Why would someone still be with their boyfriend/girlfriend If

>>18553503
Because I'm in love with him. It's that simple.

>>18553503
When you invest so much into something you'll try close to everything to make it work.

>>18553503
I'd take a bullet for the person I care about. Why wouldn't you do anything to make shit work? One person in the relationship always tends to love the other more though.

>>18553503

The people in our lives often act as outlets for our dysfunction. If a wife stays with a man that beats her its not because he has some kind of special quality that outweighs his negative ones but rather because she has some kind of inner dysfunction that requires she relive this trauma over and over again. Who the guy is doesn't really matter so much as what kind of guy he is; what role he plays in her inner struggle of dependence.

If someone is really attracted to dysfunction the people they bring into their lives are usually just pawns in their psychological game of compensation. In order to compensate for an inability to accept something alternate realities are subconciously created to convince the person that change is not only unnecessary but dangerous. Dysfunctional relationships exist because of inner struggles, not outer ones. The person may claim that they stay because of love or hope but really its just because their brains aren't capable of letting go of their deeply ingrained behavioral patterns. Inflicting pain on oneself is often a comfortable alternative to trying to break out of the pattern and become a new person.

It is a well documented psychological phenomena that all of us participate in to some varying degree.

>>18553521
Hmm. I see. My friend is with this guy who has the attitude of a teenager. He'll make himself the victim and point to her for all the blame. He's even lacked wanting to spend time with her when she tries to hang out with him. She's done wrong in her part too and has apologized. Her boyfriend on the other hand never admits to anything.

>>18553538
sounds like my boyfriend.

>>18553531
I get that. I'm in love with someone who has used me sexually and fucked with me emotionally and mentally but I still care and love him. But to me I saw myself in him cause in a way he was like me. Although worse. And he has done good by me. I wish I stopped loving him romantically

>>18553538
Just sounds like your average run-of-the-mill immature relationship between two young people that lack any sort of communication, bottle their issues, and let them out in little bursts of aggression.

Both parties are entirely at fault none more than the other