how do i not get caught up in feeling pressured to have an orgasm

It's because he feels that he is failing as a man by not satisfying you. Best way would be to play his manliness in other ways.

>>18566437
i get that and have talked to him about it but to no avail. i also think that i don't undermine his manlines or sense of capability in any other way. bit on my witts end here.

>>18566443
>talked to him
>witt's end
your witt is really short desu

>>18566447
really helpful advice. got any more?

>>18566278
You've botj fallen into the trap of making sex a competition. Remove the mental scoreboard from your minds. Have sex for the fun of it, not to rack up points.

>>18566457
i´ve tried to get him to realize that, but he falls back into that "competition mode" time and time again. how can i help him ditch it for good?
i also fail on coming up with good ways to "teach" him how to have sx for the fun of it. i try to lead by example, but it´s not very effective.
what other ways could be better?

>>18566465
Its obvious you want to make this about him. That's fine. Maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Either way, goto counseling.

>>18566474
yeah, it sounds like that in my post, i agree.
thatßs because i´ve already spent a lot of time trying to find out what my part is in this and have eliminated a lot of possible sources. now i feel like i have done everything that i can with working on my own ways and the issue is still here. we actually consider counseling. i just thought maybe someone has the missing link i fail to see.

would you cum with a big black one?

>>18566495
oh come on...