I date people who are mildly to moderatly bad for me. I am "self

>>18538665

some people just have strong emotions, and no matter who you date you're just going to feel really strong about it. ever read 'the little prince?' one of the big ideas behind the book is that the little prince has this beautiful rose that he grew him self, and the rose is kind of a bitch cuz it can talk, but he doesn't mind because its so beautiful.

then he comes to earth and he finds a bush full of roses and asks what the hell thats all about, and his earth friend explains that roses are all over the earth. the little prince becomes depressed because he realizes his rose isn't special, there are millions just like it all over the earth.

but by the end of the story he realizes it IS special because of all the time and effort and energy he put into it. other roses might be kinder or nicer or even more beautiful, but none could ever have the importance of his because of how much time he put in to it.

basically the whole things just a metaphor for why relationships are special to us individually.

either way, therapy can help you but its not entirely necessary. willpower ot turn down people who are just bad for you is the best solution but therapy can help you achieve that too. you're less likely to cave in with a therapist asking about it every week