.
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