>friends with cool guy >start catching feelings >notthisshitagain.tiff

He is definitely wondering what's going on. You should tell him how you feel and that it is why you can't hang out with him anymore. At least for now until the feelings go away.

not homophobe or anything, but something I thought about when reading Carl Gustav Jung

Every personality has its shadow image. Maybe you're just confusing admiration for love. He has something that you feel like you're lacking yourself. Fall in love with the hidden potential in yourself, and keep your friend as a friend you admire.

>>18561340
>until the feelings go away
But do they really?

>>18561492
>homophobe
How does this statement make you a homophobe at all, anon?

And is that one of those "if you can't love yourself, you can't love others" cases, huh?
This is another reason why a relationship with this guy - or anyone else - would never work out. I know I'd just be using them because I can't love myself so I want them to do that for me.

And yet here I am, still feeling my chest tighten up and my stomach flip at this whole situation. I don't know man, maybe I have food poisoning or diarrhea.

When he asked you what was wrong what exactly did he say?

>>18561708
Shit like "you OK?", "I'm worried", and "Alright, something is definitely wrong. Tell me. Now. Is it work? Is it your family again?", shit like that.

I've been telling him I just feel sick/ill and shitty in general and not to worry but he's not buying it. I stopped replying at all.

>>18561743
At this rate you're going to lose him anyway, so you might as well get it off your chest.

>>18561681
>How does this statement make you a homophobe at all, anon?
Because I think it's more relevant to homosexuals than cis people. The shadow personality thing.

if hes a bro tell him, and he will help you over it. If he is not a bro, this is your chance to find out and loose all feelings for him in an instant.

>>18561331
This is my biggest problem with gay "friends" they always believe they can flip me. It must be a guy thing, straight or gay, to think being friends and hovering will somehow get them into a relationship with the object of their affection.

>>18561784
>>18561809
Hold up, hold up, hold up. Slow down.

I feel like you're under the impression that I'm a guy. I don't know how relevant it is, but I'm not a dude. I mean, considering the shit I do I'm more considered one of the boys than a girl, but still. Pretty sure I have three holes down there rather than two.

>>18561784
>>18561798
At this point I don't think I'm thinking about myself as much as I'm thinking about him, that's the thing. This guy still has got me a little respect in him left and I don't want to bother him with this wishy washy childish shit. If I was thinking only of myself I would have opened the floodgates on him right away.

Happened to me also. You just..tell him. Otherwise you are gonna suffer. Yourself first.

>>18561845
>I have three holes down there
you should do porn then

>>18561845
"big boy pants" and "gay shit feelings" but lets say you are biologically a female. Since you act like a bro how on earth could he ever dream you have girl feelings for him?

What you can do is tell him the truth. Say despite always being around guys you never, ever worried your vagina would interfere but it has with him and killing you inside.

>>18561845
>>18561917
Me also "big boy pants" and "gay shit feelings"

Tell him. It's actually good advice, since it'll make hun question his decision, and if being with you is a better choice, he'll actually have a choice. If you don't he'll be none the wiser, possibly end up with a girl who's not a perfect fit, and you'll have to suffer through not only missing him, but also regretting not telling him.

>>18561492

This. Having oneitis over a girl somewhat because of Jealousy. I wish I could be half as great as she is (see?)

And OP, tell him how you feel and that you need some time and space to let the feelings subside. Hanging out with him is the worst thing you can do to yourself.

>>18561331
Jesus Christ your behavior is fucking retarded. Fucking bring him over your place and then fuck his brains out.

If you're uncomfortable with that then just talk to him. Seriously worst case scenario you lose your friend. And you know what shit happens like that sometimes and it's ass. But this sort of retarded childish behavior you are doing will do nothing but annoy everyone around you. Grow up and communicate your feelings. That's why you have a mouth. And to suck dick but if he isn't into you then you won't have to worry about that. So just talk to him faggot.

Hur durr what if I ruin friendship. Sucks it happens. Get over it. Make new friends faggot

>>18562079
I didn't do this but I did start wearing makeup and bought new clothes and changed my hair and of course he asked what was up. I was somewhat coy and said I kinda liked a guy and if he could give me some tips. He playfully did but all pretty standard but I made him uncomfortable asking him to comment on my looks and body though he said I was cute and had a great body underneath all my boy clothes I typically wear. He still didn't bite or figure it out so I sent him a text later I was gonna shave my girly parts, is that something guys like. Uh yeah so I sent him three pics of me shaving mine. He stopped and I though shit I went too far but in 45 minutes he knocked on my door and said he wanted to see. He's mine, yeah.

>>18562199
For real op?

>>18562288
>Being this baited

>>18562288
For real. I couldn't believe I did it and had never nor since. I was miserable and desperate but I could also tell he was pleased with my makeover just struggling with thinking of me sexually so I put it in his face literally. Admit when I was shaving and thinking about him I was so turned on I said fuck it.

>>18561917
>>18562079
We've fooled around before. I told myself it was NSA.
Then overnight he breaks it off because he got a "serious" probably-illegal cp girlfriend pretty sure half his mates me included have seen her tits (didn't ask for, personally, dunno about the other niggers). And I'm like, yeah dude, now I definitely know I'm definitely not missing out on anything that worthy. Cheers man, may you both find happiness, but keep it 50feet away from me, and I may have lost a little respect for you, no offense.

And yet for some reason I realized it's not only my dick crying over the loss but also my feelings. As soon as he broke it off and then started talking about the things he and that girl do, I felt bile shoot up my throat and the realization just hit me. Too late.

Go fucking figure.

>>18562199
You're precisely the opposite of what I want to do/be. You do you, but I pray everyday I don't get involved with a man or woman who falls for shit like that.

>>18562001
I don't want to be in a relationship with this man. Nor anyone else for that matter, but ESPECIALLY this man after what I said above. At least my logical side doesn't.
And why are you implying I'm better than this girl?
Just because I dislike her it doesn't mean I'm better than her.

>>18562288
That's not me.

>>18562079
Childish?
If I was annoyingly childish, which, by the way, I am, but not as you describe it, I would freak out on him, piss myself, throw a tantrum, start some Mexican soap opera middle school drama, cry, and demand him to suck my weiner and dump filthy slut right now because my feelings are hurt boohoo.
It's precisely because of my rational adult side that I've been sucking it up. But I started to have huge doubts about it and need some insight, which is why I'm asking here for advice.

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At this point I'm most likely simply ranting and crying, but for some more insight:
I feel like someone will ask "why didn't you go for him earlier, while he was single?"
Because I am not mentally ready for a relationship. I am not mature, I am not healthy, I am not compatible with this guy, on and on. And he has his issues too. In the long term it would just be a self destructive toxic relationship. A massive fucking mess.

Also, his mate outed to him that I have feelings for him before even I knew if I did, myself, but he hasn't mentioned it other than a "it'd be too much work, no fucking way", which I don't know if it was jokingly or not.
Said mate also called me in wee hours of the morning telling me to stop trying to suck his cock and to forget about it because
>he would never be interested in you, he's not interested in relationships at all especially with girls younger than him, just give it up, trust me

Funny how that turned out.

And finally, I ain't some fucking rebound cuck, nigger. I may be shit, but I'm not gonna settle for shit either.

My point here is not whether I should go for this guy or not. I don't want to, at least my rational side doesn't want to, but the heart wants who it wants I guess.

My question is whether a, I should tell this guy how I really feel or should I simply keep some things left unknown and buried, and b, should I cut any ties with this dude or not, and if so should I do it permanently or not.

>>18562359
>For real. I couldn't believe I did it and had never nor since. I was miserable and desperate but I could also tell he was pleased with my makeover just struggling with thinking of me sexually so I put it in his face literally. Admit when I was shaving and thinking about him I was so turned on I said fuck it.
lol fuck off gaylord

>>18562756
Don't tell him; he probably knows already and is not interested, so just let him be. And I think in your situation cutting the contact for good would be the best.

>>18562776
If he already knows then why does he keep pressuring me and getting angry at me to say it myself then?
Is it sadism?

Well my personal experience is better to be crystal clear and feel like shit after if something bad happens than feel like shit anyways and always have to hide it. Got in a simular situation with a past friend that was a girl. She was about to break up with her current bf and started hinting at me that she liked me. I didn't do anything cause I thought she was better than me. Later on after she started going out with said guy I realised I did like her. Worst mistake after that is how I ghosted the fuck out of her until she no longer spoke to me, and we were best friends. I got over it, she got over it, but still. Do not do like I did and think it's fine and it'll blow over. Just deal with it. I felt my stomach turning and my chest tighten like you. It's not good

Slow the fuck down. You don't get to control the world, no matter how much you try, so how about live a little instead of just staying inside your head with that turbochatter.

People don't nag people they don't want to fall in love with about stuff they think might be wrong because they're sadists. They do it because they care and don't know the reason.