I matched on tinder with someone my boyfriend knows. I'm

>>18563858
what is wrong with the relationship

>>18563858
>I wanted to cheat without my bf knowing but now there is a chance my actions have consequences!!

women

The fact you're on tinder means you're trying to find a backup for when the relationship fails. You have lost interest in being loyal to your bf.

End the relationship so you don't do anything further in the realm of cheating

>>18563889
This

>>18563858
baittttttttt

>>18563881
A lot of things..
He travels without me with his friends, hangs out with his friends and their gfs but can't invite me
Or have his friends hang with us, we don't live together and we beeen together for a long time, I got an abortion cuz he didn't want our kid.. Etc etc etc etx


>>18563889
I mean I easily could have cheated tons of times without him knowing.. I honestly had no Intention of meeting anyone - even if I was single I probably wouldn't have intentions to meet ppl off tinder unless I matched with someone I knew already and liked ..

>>18563894


Ya. I really love him but the fact I even made a tinder probably means we should break Up..

I feel like a bad person, I suould have just broke up with him when I was unhappy

>>18563901
lmao

>I didn't want to cheat with just anyone, I was just looking for an upgrade, nice chad should do!
That makes it so much better [spoiler]bait[/spoiler] :^)

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>>18563858
anyone who falls for it, kys

>>18563901
>>18563858
You went on and on about what you are NOT on Tinder for
So what are you on Tinder for?
Keep lying to yourself.

>>18563907
sage report this shit

>>18563901
why cant he invite you? is it because all his friends refuse to be around a baby killer?

>>18563906


Dude I wasn't gonna meet anyone from there I was just bored and lonely and was checking it out . Like whatever judge me idc desu

>>18563918
the bait just keeps on giving

>>18563912


I didn't wanna get it done. He had to Bring me four times and I cried each time and the ppl
Wouldn't let me. He ddint wanna take care of us and I would have nowhere to raise a kid , I fear being a single mom like my mom was.

I regret having abortion and it's made me suicidal, I'm really depressed from it so please don't make me feel like shit and judge me, you don't know my perspective

>>18563924
if being raised by a single mother is worse than being dead then why havnt you killed yourself?

>>18563941
Leave me alone. You need help. I was five weeks pregnant if I was any further I wouldn't do it. Telling a grown adult to kill herself is a lot worse than getting an abortion Bc you financially,and emotionally cannot raise a kid by yourself. M

Honestly leave me alone, I cry every day since the procedure. U don't know the life I've lived, and the fear i have of having children with someone who doesn't want them. I was renting a room and wouldn't be able to afford to live therre/noot allowed to have a baby there. Pls leave me alone ur really an awful
Person.

>>18563941
Also, 40% of woman have had one at some point, no on talks about it. So fuck off.

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>>18563858
Seriously, you are a shitty person. I hope you feel bad about yourself, I hope he finds out and dumps you, but I also hope you realize you are a shitty person and work on being a better one. This world would be a lot better if people started doing that.

>>18563924
Talking about your abortion on the internet. You are really fucked up. Go seek mental therapy.

>>18563858
3/10
good effort, poor execution

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>>18563918

You are literally monkey branching. You are sticking around your BF for the sake of being ina relationship and literally scouting for an upgrade. Suppose you did find someone who fit everything you were looking for? You would start chatting with him. "Nothing serious" because you dont want to cheat but you start building communications with his stranger. Meanwhile you start pushing your bf away more and more being a bitch to him. Eventually he gets fed up and reacts, and you go ahead and swing away to the next branch that youve been building up all this time.

Youre a cunt. Or at least your behaviour is, maybe you arent consciously aware that you are doing this and youre not a terrible person afterall. But this is textbook monkeybranching. You are only feeling guilt and stopping because you are now at risk of being caught and exposed for - you guessed it - monkey branching.

If you did nothing wrong, youd have nothing to worry about. But you are worrying - because you know what you did is wrong. My suggestion? Stop treating your bf as an accessory and have some damn morals. There is ZERO reason for you to be using a tinder account, thats inexcusable. You can come up with excuses why its ok, how you didnt mean it, how its nothing serious, how youd never cheat - its all fucking bullshit so cut the crap and take responsibility. The only reason to use tinder is to talk to other men.

Thats my take on it. Delete your tinder and stop monkey branching. Or dont, and continue acting like a cunt. You can get all huffy at me for rubbing your nose in this, but at the end of the day YOU fucked up and know it and came here for advice, so dont even bother. Be a better person, accept what you did is wrong, take accountability for it, and move on in the right direction.

>>18563982
I know I'm fucked up, it fucked me up, my relaronship gucked me up, I never used to be liek this he constantly lied to me and treated me bad, but I end up looking like that bad person Bc instead of leaving him I don't, I just hold on to a shitty relationship and start lying myself

U all can judge me but none of u t perfect either so fuck of .

>>18563989


I can see how that can happen and no i wasn't trying to do that. And I said I deleted the account right away and realized what I'd done.. And I felt so bad for it I wasn't sure if i should break up altogether and no I'm not going back on tinder aagain

>>18564000

What do you want then? Like what advice? We cant tell you the odds of his friend ratting you out, thats just stupid. We dont know him, we dont know your bf, we just dont know. No one here is going to hold your hand and say your behaviour was acceptable either, so looking for consolation here aint gonna fly.

So what do you want? How to proceed? Can you see your bf as someone you might marry one day? If not - breakup. If its a yes or a maybe - then stick it out and see how you feel. Communicate. If you dont like being left out from when your bf chills with people, tell him. If he blows you off, maybe thats not someone who you want to marry, and thus you go back to point 1 - breaking up.

Its all communication. You have needs and so does he. Communicate so you both are clear what they are. Are you compatible in what your needs are? If so, its a healthy relationship. If not, then see if you can find compromise that both people dont feel like they are settling with. If you cant - then its not a healthy relationship for one or both parties and you should breakup.

>>18564014


Basically yes im Judt paranoid and wanna know the odds of him finding out but I guess no one can tell me.

Do I see myself marrying him maybe. I really love him he just fucks up a lot, but I love him and can deal with it

>>18564025

So then you dont have any questions or any more advice you are seeking that can realistically be supplied.

>>18564041
I suppose

>>18563994
You need time to be single and think some shit out.

If not a troll, I sincerely hope you find peace and are comfortable with yourself so that later on, you'll find yourself someone who will respect your feelings and YOU respect him.

>>18563858
Thats what you get, honestly.

Do something thatll fuck you up if you get caught and you might get caught.

If its that bad you should have broken up with him.

No advice here can help. Hes going to find out or its going to blow over. But sounds like you need to split anyway.

>>18563951
>telling someone to kill themselves is worse than actually having someone innocent killed
Hmmm

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That's some spicy bait. Thanks OP.

>>18563901
>>18563858
this is exactly why I would never date a white girl lmao

>>18563858
OP, chill, you feel like he treated you unjust and influenced you on that abortion, you should have broken things off, instead of looking for attention and approval. Break it off now, even if you still hope he can truly love you. The profile can be a ghost profile, if you have ever been on tinder, the deleted profile might be reused.

>>18563858
bf or no bf women use tinder for one reason and its not to find a bf or a replacement bf its to get fucked and then they fish for another dick.

No decent woman would ever consider tinder an option.

>>18564025

Your boyfriend doesn't really sound like a good boyfriend the way you explained it but you're still a bitch for making a Tinder account and seeing what's out there before breaking up with him or talking to him about breaking up.

Talk to him and if you're not happy break it off.

Your relationship is over, looking for backups ins the truest indicator. For his sake and yours, end it now.

>>18563858
You're a whore. You deserve the worst.

>>18563889
>I ignore all the psots about men doing bad things but complain about women every chance I get

men

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>>18566861
>implying men and women are the same
>implying men and women follow the same sexual strategy