>New relationship >Have sex often with him >It's

He is trying hard to make you cum, so he isnt relaxed. Maybe he needs to find a pose that suits him.

does he masturbate? when I'm hooking up with a girl I try not to masturbate, especially to porn, or else I can never cum during sex. blame the grip of death.

>>18551981
I've tried a ton of different positions and none of them work

I told him I don't really care about cumming and that it's about both of us enjoying it

I've tried tons of things, he won't even cum from blowjobs

>>18551989
it's very well possible you're just not physically attractive to him.

>>18551988
How would I even approach this in a new relationship? Won't it embarrass him?

>>18551993
I hate to be this way, but I'm not ugly at all

I'm not a model, but I'm attractive enough to get hit on regularly

>>18551994
you can ask to watch him jack off while you masturbate. if he can't even get himself off then there's not much hope for him getting off during sex. I'm not sure how you can ask him but whenever I take a week long break from sex or masturbating it takes very little to make me cum. if I'm jacking off every day though it's the opposite.

>>18552004
This just seems awkward, there has to be another way....

>>18551966
You sound fucking SPOT ON like my GF. Everything matches. You wouldn't be her by chance, would you?

>>18552014
I used to do that with my ex whenever she was on her period and horny. not everyone is into it but hey, whatever floats your boat.

>>18552023
I don't think my bf goes on 4chan, unless there's something I don't know

Does your name start with an S?

>>18552034
Nah. Anyways, because of how similar this is to our situation, and in in his spot, I will describe my situation:

I love my girlfriend (even if it has been only 2 months) and I put her cumming first. The problem is that I just can't seem to cum while having sex or her giving me but - I always have to finish myself off.

The advice I'd give is to try and see what makes him horny - ask him about some fetishes, preferences, foreplay he'd like to do, stuff like that.

Best of luck! (to both me and you, I guess)

>>18552047
What sucks is I do. I ask him what he likes and we do new things often
>Foot stuff
>Costumes
>Toys

>>18552047
Fuck i made a shit ton of grammatical mistakes, here's an attempt to correct them:

Both you and I*
Giving me BJ's*
, But I always finish myself off*

>>18552058
Hmm...

Maybe do the following: just lay down and tell him "do whatever you want with me. I'm all yours for your enjoyment"

>>18552068
I've done that
I feel like I've tried everything

I really don't feel like the relationship can last if he literally can't cum during intimate stuff
It's kind of a big deal to me

>>18552090
Does he masturbate? Ever?

Has he ever come close to cumming?

If it doesn't work after a while, maybe consider stop trying/breaking it off/ declaring an open relationship (regarding sex only). Otherwise I'm at a loss, I believe it'll get better, don't lose too much hope

>>18552102
He says he has cum from sex with his ex, but I don't really believe it at this point

>>18551993
In a new relationship there should be plenty of hormones being released. Even if this was true it wouldn't really be the cause until the honeymoon phase wears off at least.

>>18551989
>I told him I don't really care about cumming and that it's about both of us enjoying it
so what makes you think he doesnt enjoy it?

>>18552110
I want him to cum

That kind of enjoy

i find this hilarious cause men are so easy to please. are you ugly or something lol. he's probably just waiting for you to break up with him so he doesn't have to be the "bad guy"

>>18552114
>I want him to cum
>That kind of enjoy
you told us you dont mind not cumming yourself. what if he is the same?

sounds to me like your are being egoistic

>>18552124
OP, I'm sorry to say but this anon is right. Men are much easier to please than women. I can finish myself in 30 seconds when my masturbation schedule is running late.

personally had that guy situation, wasnt about anxiety at all but about condom, i simply feel nothing with it
doesnt work with bj/hj too? try ask him what he likes, if he's going through all the work to fuck you and not cuming he must be interested

>>18551966
Deathgrip perhaps?

>>18551966
Perhaps he doesn't want to risk having children ?

>>18551989
It's probably deathgrip. Ask him to show you how he jerks himself off so you are sure that you do it the most efficient way. If he does it very hard and really clamps down on his dick, he desensitized himself. The easiest way to cure this is to make him masturbate with a fleshlight, because it teaches him to get off on a sensation he doesn't have full control over and because it's softer than throttling it with a hand.

Having said that, the hard part is getting him to see that he needs to work on this to begin with.

Also for the people saying that he's just not attracted to you, you'd be able to tell from his struggles to get and keep an erection. Men are pretty simple to read in that regard. Dicks don't lie.

>>18551966
So basically he is a sixty minute man? Bitch why u be complaining?

>>18551998
>attractive to him
Means he's probably not into your type of body/face

>>18551981
To be fair I've only cum from blowjobs once out of a handful of girls. Most of the time they quit about 5 minutes in and didn't want to keep going.

>>18552124
this desu

ive had times where its like
>get home
>everyone gone
>text mom
>says she'll be home in 10 minutes
>load porn, jack off, clean up in that time

>>18552260
Oh my god, maybe he isn't attracted to me

He can get hard, but softens up a bit

Fuck

>>18552337
>>>It's fun and he always makes sure I cum

>made her cum 30 times
>still gets mad at me

>>18553186
Sorry, I have needs too. I physically cum but it's hard for me to feel satisfied if he doesn't get off too

>>18553175
Maybe he has ED, or really high blood pressure or something.
Maybe you could try a session where you restrain him and tease the shit out of him. Play to his sexual interests and incorporate a sexy costume and use some toys (not sure what kind of toys he likes). Tease him by changing up what you're doing to him, and by making him watch you. Then beg him to fuck the shit out of you....that would work for me anyway.

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>>18551966
He is on meds that make cumming difficult (SSRI shit), or he just doesn't find you attractive sexually. He probably loves the fuck out of you, but I had this same problem with my girlfriend because she was just such a fucking boring lay and a little to curvy for my tastes. Best of luck!