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I'm such a reclusive dick to most of my friends, never answering calls, only hanging out once every few weeks, cancelling plans, etc. But I always have a single, intimate, romantic interest who I'm the opposite with, and whose total attention I demand- I'll get insecure if I don't hear back from a text quickly, for instance, and will check the chat clients we share to see when they're on and shit like that.
I know this is insanely imbalanced. Anyone relate to this, or have any tips on spreading the love?
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>>18564272
back when i had my day in the sun in college i had a girlfriend and was in a similar situation. we spent so much time together and it messed up my friendships and whenever she was away from me i was paranoid. not sure how to help, she just ended up breaking up with me and honestly ive been way worse off since then. hope you figure it out friend.
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>>18564288
lol... well thanks anyway, good luck to yourself too...
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Google and read about codependent relationships.
Everyone says they are bad for you. I dont know yet. I am 40 and prefer having codependent relationships. My one main relationship didnt end well but I got good 10 years out of it. I ended another recent relationship because i wanted more intimacy but my exgf wanted more independent relationship. Tried it but realized it wasnt for me. I was more unhappy being in that relationship than i am being single right now. Still miss her sometimes but i don't want to get back with her.
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>>18564272
Do you feel as though your girlfriend is your only source of worth?
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>>18564317
I don't know if they're bad either. I relate to this; I often feel like it'd be an awesome situation to be in a relationship like that if the other person was the same. I'm a little jealous, and I'd want a partner who was a little jealous too. I'm not /too/ jealous. I don't think I'm "codependent" enough to pathologize it, it's just how I am.
>>18564323
No. I'm confident in myself and my beliefs. I just have a tendency to only focus on one person, and I also have a tendency to be obsessive. Like I said above, I like it in a lot of ways, but I also wish I could be left alone for a day without feeling depressed or slighted, and I wish I wanted to spend more time with other friends. This is mostly because I don't want to lose my friends by being absent, and I don't want to lose my partner either by being overbearing. So in a vacuum, I like the single-person style I have, but I know it doesn't vibe well with others, and maybe I'd be happier if I could adjust it
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